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**shais_mom** · 09-03-2004, 06:04 AM

The only people that should be blamed are the ones not sending.
It hurts me that people would sign up and not send. It just makes my stomach hurt. I was sweating bullets that I would send mine late and I think I sent over a week before it was due.
I feel so bad for the ones not getting anything, I want to send them something. It's like buying Christmas presents for someone and not getting anything back.
Teenster, I didn't think at all that you intended to hurt anyone. I know that I myself would be so hurt and upset if I would have that happen to me. I spent a lot of time and money myself finding things for both swaps. And I know both times they were greatly appreciated.
Maybe its just me being a vindicitive $itch but I myself think that making it public is a good idea. :embarrassed:

**shais_mom** · 09-03-2004, 06:05 AM

The only people that should be blamed are the ones not sending.
It hurts me that people would sign up and not send. It just makes my stomach hurt. I was sweating bullets that I would send mine late and I think I sent over a week before it was due.
I feel so bad for the ones not getting anything, I want to send them something. It's like buying Christmas presents for someone and not getting anything back.
Teenster, I didn't think at all that you intended to hurt anyone. I know that I myself would be so hurt and upset if I would have that happen to me. I spent a lot of time and money myself finding things for both swaps. And I know both times they were greatly appreciated.
Maybe its just me being a vindicitive $itch but I myself think that making it public is a good idea.

**micki76** · 09-03-2004, 08:42 AM

Originally posted by jazzcat
I have to add my final comments on this. I think shais_mom is on to something about youth and parental consent. I think for future gift swaps there should be an age limit, although hard to impose, so that we don't run into a situation where an underage person signs up without the permission or funds to participate. It's not fair.

IMO, I don't think parental consent is going to force someone to send, but I do think an age limit should be strictly enforced. I think it would be fairly easy to do, since we all know pretty much an approximate age for most members. Most have friends that know their age. I also think, as Amy said, that you should be required to be a member for a certain amount of time, and an active, productive member at that. By that I mean not someone who signs in once a month to post about how crummy their life is or something, but someone who is involved in PT at least weekly.

Staci, I don't think it's vindictive at all. I would personally like to know about people who are capable of screwing someone in such a way.

I like to be aware of people like that. They obviously have no conscience about their actions and I'd like to know to stay away from and when to watch my back.

**anna_66** · 09-03-2004, 08:46 AM

Originally posted by shais_mom

I feel so bad for the ones not getting anything, I want to send them something. It's like buying Christmas presents for someone and not getting anything back.
Teenster, I didn't think at all that you intended to hurt anyone. I know that I myself would be so hurt and upset if I would have that happen to me. I spent a lot of time and money myself finding things for both swaps. And I know both times they were greatly appreciated.

Staci, these were my thoughts exactly!!!

**swimma253** · 09-03-2004, 09:05 AM

I feel bad for the people who did not recieve their Gift Swaps yet. I know that if it was me... I would be very upset.

BUT I do not think that anyone should be blamed except the person who was supposed to send the gift, like shais_mom stated earlier.

I am a little upset about the age limit though, because I have a feeling that IF there is one, it will be at least over 13... which I am 13.

I was looking forward to participating in future gift swaps. But hey... its for the best.

Then again... maybe it will be 13 and up.

Carly

**wolfie** · 09-03-2004, 09:37 AM

Originally posted by wolf_Q
Who still hasn't recieved?

I think it's teenster, heinz, cincy's mom, and me.

**dukedogsmom** · 09-03-2004, 10:50 AM

I don't think there should be an age limit. I know of teenagers who are very responsible. Adults can be irresponsible. I agree that they should be an active member of PT and we will know about their character, for the most part anyway, from reading their posts. I would love to send some to all the people that haven received, also. Maybe we each could buy one item?

**jazzcat** · 09-03-2004, 10:57 AM

Originally posted by wolfie
I think it's teenster, heinz, cincy's mom, and me.

I don't think Catmandu has received his yet. I believe he didn't get one last time either so lets hope lightening doesn't strike twice for him.

I didn't mean we should require parental consent forms to be signed - they can be faked. I just meant an age restriction should be required so you don't have to deal with kids who sign up without their parents knowing and then the parents don't let them participate. I know that my parents would have been furious at me if I'd signed up, committed (probably their money) and gave my personal information (full name and address) to strangers on the internet. That's why I think it would be a good idea to have an age restriction.

Staci and Micki - I'm with you guys that those who didn't send should be outed when it looks for certain that they aren't going to send anything.

**dukedogsmom** · 09-03-2004, 11:01 AM

I know of one person whose family has been having a difficult time right now. Their situation changed since they signed up for the swap. I know for a fact that they didn't do this on purpose because they participated in a swap before. I don't think they should be exposed just because something bad happened and they couldn't buy it by the time limit.

**Logan** · 09-03-2004, 11:18 AM

Originally posted by dukedogsmom
I know of one person whose family has been having a difficult time right now. Their situation changed since they signed up for the swap. I know for a fact that they didn't do this on purpose because they participated in a swap before. I don't think they should be exposed just because something bad happened and they couldn't buy it by the time limit.

Maybe that person could consider sending what they received on to the person they were responsible for, if that's the case, Val. (That might mean sending back what they received). Or at least, hopefully, they will communicate directly with the person who was to receive their gift and they can send it later.

One reason that I didn't participate this time is that I was late sending my gift last time.

I let the recipient know in plenty of time, but I was still embarassed about it. As much as I love these swaps, I am one of those irresponsible adults, I fear, and end up being late almost every time!!!!

**shais_mom** · 09-03-2004, 12:34 PM

No Logan there is a difference in sending late and not sending at all!
Personally, I will be very upset if catmandu doesn't receive again!

That would be awful! Not that is any different then any other person not getting their gift - but TWICE?

**lovemyshiba** · 09-03-2004, 01:11 PM

Originally posted by Logan
Maybe that person could consider sending what they received on to the person they were responsible for, if that's the case, Val. (That might mean sending back what they received). Or at least, hopefully, they will communicate directly with the person who was to receive their gift and they can send it later.

I think that would be a great idea Logan! The only problem I can forsee with that, is that if he or she had dogs like mine, and they destroyed half of the toys already

**CamCamPup33** · 09-03-2004, 03:03 PM

I didn't send or recieve one, because i didn't participate. But i just wanted to say i don't think their should be an age limit. Someone could be 11 year's old and be extremely responsible, and send and also recieve one. It's not the age -- It's the people.

Sorry.

**wolfsoul** · 09-03-2004, 06:53 PM

I don't think my person has recieved her's yet. She should have recieved it a few weeks ago. If she did, she never thanked me for it or posted a thread...