I'm so upset. Tell me I did the right thing.

[Aspen and Misty]

Originally posted by popcornbird
If I'm going to grow up to have kids like this, I would rather not have them to start with.

Kids these days. I try so ahrd no to be like a "normal" teenager. I don't want to have kids. But if I did, I disagree with spanking or hitting, or anything. My dad used to spank us and those, seriously are the only memorys I have of him when I was little. My dad got deathly ill and was never around exept to punish us and it was always a spanking and thats all I rember of him as a child. And now, when were all sitting around the table we haev stories about something funny each one of us kids did when we were ltitle and to many stories about my mom, there are no stories about my father because all of us only rember the times he did those things to us, spanking and the other things he has done. I know its not even half as bad as being beat, don't get me wrong, I'm just sending in my thoughts on spanking.

Ash

[kohala]

Originally posted by Aspen and Misty


Kids these days. I try so ahrd no to be like a "normal" teenager. I don't want to have kids. But if I did, I disagree with spanking or hitting, or anything. My dad used to spank us and those, seriously are the only memorys I have of him when I was little. My dad got deathly ill and was never around exept to punish us and it was always a spanking and thats all I rember of him as a child. And now, when were all sitting around the table we haev stories about something funny each one of us kids did when we were ltitle and to many stories about my mom, there are no stories about my father because all of us only rember the times he did those things to us, spanking and the other things he has done. I know its not even half as bad as being beat, don't get me wrong, I'm just sending in my thoughts on spanking.

Ash

That's too bad, Ash. My heart goes out to you. But do consider what I said above and what Popcornbird said, too. Spanking, when truly deserved, is a healthy way to let a child know that their bad behavior will have bad results. It is a lesson that children should learn from their parents. But the only time and the only reason a child should be spanked is to teach them that if they act badly, they can get hurt. And the spanking should be just that - a swat on the bottom. That's why God pads them!!! (bottoms)

[ramanth]

Well, I know I was spanked as a child as was my sisters but I can barely recall those times. And when I was spanked, I know I deserved it. I feel I have grown into a well adjusted young woman.

Heck, my sister are both over 21 and I sometimes think they still deserve spankings!! They take my parents giving nature for granted and it's very sad.

Once, I mentioned to a group of friends in passing at camp about how I got spanked for something. I actually thought it was funny.. more so that I got caught.

Well... some days later a social worker was at our door step. Someone called the police and told them that my parents abused us!!!!! I was so scared that we were going to be taken away. My mom cried so hard and for so many nights after that.

Don't ever joke about that Britt. If you love your parents at all you would never do or say that. It's not funny.

[NoahsMommy]

You did the right thing...I'm so glad you were there to do something about it. Just reading this post send my blood pressure up! I have a huge problem with ANY mean treatment towards kids...I actually spoke up to some people that were fighting and using horrible language around their children at Universal Studios. Jerks.

I most definitely would have rushed up to that "woman" and yanked her away from those children, while I dialed 911 on my cell phone. What a horrible excuse for a human being! Maybe even restaining her with my car!! What a terrible, terrible person. Especially in public...I don't care what those children did, they didn't deserve that.

Can you tell this makes me mad? I'm so proud of what you did...very good.

Britt, honey, you need to educate yourself as well as learning some respect for your parents.

[luckies4me]

Sometimes threatening your parents is a "GOOD" thing, but I feel in Britts situation her parents do not beat her. There is a difference between slapping/spanking than beating. Anytime my mother would try to hit me I would try to call the police but she would always hide the phone or something else. But....my mom beat the heeby geebys out of me! I only wish I would have been able to talk to the police and let them know what was going on.


There were a few times the social services were called. I prayed each time that they would take us away but at the same time I was so scared to be seperated from my family I always lied and said things were fine. I wanted to stay with my younger brother and sister and DID NOT want them to go into a foster home. My mother never hit them when they were babies or toddlers but when they turned around 3 or 4 she started spanking them and HARD! She still slaps us (and I'm 23 tomorrow mind you) if we accidently step on her toes , even though it is her fault that she isn't wearing shoes. But that's just the way she is. Thank god she doesn't beat anymore. I do not blame her though because my brother and sisters father beat her everyday, sending her to the hospital while pregnant wth my sister. My older brother and I would always try to stop him but we were so young and weak. In return she would take it out on us. She finally sought help and now I love her lots! She does have her moments (like the toes inccidents) but she is now a great mom. She doesn't slap unless my younger brother and sister need it, which is rarely ever. Thank god for my stepfather! He turned her life around.

But please do not joke unless you are really in trouble like I was. You would not believe the sort of mess you can cause.

Slapping and spanking are NOT being beaten. If your mother punches you, throws you in the shower (long story) or something else then DO report it. Talk to someone like a teacher or friends mom and let them know you and YOUR MOTHER/FATHER need help.

[luckies4me]

Oh and just to let everyone know, kids who parents beat them do not all turn out bad!

