Miley girl had a BAD, BAD day!

[Vio&Juni]

So sorry to hear that about Miley
I wish I lived closer. I would take Ti if you'd decide to rehome him.

[HayleyRosie]

How are they doing today?

[sasvermont]

I wish I knew what was on Ti's mind! I really think he just wants to play with Miley, but he comes on too strong for her. She is still hiding from him. I have been giving her a sedative for the past three days - helps with her jumpiness. So, I am at a stand still. I let them in the same room but only when supervised and even then all fights can easily happen! It is not looking good in my opinion.

Thanks for asking!

[Logan]

I'm so sorry, Sallyanne.

I'm sure I'm repeating myself here Sorry! But, Mimi is much like Miley and wants to be Queen of her castle. We had a kitten once, about 8 years ago, that we bottle fed and intended to keep. Having Dwayne totally changed Mimi's personality to the point where she wouldn't come near any of us. After several months of literally watching her suffer, I had to find Dwayne a new home. She was back to her old self immediately. Then came Butter two years ago. She was not so happy about that, but he was different than an exuberant kitten and he has learned to stay out of her way. They still get into it sometime (had blood on both of them last week, as a matter of fact), but for the most part, they stay separate by choice. When they do bump into each other, she hisses and fusses so much!

I can't help but wonder if Miley is ever going to accept another cat, adult or kitten, but she did come around with Gabe, so maybe there is hope.

You're in my thoughts, my friend. I just wish I had some good advice for you!

[Pam]

Sallyanne I think barring a miracle with the arrival of Juni you already know what is going to have to happen. This is very sad because Ti is gorgeous and I know anyone would love to have him. That said, I know finding a new home for him shouldn't be hard. I wish I could keep encouraging you, but I think the handwriting is on the wall. Poor Miley! Poor Ti! Poor SAS!

ps to Logan - Your new signature is terrific!

[Logan]

ps to Logan - Your new signature is terrific!

Thanks, Pam! Popcornbird made it for me as a surprise!! I'm very proud of it!!!

[sasvermont]

The breeder's response was that "Ti never had any problem with aggression with his roommate Bengal kitty, because she ruled the house".....and she was surprised he was being a bully now. Well, guess what, she had originally told me that Ti has roomed with an Aby cat all his life, which for me, is quite different. The fact that Ti had been raised with an Aby meant lots to me. So either the breeder is telling fibs or she has the cats mixed up a bit. Regardless, she said she would think of a solution.

I really think Ti will be returned. Miley was ok with Gabe and ok with a friend's cat that I baby sat for awhile. So although Miley is a little witch, she is also easily terrified of agressive cats, like Ti.

I think the breeder misrepresented Ti, saying he was not an Alpha cat. He is an Alpha, for sure!

Oh well, I will keep you guys posted and hope that Miley makes it through the next introduction.

Thanks for all your positive thoughts.

SAS and her two brats!

[Logan]

I can only wonder what it would be like if Butter and Ti met!! The more I think about it, Butter would probably turn into a pansy!!! After all, the six pound Mimi has put that 11 pound boy in his place on more than one occasion!!

Sallyanne, I know that whatever you decide, it will be in the best interest of all. I'm just sad that you have to make that decision because I know you love Ti. He is such a handsome boy, and in different circumstances would be the perfect cat.

[sasvermont]

I know that if Ti does leave me, he will find a good home. I didn't really know his breeder all that well. I didn't feel all that comfortable when dealing with her. I should have known better. If she will not rehome him, I will and I will keep him healthy and happy until then.

I think Ti needs to be king of the castle and he needs company too. He really is a sweet guy - but refuses to back down like Gabe did with Miley. Gabe did a "whatever" with Miley when she would start with him, disfusing the situation. Ti, on the other hand, likes to engage her in battle. It is horrible to witness.

I know I am not the only one to have lived through this problem and it isn't really that awful for either of them to be apart. They both have rooms to play in - and I often switch them around.

Oh well, owning cats can not always be fun for everyone!

Thanks again for your support!

[Barbara]

Even from a distance one can see that Ti is a beautiful cat and there are bonds between you and him (the picture in front of your computer). I know it is not easy to decide to look for a new home for him. But on the other hand life does not seem relaxed for both cats and little Miley should have a chance to be a happy kitty again (although I don't think she remembers her brother that much).

There is a cute book from a lady called Antonia White "Minka and Curdy". It tells the story of a lady who had -after the death of her beloved cat- found a red boy kitty. Soon after she was offered her secret dram, a siamese cat. She tried to introduce them to each other and everything went badly until one day her dream came true: She was lying in bed with one kitty on her left shoulder and one on her right. I wish you that one day you will be that happy with Miley and another kitty

[kohala]

I admire you for trying. I caved in quickly years ago when I had a rescue for 2 weeks. She was a pretty little white with bits of orange long hair feral kitten, about 6 months. She was social with people and tolerant of Grasshopper, but Grasshopper developed some pretty wierd behavior. And the kitten, Monkey, would pee everywhere. It was almost impossible for me to train her to house rules, so she was adopted by someone else, and I have never really tried again. Depending on our living arangement when Grasshopper goes to Rainbow Bridge, I plan on making sure I adopt two together, at least. Although where we hope to be before her time is here, there are lots of outdoor cats, and I will probably be TNRing a lot of them, so may find my feline housemates there. It is sad about Ti and Miley, but they have personalities, also, and like people, some just don't "connect". I think you've done a wonderful job.

[lizbud]

SAS,

I'm sorry that Ti & Miley don't seem to be a good match. You
really seem to know a lot about cats. I mean different breeds
and the different charerteristics of the each breed. Perhaps
Ti did get along with another Bengal(female), but not an Aby.
I've only been acquainted with cats & cat behavior for about
5-6 years & they've all just been ones who just happened into
my life. I did not know anything about cats & did not seek them
out, so to speak. I know you can trust your knowledge & instincts
about cat behavior & make the right choice for Miley & for Ti.

After a little R & R from battles with Ti, Miley could settle down
again. I think she would more accepting of a kitten.At least she
would not be afraid of having it around.Miley might find a kitten
a mild amusement. Anyway, just wanted to wish you peace in
your house.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Sallyanne, I'm so sorry to hear that Ti and Miley are still not getting along and that Ti will need to be rehomed. I know that you did everything you could to try to bring them together but sometimes it just doesn't work out. I'm sure that gorgeous Ti will find another great home and I think that you should be the one to rehome him so his breeder doesn't misrepresent him again. Good luck and please keep us updated.

[HayleyRosie]

I'm so sorry to hear that Ti and Miley are still not getting along. I am a little sad to hear that Ti may have to be rehomed but I know you will make the right decision there. We have to do what is best for our furbabies so they are happy and healthy. I'm sure there will be no trouble finding a new forever home for Ti. Hopefully you will be able to get updates on him from his new owner if it comes to that. You will be in my thoughts.

[kimlovescats]

Sometimes it just doesn't work out .... plain and simple! Don't feel bad, guilty, and certainly not like you owe any of us an explanation!!!! Do what YOU feel you need to do! I know you have my support ... but not that you need it!!!