What's your opinion?

[G.P.girl]

i think when you are young age matters alot because people are

maturing then , and the difference between a 16 and 19 year old

is so much greater than the difference between a 32 and 35

year old. but when you get to be in your mid-late twenteis age

does nnot matter so much, but then when you get to be in your

sixties age starts to make a difference because if you are 20

years younger than your partner chances are he/she will die long


before you even start to think about death. that is what i think

anyway...there is also the fact that it is ok for a woman to go out

with a younger man, but if an older man goes out with a younger

woman he is called a freak and a sick person and a pervert. why?

[PayItForward]

IMO as longer as the youngest person in the relationship is 18 years old (or older) than any age gap is acceptable.

But children under 18 need to be protected.

[mugsy]

there is also the fact that it is ok for a woman to go out

with a younger man, but if an older man goes out with a younger

woman he is called a freak and a sick person and a pervert. why?



I find it just the opposite.

Also, my mother said that age didn't matter when they were young, but it makes a big difference as they age.

[Glacier]

My husband is six years older than I am. I don't find it makes any difference. He's actually the youngest man I've ever been with. I once dated a man 25 years older than me. Although the relationship didn't work out, for reasons other than the age difference, I have nothing but wonderful memories of him. Of all my ex's (not that many!) he's the only one I have any continuing contact with. He's happily married now to another younger woman!

[Fox-Gal]

Originally posted by G.P.girl

...there is also the fact that it is ok for a woman to go out

with a younger man, but if an older man goes out with a younger

woman he is called a freak and a sick person and a pervert. why?

I never found that to be true, it is just the opposite. When a man dates/marries a younger woman people say things like, You still got it, way to go, what a lucky guy, etc.

With woman they get, what's wrong with you, are you sick, thats just wrong, etc. I know, I have heard a few of them before.

When it comes to woman there is always that neg. side put on it. With a man there always the positive side put on it.

There is a postive side to being married to a younger man.

[Fox-Gal]

Originally posted by 2kitties
stands up and cheers! YOU GO GIRL!

[CathyBogart]

Some of the judgements being made here (Mostly early on in this thread) really disgust me! Two of my friends are in relationships with BIG age differences. (One pair is ten years apart, the other is fourteen.)

How can you pass judgement on them without having seen or known them together. Seeing one friend who was discontent with life in general up until about a year ago so happy now has really changed the way I feel about these situations. Who cares if he is in his thirties, he makes her HAPPY! (They're planning their wedding now BTW! ^.^)

Don't judge someone else's happiness.

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by WolfChan
Some of the judgements being made here (Mostly early on in this thread) really disgust me!

I must have misread them, then. I didn't see anything in this thread beyond people expressing their opinion. Nicely. Politely.

[catland]

Cataholic - your comment about your relationship is valid. I do think that there are some people who only want to date younger people. They can't deal with the maturity. Then when that person matures, they dump them for another young person. We know someone just like that. She's now in her 40's, but only dates/marries young men. I always feel sorry for these guys because I know she'll grow tired of them and find another young man.

For those of you in long-term relationships with people much younger or older than you - that's great - it can happen.

My husband is four years younger than me - good thing we didn't meet when I was 17.

[mugsy]

Ok, now here's a scary thought. I did not meet Mike until I was 36 years old, so it was no big deal, but, I started subbing in December of 1988. He graduated from high school in 1988. I was 27 years old when I did my student teaching, so, that means that if I had gone into teaching right out of high school I would have done my student teaching in 1984. Thus, I could have been teaching my husband when he was a freshman! Scary eh?? He always reminds me of this too! hehehehe

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by G.P.girl
i think when you are young age matters alot because people are maturing then , and the difference between a 16 and 19 year old is so much greater than the difference between a 32 and 35
year old.

When I was 16, my first love and my first boyfriend was 19. There was not much of a difference. We were very honest with the love we felt for eachother, and to this day I can truly say we were in love. We are still the best of friends. My family just adored him. He was always there for me, for everything, and I was always there for him. We were supposed to be together.

