Are (or were) your parents strict on your grades?

[Cataholic]

I lived with my dad until I was 16...and he was VERY strict. Then, I moved in with mom, and she wasn't very strict. Consequently, I didn't do that well.

I went on to college, and really, outside of my major, I didn't do very well.

Then, in law school, I did pretty well.

While grades are A measure of something, they really aren't telltale, in my opinion. WAY more important is what you learn, and I think a voracious reader will go further in life than the 'straight A' student....

(maybe I say that since I didn't do that well in school, and read ALL the time???)

[2kitties]

Cat, I understand what you say, but I think "good grades" are relative. You may not have the grades you considered to be high, but I am certain that had you not been a good student with good marks, then you would not suffix with esq.

But then again, what do you call the medical school graduate with the worst grades?


Doctor.

[wolfsoul]

Originally posted by Cataholic
I lived with my dad until I was 16...and he was VERY strict. Then, I moved in with mom, and she wasn't very strict. Consequently, I didn't do that well.

While grades are A measure of something, they really aren't telltale, in my opinion. WAY more important is what you learn, and I think a voracious reader will go further in life than the 'straight A' student....

I do the exact oppisite lol. My mom isn't strict, but boy does she get mad at me if I fail something. I have that regular teenage *gotta do the oppisite of what they want* attitude.

I agree that a person's intelligence shouldn't be based on grades. Look at Einstien. He failed math lol.

[tikeyas_mom]

Originally posted by wolfsoul
I do the exact oppisite lol. My mom isn't strict, but boy does she get mad at me if I fail something. I have that regular teenage *gotta do the oppisite of what they want* attitude.

I agree that a person's intelligence shouldn't be based on grades. Look at Einstien. He failed math lol.

he was also dyslexic ..

[cali]

lol only if you call this strict

dad: "what did you get in siance on your report card shayna?"
me: "54%"
dad:"AWSOME, congrats! why dont I take you out to eat as a congradulataions!"

however I go to a univarsity prep school, we do first year univarsity work by grade 11, and the teacher expect to much, my parents know that so they dont expect high grades in a school like that. my math teacher on the other hand.... well if you get less then 99% on an exam you fail, and you had better get ready to repeat the class I acualy had to write a note to my mom about why I only got a 76% on a math exam once, and bring it back signed lol my mom was like "thats BAD?" and signed it like whatever. lol

[K9karen]

This is still embarrasing, even at my age..
Even in grammar school I had a severe math problem. Now I realize it was a sort of Number dyslexia. A's and B's in Jr High with everything but..you guessed it, math. In high school, I had a math tutor for 2 years and barely got by. Geometry almost was the death of me. I easily passed History and English courses. I carry a calculator for anything having to do with numbers. My parents knew I was doing my best. the teachers always wanted to see them becuase they thought I forged signatures on failing math tests, but they hepled and supported me. I just had/have a mental block. My brain goes dead. As smart as I was in everything else, having poor math skills ruined my SAT scores for college. I always wanted to go into medicine..human or vet. But I found my niche in something else and did great for 32 years. Until I got laid off.

[wolfsoul]

Originally posted by K9karen
This is still embarrasing, even at my age..
Even in grammar school I had a severe math problem. Now I realize it was a sort of Number dyslexia. A's and B's in Jr High with everything but..you guessed it, math. In high school, I had a math tutor for 2 years and barely got by. Geometry almost was the death of me. I easily passed History and English courses. I carry a calculator for anything having to do with numbers. My parents knew I was doing my best. the teachers always wanted to see them becuase they thought I forged signatures on failing math tests, but they hepled and supported me. I just had/have a mental block. My brain goes dead.

That sure sounds like me. I'll push my brain until it litterally hurts. I had a tutor last year, and still only got 53% in math. I only passed because I got 64% on my final exam. If I would have gotten lower...Well, I guess I'd be in math 10 this year.

That's why I really need to pass this year, so that I don't have to take math next year. Of course, I only have 13% in math right now, so that isn't exactly passing... I can't wait until they switch my teacher.

