I need honest opinions

[Medusa]

Mary,

I'm proud of you for going with your instincts. They will never let you down.

Yes, it's when I haven't listened to my instincts that I've regretted it. He hasn't contacted me, so he knows I'm on to him. Who knows what kind of intrigue and/or danger I may have avoided.

[carole]

IMO you did the right thing, you showed him you are no push-over, good on you and yes you cannot be too careful these days,yes he could be genuine,but honestly i don't think he was.

[Rachel]

Actually, maybe this little episode was a good thing as it quickly brought to your attention what kind of person he is. What a jerk for not emailing you immediately (and apologizing) when he got home!

[kimlovescats]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

[Catlady711]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

I totally agree with you. Information is very easy to come by online with just a little bit of searching. And yes unfortunately there are too many creeps out there. *shivers*

[Catty1]

Rachel:

What a jerk for not emailing you immediately (and apologizing) when he got home!

Hey, give the buy a break. He's crawled back under his rock, and there's no ROOM for a computer in there! Sheesh!

[Medusa]

That concerns me that your phone number is on your website. All you have to do nowdays is type in a phone number online and you can get the address. Then you can type in an address and get an aerial map to your home! Also, how do you know for certain that he really drove 45 minutes to meet you? I don't mean to freak you out over this but please be careful ... too many creeps out there!!!

I know, all of the things that you mentioned concerned me, too, but my office is in my home again, so when I meet w/clients, I have to give them directions to my home anyhow. The phone number that he gave me is in an area code that's 40 minutes away. Maybe the phone number is as phony as he is, I don't know. But I haven't heard word one from him since the incident so even if he was legit, his lack of class isn't what I would want in a man.

[jennielynn1970]

Thank you for that. I don't feel so smart right now but I'll take the funny and beautiful part.

Well, if you look like your pic in your avatar, I'm shocked that you would be at a loss for wonderful dates. You are gorgeous! Plus you are sweet and kind. You deserve the very best, and I hope you hold out for that!

[Medusa]

Well, if you look like your pic in your avatar, I'm shocked that you would be at a loss for wonderful dates. You are gorgeous! Plus you are sweet and kind. You deserve the very best, and I hope you hold out for that!

Well, thank you, Jenn. I haven't changed much since that photo except to get older. And I guess because I'm older, I have zero tolerance for nonsense from men. I don't date much any more because the men my age that I've dealt with have been looking for a mother. I have a son, he's a darned good one, and I don't need another one. A partner would be nice but I'm not looking any more. The only reason I agreed to meet this guy in the first place was because he kept asking and it was during the time that my son was so sick and my heart just wasn't in it. After the tide had turned w/my son, I agreed to meet him, to my detriment. Lesson learned, though. Ya don't know til ya try, right? I'm not as fortunate as some people but I'm more fortunate than many, so I'm grateful for every lesson that I've learned, tough as though some of them have been.

[Grace]

I The phone number that he gave me is in an area code that's 40 minutes away. Maybe the phone number is as phony as he is, I don't know. But I haven't heard word one from him since the incident so even if he was legit, his lack of class isn't what I would want in a man.

Have you tried doing a reverse phone search to see if that number is listed under his name? Of course, if it's unlisted the name wouldn't show up.

Don't know if 411.com works the same in Canada.

[Medusa]

Have you tried doing a reverse phone search to see if that number is listed under his name? Of course, if it's unlisted the name wouldn't show up.

Don't know if 411.com works the same in Canada.

No, I haven't cuz I honestly do not care. I'm glad to be rid of him. As someone here said: I dodged a bullet.

[Catty1]

Just for information - in the USA go to whitepages.com and click on Reverse.

[phesina]

I think you handled this entire situation just right, Mary.

And since you haven't heard from him since, good riddance!

[RICHARD]

Love takes time

Brits take an average of 22 dates, three one-night stands and three long-term relationships before settling down, says a new poll.

Couples revealed how long it had taken to find The One for entertainment website BT PodShow.

Some needed as many as 50 dates with potential partners. And nine per cent reckon it takes at least ten one-night stands.

Talking regularly and an active sex life were what people were looking for.

Poor personal hygiene, no sense of humour and being bad in bed were the biggest turn-offs, the poll found.

The good news for those still searching is this weekend is the best chance of the year to banish those single days.

Relationship expert Jo Hemmings said: "The four-day Bank Holiday gives us double the free time of a normal weekend, so double the chances to enjoy ourselves and find love.

"And the onset of spring, a full moon and an abundance of chocolate Easter eggs will all play their part."
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And not a mention of a forgotten wallet!

[gini]

Richard is so right. If he had only brought chocolate - even if he did forget his wallet - chocolate - that would have gotten to me. (just kidding).

Oh, or PEEPS!!