i want your take on relationships

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by Oggyflute
Kari this guy sounds really good.

Thanks! I'm glad you posted your opinion! I knew the women would have something to say, and, I'm grateful for the advice and stories. But, hearing from a man's point of view, too, is always helpful. And, he's not a messy person, really, he just tends to toss his clothes. And, he's a mechanic (technician), so, he gets really dirty, but, he's very clean outside of work. I'll keep you guys all posted, for sure, about how this goes. Of course, I'll probably say a lot if it works out, and, not so much if it doesn't. Ha ha, but, either way, I've already told him, I'll never regret meeting him because he's already taught me so much. One question I thought of last night, after we talked, was, that if I ever thought we needed to, would he be willing and receptive to counseling? I have seen counseling work wonders for a person and a couple, and, god forbid we hit bumps so big we can't make it ourselves, I'd be 100% for going for help. It's important to me that he be willing to, as well.

[Corinna]

After 26 years of being married to th same guy, I say you are doing this just right. We dated for 3 years before we got married. Then were married for 3 years before kids. Nothing wrong at all in going slow. My hubby has never been the neatest of floks but I haven't either . But we have worked out a kind of way to get around it all. He at least gets the clothes in one pile so I can pick up the pile for washing.
I think you sound like your in the best place on this. Just remember to use your head not your heart or hormones , those can't be trusted. Good luck

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by Corinna
Just remember to use your head not your heart or hormones , those can't be trusted. Good luck

Thank you! Although I do tend to listen to my heart, I am using my head as well. I usually tend to overanalyze things, and, it's bitten me right in the butt before. So, most of my friends and family are telling me not to use my head as much as I usually do. Ha. But, I think I have a good balance with this one. If this fails, it'll be because it's not meant to be, not from any fault of mine. I'm trying my best! I'm not going with my hormones, though, I know that for sure. If it was all hormones with Ben, this long distance thing would have already failed. Thanks again, everyone, for sharing!

[finn's mom]

Originally posted by luckies4me
By the way, I want a ticker.

They're easy to make! I just clicked on someone else's ticker here in pet talk and went from there.

[RobiLee]

This has been a very good thread. I have enjoyed reading it and all the advice. I have been married for 22 years and I think everyone has touched on anything that I may be able to add. It sounds like you are really in touch with your feelings and know what you are doing. Also sounds like you are very much in love . I am wishing you all the best!

Robin

[Oggyflute]

Kari, just one more thing. It sometimes isn't neccessary to over analyze everything. One of the joys in a relationship is discovering things together. If you guys truly love each other, then when a situation arises, it will be worked out. A Q & A brief at the start is not totally needed. Deep down you know he is a good person, and you would know that he will always talk to you, support you, and love you.
Sometimes that's all that's needed.

[finn's mom]

Thanks again, guys! And, yeah, this has been a great thread! I know what you're saying, oggyflute, about not overanalyzing it. It's a problem i've always had, and, am working on it this time! I do worry too much, and, ben has already pointed it out. I told him to help me by just telling me when I'm overdoing it. Again, thank you all so much! Keep the advice and stories coming!