[G.P.girl]

when i went to hungarian schools i went to see a tutor every day after school, and i was there for 2-2 1/2 hours, but i still couldn't get better than B' and C's in core subjects.adn i hadn't gotten a B or higher in math since 3rd grade. but now that we're back in america and i don't have a tutor bothering me everyday i have a 3.9 Gpa. it might be that i was used to the american stlye of learning and that's why i didn't do so well in hungarian schools...i'm not really sure. but i've always had problems with math. it's like i kind of understand, but it's just out of my grasp. does anybody know what i'm talking about?

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by 2kitties
Cat, I understand what you say, but I think "good grades" are relative. You may not have the grades you considered to be high, but I am certain that had you not been a good student with good marks, then you would not suffix with esq.

Really, I didn't do very well in high school or college. But, I agree that good grades are 'relative'. I think good grades mean you pay attention, can memorize (if not actually learn), are in school most of the time, do well on tests, etc. BUT, they are not the indication of future life champions...I would rather see my child maintain a "C" average, participate in sports (one at a time), read every night, and have conversational skills than overachieve in school.

I see these brainy kids today...and they can't hold a conversation with anyone, don't have any table skills, act about 10 years younger than they are, AND couldn't run to the front door unless it is to open it for the pizza guy.....

[Prairie Purrs]

Originally posted by Cataholic
I think good grades mean you pay attention, can memorize (if not actually learn), are in school most of the time, do well on tests, etc. BUT, they are not the indication of future life champions...

Well, I'd say it's more complicated than that. A good grade in a well-taught class generally means the student has learned something. If the teacher is lazy, or "teaching to tests" because of political pressure placed on the school and faculty, a good grade may not mean much at all.

Also, good grades may indicate more about future success if the student has to work to get the grades. "A"s may not be much of a success predictor for a kid with a 150 IQ who can pass a final exam after sleeping through class the entire term. But where a student has to employ good work habits to get high grades, those habits tend to carry over into the real world.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by CatsinDenver
Well, I'd say it's more complicated than that. A good grade in a well-taught class generally means the student has learned something. If the teacher is lazy, or "teaching to tests" because of political pressure placed on the school and faculty, a good grade may not mean much at all.

Also, good grades may indicate more about future success if the student has to work to get the grades. "A"s may not be much of a success predictor for a kid with a 150 IQ who can pass a final exam after sleeping through class the entire term. But where a student has to employ good work habits to get high grades, those habits tend to carry over into the real world.

More complicated than that? Do ya think? I was talking in general terms....and, since most of public education today is 'teaching to tests'....well, I think it is more on the mark than not.

I stand by my statement. Good grades are not indicators of future champions. Good grades are just that, good grades. I am proof of that.

[ramanth]

My parents were a little strict. I mean, they wanted us to do good, but they never grounded us for bad grades.

I usually got A's and B's (more B's than A's actually). I loved class and learning... I'm just not a very good test taker. That was my weakness. I love History but I can't remember dates to save my life. Math was also a hard subject for me. I usually squeaked by with C's. My only D was in Chemistry.

My parents understood this and helped when they could.

I averaged around a 3.0 in HS and College. Hell, it took me 4 semesters before I finally passed a college algebra class. Basic algebra at that.

[babolaypo65]

While my parents were pretty strict, for me good grades were a means to an end... a scholarship. I desperately wanted to go to college (no one ever had in my family) and the only way that was going to happen was to get a scholarship. I didn't always learn a lot in high school, which I regret, but then I WAS a teenager. But I did get the scholarship, and managed to keep it through college. Thank goodness. I learned so so so much in college....really helped me catch up.

[Prairie Purrs]

Originally posted by Cataholic
I stand by my statement. Good grades are not indicators of future champions. Good grades are just that, good grades. I am proof of that.

Good grades, however, open doors that bad grades do not.

In my case, outstanding high school grades (plus a high ACT score) got me into a very good college. The mere fact that I had attended that particular college got me my first job as a radio newscaster--the station manager didn't even look at my resume, but hired me as soon as I told him where I went to school.

When I decided to go to law school, my grades brought me scholarships that made it possible. And my law school grades resulted in offers from firms that wouldn't have looked at me if I'd been ranked lower in the class.

Good grades may not guarantee championhood--but bad grades can sink your chances.

[2kitties]

Originally posted by CatsinDenver
Good grades may not guarantee championhood--but bad grades can sink your chances.

No one could have said it better CID. Excellent point.