A plea to PTers

[Oggyflute]

I appreciate that people are reading and getting something out of this thread again, however I'd request please to not turn THIS thread into an argument or finger-pointing thread. This thread is about taking personal responsibility for how each of us individually reacts. We can't always point fingers somewhere else, we must each take responsibility for how we react and how we post. That is where a good board atmosphere starts. If we can all work towards this goal, there will be less need for moderation intervention anyway .

Well said, mate I feel you are as wise as the man you quote in your sig.

[finn's mom]

This thread shouldn't be sullied by arguments or finger pointing. I do know that Karen and Paul do their best by us. I also think that there are a lot of threads that go too far, but, just as in the thread in Dog General now, there are several people that don't think the thread needs to be locked. Just because even the majority of folks think a thread should be locked, doesn't necessarily mean that it will be. And, it's not necessarily because Karen isn't "doing her job" and locking the thread...it could be because she might not agree that it needs to be locked. I'm only speculating here, but, again...check out the thread in Dog General, there are several that don't think it should be locked at all. Maybe Karen feels the same way about it. I think Karen and Paul are excellent moderators and feel that they do a superb job in keeping this place pleasant.

[wolf_Q]

If you feel like my post is "finger pointing" I'm sorry I don't want to disturb this thread so I will delete my comment, though I still stand behind what I said.

[gini]

Beautifully expressed - and 100% correct. Thank you!

[cyber-sibes]

Wise words! I feel the same way.

[finn's mom]

I feel like this needs to be brought back to the surface again. There are just so many things that are said to people in here that if the people were face to face, they would never be so brazen or hateful. It saddens me to see usually nice people say such mean things. That's why there are private messages, and, I really wish people would use them more. And, if someone disagrees with me posting this and pulling this thread up again, please use the private message function to tell me all about it, because I don't want to see this thread turn into something other than what it's meant to be - a reminder to be kind.

[anna_66]

I feel like this needs to be brought back to the surface again. There are just so many things that are said to people in here that if the people were face to face, they would never be so brazen or hateful.

Kari thanks for bumping this up. I've been noticing that people have been getting pretty nasty again here lately and it really saddens me
Pet Talk has always been a place I can go to get away from the world of rude, nasty and mean people...but not here as of late, guess that's why I haven't been around much.
I hope this reminds everyone how much PT and the members here mean to each other.

[Roxyluvsme13]

I'm sorry to anyone I've ever been nasty to.

[poofy]

You are so right..I like that, if you cant say something nice , dont say any thing. Great POst..

[cyber-sibes]

Nicely said!

[BC_MoM]

Great post, Jess. I know I am guilty of this lately - but only because I will not let myself be put down in front of others.

[Jessika]

Especially since I'm schooling to become a vet tech, I have to teach myself restraint and to exert professionalism at all times. This is a great place to practice.

I admit sometimes I've played into threads just for the drama, because let's face it, I'm a pretty forward person with my opinions.

But I think what also helps is to put yourself in their shoes; if that were you, what responses would you react the best to? Accusations and harsh words only turn people away; but polite and soft spoken advice people generally tend to listen to and lean toward. Nobody wants to be told they are wrong! Instead of pointing fingers and making accusations, educate! Suggest a different method; suggest educational sites so they can learn on their own to make their own decision on a topic rather than just telling them what's "right" and what's "wrong".

Education is key.

[Daisy and Delilah]

Very well said and I thank you too. I wish I would have seen this earlier but I'm glad I found it now.

Terry

[Soapets]

Good idea---I agree 100%.

[catnapper]

Beautifully put. Words to live by.