i need to get this out

[Catty1]

I am not posting them here, but have PMd them to Gayle, and to several others here who have said they have "been there".

Let's just say this started in December of 2005 - and advice certainly was solicited after that.

Prayers for Gayle.

[ramanth]

So many prayers for you Gayle.

[cyber-sibes]

Adding my prayers for you. You do not deserve to be beaten, thrown, or belittled. You are not his punching bag. I fully agree with Catty1, too - get yourself to Alanon. It's free, and it will help you in ways you cannot even fathom right now. I hope you consult with a lawyer, a psychologist, & a trusted spiritual guide too, to help you decide what to do next.

[Animalhouse26]

Wow, I am just catching this. I am soo Sorry ure going through this. I have too.. been through this.. It is NOT A good thing! I Left him,and Have not talked to him Since! IT was a BAD Situation.. and NO ONE that knew him.. EVER Would have thought of him doing that! So, I wouldn't take his Word for it. And It sounds like this isn't the first time! If you need anyone to talk to.. Feel Free to PM me. You are in my thoughts!

[robinh]

I, too have been there. He promised a lot of things afterwards. I know now that I didn't deserve what happened to me, but he convinced me it was all my fault.

I haven't spoken to him in years; nor will I if I have anything to say about it. It's like Animalhouse26 says - no one would ever have believe that he could do such a thing.

Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. If you need to talk, PM me.

[loveallfurryfriends]

I just caught this post, I am so sorry that this is happening to you. I just want you to know that there IS better life out there for you. Leave-- he is probably not going to change, you do not have to live like this. No man ever has the right to beat you, drunk or not. Please know that I'm praying for you. I know that there are others here who have been through this, they can point you in the right direction. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

[jennielynn1970]

Anyone hear of any current updates?? Things tend to escalate in these matters, not get better, unfortunately.

[pitc9]

I keep coming back to post but never know what to say, I don't feel right telling her things that I should be doing as well.

So for now Gayle... do I as I say and not as I do....

Sure.. it will get better... then it will go back to the same ****. Time after time after time. It is a loosing battle, but you don't have it fight it alone.

The first thing you need to do is LEAVE!

{{HUGS}}

[dukedogsmom]

I, too, was married to an ***. I didn't receive physical but there was lots of verbal abuse and he was very controlling. Duke and his poor dog received lots of physical violence. It made me sick. Made me feel like a coward because I couldn't protect them, like I allowed it. Please realise it's not your fault. I hope you can find the courage and strength to get out of this. There should be a shelter in your area that will allow you and your animals. Do you have any friends or family that can help? Please check in with us.

[loveallfurryfriends]

Just checking in. Just want Gayle to know that she is in my thoughts.

[micki76]

Gayle, I know we don't know each other, but you have to make this stop. Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

PLEASE get help before something horrible happens.

[jennielynn1970]

Has anyone heard from Gayle?? I'm hoping she's ok. I'm worried since she hasn't posted in days!

[Catty1]

I still have an unconfirmed PM receipt for a message I sent her about the time she first posted here.

I hope she is busy getting herself out of there...but lately when I hear the Calgary news and a body is discovered, I shudder. They've all been male, so far...

I have one remote possible connection I can try...Gayle has put up with this for a few years - I hope she gets out for good this time.

[Twisterdog]

Abusers RARELY stop the abuse, even if the addiction (in this case drinking) stops. Alcohol doesn't make him hurt you, he does that because there's something wrong inside him. The alcohol simply unleashes the monster within. And it's likely that he will become MORE abusive without it.

Excellent point. Very true.

[Catty1]

Gayle, PLEASE check in. We're worried!