Can anyone possibly understand???

[catlady1945]

I miss my big guy, Ella, who passed away 16 years ago and my beloved Patty a year and a half ago. Life goes on, however, and we found that adopting other homeless cats has helped immeasurably. We treasure the memories of our dear companions and we know that our lives have been enriched by having them with us.

[Cataholic]

Kim,
Nothing really helps. The passage of time does ease the pain, I promise you. It takes awhile, and days like this one will end, and the distance between them will grow. Hang in there, as it does pass.
Johanna

[catmandu]

Sometimes I think,that losing a Pet,is as hard as losing a Friend,or Family member.As there is often a feeling of guilt,as many times,I have been,at the Vet,and three times,I authorized,the death,of a Cat.And the decision,is rarely there with people,and they get,the best care possible,until they pass,on.But ,with Pets,the life,or death,is in our hands,and I think,that we second guess ourselves,as we are responsible,for our Pets health,and feel,like failures,if they,like BJ,just collapsed.I still ask myself,how I missed,that he was so ill.And we are around our Pets,more often,that we are around loved ones,and there is that bond,between Pets,and Humans,that is so intense,more than people,in a lot of cases.

[rg_girlca]

Quoted by kimlovescats
I know everyone here is probably sick of hearing this and may not understand.

Oh Kim, sweetie. don't even think this. Obviously from all the replies that you have received so far, you can clearly see that we DO understand.

I think the "Remember Me Always" that Kuhio98 posted, summed it up well.

It hasn't been all that long since the passing of your beloved Tucker and it is only normal that you are going to have days like this, but it well get easier as time goes on.

The main thing, is to get over the guilt that is bringing you down to an all time low. Kim, you could not have known the outcome of Tucker. I don't know much about FIP, but please take in what others have said in regards to it. IT WAS NOT YOU FAULT!

I won't get into the guilt that I had felt for quite some time when my RB Captain died in my arms in 1988, but I can truly tell you my dear that it will get better with time.

((((((HUGS)))))) to you dear friend. Please take care of yourself.

[shais_mom]

I am so sorry for you're pain Kim. It breaks my heart.
I have no advice just that time does ease the pain. I still have major anger and grief issues over my Grandma passing away last year, while some days are better then others, not a day goes by I don't think of her.
{{Hugs to you}}

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kim, I understand what you're going through and I'm so sorry to hear that you're still having such a difficult time. I really don't have any advice for you except that time will help you heal. It's been 2 years since the passing of my Pepper and I still miss him terribly. I look forward to seeing him again some day. Please take care. {{{HUGS}}}