Guys my age were simply not appealing. They were too immature and stupid for me to even glance at them for more than a second at a time. When I was 19, right before I met Dan, I dated a man 19 years older than me, and it was fun, for both of us!

I don't think I need "protecting" from anything, and neither did my parents. He would sleep over with us all the time, he was part of our family. Unfortuntely he needed to move away to Alabama to care for his father and I ended the relationship a year after he left. We learned a lot from eachother, and one thing was that you can love someone when you are 16, and you can learn so much from that experience. It taught me that age did not matter so much. If I was 14 and he was 20, I would think that a little odd, but we were made for eachother and so we dated and fell in love, the same as any other person would.

He still converses with my family reguarly as well. My mom always told me, that she was glad I lost my virginity to such a sweet young man. If it were to be with someone, she wanted it to be with him. Of course, that was before I met Dan.

Now that being said, my fiance and the father of my son whom I have been with for 3 and a half years is 6 yrs older than me. I am 23 going on 24, and he is 29 going on 30. We met when I was 20. I can't stand the way guys my age act, talk, dress and just everything about most of them buggs me.

My parents are ten years apart, with my father being the oldest.

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by mugsy
Ok, now here's a scary thought. I did not meet Mike until I was 36 years old, so it was no big deal, but, I started subbing in December of 1988. He graduated from high school in 1988. I was 27 years old when I did my student teaching, so, that means that if I had gone into teaching right out of high school I would have done my student teaching in 1984. Thus, I could have been teaching my husband when he was a freshman! Scary eh?? He always reminds me of this too! hehehehe

It figures.....

Mugs is the only one that could turn love into a
word/math problem...

Two people meet at school......

let's see,

carry the one..........divide this by........
subtract..........OH HELL, JUST BE HAPPY!


Quite a few kids have problems with their parents should they date someone younger than they are.
My GF's daughter HATED me.....She told her mom that she should find someone 'her own age'-

Why drive a Model T, when you can drive a Dodge
Dart?


My revenge??

I dated her mom for 13 years......

Her revenge?

When my GF was too sick to care for herself she took over her house. I wasn't allowed to call or visit. On the day she passed I didn't get a call-I found out from a ex-co-worker.............two days later.

Bitch!

Kids,
DO NOT BEGRUDGE either of your parents the happiness they may find with someone younger then themselves.

Parents,
Don't force your BF's or GF's on your kids. Talk to them and explain the situation - don't just bring the 'flavor of the week' home and expect your kids to be happy with that.

Use your head.

[slick]

Richard, that's really sad and it breaks my heart to hear that. I do hope you are happy with someone right now. That's the one thing that really scares me - D-A-T-I-N-G!! It's hard enough to find a single guy my age but since I prefer "no children" what are my chances?? And what if his kids don't like me?? What if I don't like them?? As far as dating someone younger than me, well, I'm 51 now so I suppose I could go as low as 48, but any younger and I would feel like I'm rocking the cradle. And dating someone 60?? I think NOT.

But as I've said before love has no boundaries and if the chemistry is there, go with it.

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by slick
but any younger and I would feel like I'm rocking the cradle.

I hear you, stinky diapers aren't my cup of tea either.


LOL,

Dating? what's that?

I had a conversation with a gal and asked if she'd like to take in a movie or a ball game...she deftly sidestepped the question. Later on she told me that she was looking for someone to, 'help her pay her bills so she could quit her job'.

An all too common thought these days..

And isn't it funny how the 'age of consent' goes down as we grow more mature???

[slick]

Sounds like quite the gold-digger. I'm in the process of writing down my ulitmate date from hell so if you're interested in a long read, PM me and I'll email to you. Believe me, it will be worth it. Then maybe you can understand why I've stuck with 4 paws and fur up until now. And to top it all off, it happened on April 1st. As for other singles, we should share dating stories for a laugh.