I need advice!

[Pam]

Listen to what you yourself said about Bob:

ever since then "BOB" has been mean to me. now all of a sudden hes being nice. "GEORGE" has always been nice to me.


Trust me when I tell you this guy is just BAD NEWS! Also, even if he was the nicest guy on the earth what he is suggesting is immoral and illegal. End of my lecture, but I hope you take some of these responses to heart. Most of us are a lot older than you are (I certainly am! ) and know what we are talking about!

[babolaypo65]

Sweety, He may know a bit about you, but what we are saying is it's still creepy. Everyone of us on here would RUN away from this man. Do you really want to be with a man that EVERYONE thinks is disgusting? And a man that you KNOW in your heart doesn't love you? or even like you? He's MEAN to you. That's all we are saying. We aren't trying to put you down at all.

HE DOESN't LOVE YOU. He wants to have sex ON you, not WITH you. He doesn't care how you feel about it (yes, we are sure). You deserve to be loved by the first man you have sex with. (and any man you have sex with). Regardless of who it is, sex the first time can be a little scary, it can hurt. You likely would bleed. Would you want to do all this with BOB? You know that you don't. Follow your instincts, your true instincts and they will not let you down.

Originally posted by sweet_stormy
"BOB" knows me more than u think. We've known each other since March, 2002. I live in the country on a dead end road. he has driven on the road that connects to the dead end road.

[andrea_NMAggie]

Ok...so i've never ever really posted anything 'controvercial' on this site...but c'mon. You're 13? and you're still CONSIDERING having sex with this 20 year old who you've described as BEING MEAN to you in the past? What are you THINKING?!!! This alone should be a SCREAMING ALERT that you're too young & immature to be doing something as adult as having sex!!! Sex is something that ADULTS do...should be something that 'adults who care deeply about each other do'. Don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying you're 'immature' per se....but don't you think you need to mature some before you go making LIFE ALTERING decisions?

[Tonya]

Sex isn't just "Doing it".

It makes babies. I had sex with a loser just because I liked him. He was a bum and I had no intention on having him in my life forever. We used a condom and I was on the pill. I got pregnant. My son is beautiful to me and I wouldn't trade him for the world, but I sure as **** didn't know what I was getting myself into. Sex is not just a physical thing. It is possibly a commitment that you will have the rest of your life.

Not to mention STD's. Someday you will love someone more then anything, do you want to have to tell him about your herpies?

Lastly, someday you will meet someone that you really love. You'll want to spend the rest of your life with him. For the first time ever, your heart will break that he wasn't your first. You'll finally realize what we are all talking about.

AND YOU ARE WAY TO YOUNG!!!

[Tonya]

And no 20 year old in their right mind would try such a thing. Stay away from him!

[2kitties]

Originally posted by Soledad
Any man that wants to have sex with a thirteen year old girl has to be severely disturbed at worst and completely immature at best. There has to be some reason why he can't get women his own age.

AMEN!

My guess is that he has some kind of mental disturbance. There is something disgusting about this. A normal man would not find the company of a 13 year old girl to be at all appealing. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. I'm just stating something that you already know.

Some people are posting that this is called rape. Yes. And, in fact, I think it's called CHILD MOLESTING!!!

Now, here's what I don't get. You know all this. You know the guy is a weirdo. You know you shouldn't do anything with him. But you post this question anyway? What exactly are you looking for? I've got a feeling there is more to this story.

It's time someone told your parents this fellow is giving your problems. I hope you will. They don't know that you are talking with a man that old do they? I hope they would at least have a problem with that!

[gini]

This may sound very harsh, but I would like you to go look into your mirror. See yourself?

Alright - now ask that person that you see, "Am I Stupid? or Am I Smart?" "Am I in control of myself, or do I just let other people use me?"

Once you have your answers, you won't need to ask us for advice.

[Karen]

I sent a very straightfordward PM to sweet_stormy, telling her in part NOT to see "Bob" that weekend, and not to be home by herself either that weekend. She replied that she understands.

