A Big Weekend ahead...

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by sasvermont
. If it turns out to be more work and trouble, then put the relationship in a place where it works for you. Not any brother and sister, or friend or relative HAS to be in your life. It would be nice, but not necessary to have a continued relationship if it is filled with pain and or guilt.

Slightly off topic, but since CB has gone to see her brother, I feel ok posting my thoughts...I agree with SAS...too often we go on with toxic relationships because we think we SHOULD. Just because it is family, or a long time friend, or (fill in the blank) doesn't mean it has to continue....

[Cookiebaker]

Whew everybody has gone home, and it's just us again. It's a relief in a way. We had a nice time, and it was definitely a start on a road towards healing. My whole family drives me crazy sometimes

SAS, I really appreciated what you said:

I also know that sometimes fences (???) cannot be mended but they can be taken down. So, keeping the relationship at a certain distance until and when you feel comfortable enough to resume what we all think should be a "normal" relationship, is something that you must deal with

That is so true. I think that this is where we are at...no fences, no hard feelings (exactly) but not quite a normal relationship either. Trust is built over time, not overnight. So thank you for the helpful comments...they really help me to keep things in perspective.

[mom of 6 cats]

I didn't see this thread til now...glad things went well. I know you were nervous, I bet he was also ?

[Dixieland Dancer]

Glad it worked out. I am sure your brother is too!! Thanks for keeping us posted.