[sweet_stormy]

my mom doesnt know that ive been talking to him. the last time i talked to him was like a year and a half ago. when my mom asked who i was talking to i told her i was talking to my "friend" "BOB". she didn't ask anymore questions. And to tell you guys he does not have any mental disease or anything. I am sticking up for him on that, and i dont want you to think that he has a mental disease just b/c he told me that stuff! I may not like the stuff he said, but at least i have enough sense not to say that he has a mental disease. yea, i may be acting like i care about him, but i dont. maybe he likes younger girls. not all guys like girls the same age as them or older. my best guy friend likes younger girls. he likes me. hes 17. im sry if you think that i care about "BOB" b/c i dont care about him in a loving way. i care about him in a way that im being nice to him b/c i would want him to stick up for me if someone was saying stuff about me. yea, call me whatever you want. i shouldnt have posted this b/c i just caused a whole bunch of problems. im sry, i cant just sit here and read about you guys critisizing "BOB". It would be different if you knew him. i guess from now on i will figure things out on my own. But i just like other people's opinions on things so that i dont make the wrong disicion. if you dont like what im saying, tough. im still a good person. one thread shouldnt make me a bad person. i am caring. i treat people the way i would like to be treated.

~Sweet_stormy~

Originally posted by 2kitties
AMEN!

My guess is that he has some kind of mental disturbance. There is something disgusting about this. A normal man would not find the company of a 13 year old girl to be at all appealing. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings. I'm just stating something that you already know.

Some people are posting that this is called rape. Yes. And, in fact, I think it's called CHILD MOLESTING!!!

Now, here's what I don't get. You know all this. You know the guy is a weirdo. You know you shouldn't do anything with him. But you post this question anyway? What exactly are you looking for? I've got a feeling there is more to this story.

It's time someone told your parents this fellow is giving your problems. I hope you will. They don't know that you are talking with a man that old do they? I hope they would at least have a problem with that!

[Soledad]

You are not a bad person at all!!! I hope you do not think I was trying to say that.

However, I do not see why you choose to defend a man who you tell us has been mean to you and who wants to "do it" with you and who stalks you!!!

How can we have a good opinion about Bob when all you tell us are the bad/gross things he does? How does that make any sense?

Bob is a man. Legally, you are a child. That makes Bob a wannabe childmolester. Think about it.

[GoldenRetrLuver]

IF I knew "Bob" and he said he wanted to "do it" with me, let me tell you, he wouldn't end up being my friend any longer. Don't you realize what your saying??! Your ALMOST 14, and he's 20? You also say you don't care about him in "that way", then why would you even have second thoughts about doing it with him? I would just say a flat out NO right on the spot. Please, listen to what everyone is saying....

Oh, and your not a bad person. We're just trying to help.

[sweet_stormy]

im sry. thats just how i am. plz dont think that i like him or anything. yea, i had a crush on him. but that was before. im just the type of person to stick up for another person. thats how i have always been. unless i was arguing with that person over something.

[Soledad]

Sweet, I think that you will find out as you get older that not everyone needs you to be their friend, and that sometimes it can hurt YOU to be someone's friend.

Bob does not seem like he has good intentions. From all that you've said, he is not deserving of your friendship.

[GoldenRetrLuver]

Originally posted by Soledad
Sweet, I think that you will find out as you get older that not everyone needs you to be your friend, and that sometimes it can hurt YOU to be someone's friend.

Bob does not seem like he has good intentions. From all that you've said, he is not deserving of your friendship.

Agreed.

[sweet_stormy]

IF I knew "Bob" and he said he wanted to "do it" with me, let me tell you, he wouldn't end up being my friend any longer. Don't you realize what your saying??! Your ALMOST 14, and he's 20? You also say you don't care about him in "that way", then why would you even have second thoughts about doing it with him? I would just say a flat out NO right on the spot. Please, listen to what everyone is saying....

i never said that i had second thoughts about doing it with him. how did u ever get that in your head? im sry if i sound b****y right now. im just tired. i just said that i wasnt going to sit here and read all of this about him.