I am a very loving mother to my son and would never even imagine doing things to him like my mother did to me. I slapped him once on his leg when he wouldn't sit still to change his diaper and he got poop EVERYWHERE ON MY MOTHERS NEW WHITE CARPET and I felt horrible. That was when he was 7 months old and I would NEVER DO IT AGAIN! ever. It wasn't hard but the thought of hurting my child even for a little spank scares me. I want him to grow up and know his mommy loves him and to teach him love and not to be afriad of me. I cried that night so long and told him I loved him a gazillion times. Now when he stresses me out and doesn't cooperate I take a deep breathe, count to ten and try again, and if that doesn't work I walk away. And guess what? I haven't done it sense. Which is good for me because I grew up that way and that was the main scary thought during my pregnancy, that I was going to turn out like my mother and I didn't....thank god. Plus you can't expect a 7 month old to sit still for a diaper change either.


But for those who feel stressed please take a beathe first and know there is another way to discipline without beating.

I have seen those kids who are not disciplined at all and are wild children! However, my bfs sister, who's son is 2 years is spanked constantly and hard! Now guess what he does to momma? He hits her when he gets mad. It's starting all over again. There are limits that must be set and she just spanks spanks spanks to no end. Once when my son was was 3 months old, her son grabbed Dylan in the face and pinched it making him bleed. She immdiately grabbed her son by the arm, took him to the couch and hit him really hard about 12 timess, on the back, butt and arms. I was amazed! Then poor guy, when he was crying he came to his mom for comfort and she hit him again. It was so sad. But now he is mimicing her. It's too bad.

[NoahsMommy]

luckies4me,
Please don't take this the wrong way...please. I am coming from a place were I've seen this type of behavior as a child advocate. I was there when "my" child was taken from her home and put into a children's home. I know the behavior your mom exhibited was out of frustration and her past....but, you may want to consider not leaving your son in her care alone...that frustration can easily come back if she's evoked.

Just be careful. And please, don't take this the wrong way, I know people can change, but your child depends soley on you for his safety.

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by NoahsMommy
luckies4me,
Please don't take this the wrong way...please. I am coming from a place were I've seen this type of behavior as a child advocate. I was there when "my" child was taken from her home and put into a children's home. I know the behavior your mom exhibited was out of frustration and her past....but, you may want to consider not leaving your son in her care alone...that frustration can easily come back if she's evoked.

Just be careful. And please, don't take this the wrong way, I know people can change, but your child depends soley on you for his safety.

Yes I know this and I totally understand. He has been left in her care many times and I willnever second guess it. She always baby sits my nephew all the time and is perfect! She is a great mom now and a great grandmother as well. But thanks for the concern.

[All Creatures Great And Small]

Uh oh, Britt, time to delete your posts I guess, since you can't delete the whole thread this time . Your parents have probably never even raised a hand toward you, because I don't think they know or care what you're doing all day long, especially on the Internet. OR, they are so sick of your BS that maybe they have wanted to give you a good smack. You obviously think you are a grown-up, an equal to your parents, and they give you way too much freedom for someone your age (including posting on Pet Talk, where you are supposed to be 13 to do so!) Or, my 3rd theory, that you are just talking nonsense again to get attention, which is lame and sad. First you say they "go to" hit you, then you say they never laid a hand on you, then you say your life is twisted (I guessed that MONTHS ago) but we shouldn't think that? Whatever. I suggest you do a search on the Internet (since you're on there all night anyway) and look for a chat group for children of dysfunctional families, because they would enjoy these stories a lot more than loving pet owners do. By the way, the description of the cat abuse sounds very familiar......oh, that's right, that was your SISTER that was abusing a cat, not the neighbors..........why don't you fix what's wrong in your own house before you start in on someone else's.

[Desert Arabian]

Originally posted by FloppsyLadySally89
I just get really scared when she goes to hit me because I think she really will beat me.

I wonder why your mom would do such a thing? I'm stumped!
You know Britt, I know how you feel a little bit since I am only 15, and I gave gone through similar things (along with most of the people on Pet Talk), and I wish I could give my sympathy but you are ridiculous and you popped my last nerve. If I were your mother I would be in a mental institution or in prison. My mom and dad have taught me some lessons, that were not taught to my likings. Let's see, would you like some examples? When I was around 4 years old, I refused to put my seatbelt on in the car, and I told my mom "I don't need to put it on because we are just going up the block, and not on the highway." Do you know what my mom did? She drove down the road, and slammed on the brakes- I wacked my head on the dashboard. And she said "That's why you need your seatbelt on." Do I HATE my mom, do I threaten to call the police on her? No! I love her very much, she is one of my closest friends. Oh, and another time I was mad at my mom and I wrote my friend a nasty e-mail about her, well, my mom walked in and saw it before I could close it. What happened? She SCREAMED at me, and chased me around the house, and I ran out the frontdoor, she followed me and I yelled "Get away from me you psychotic b****." That taught me a lesson. Did I threaten to call the police? No. Did I make posts on Pet Talk all the time saying how horrible my parents are? No, because they did the right thing. I was acting VERY immature, and I needed to be corrected. You really need to stop making attention getting posts that are 99.5%b.s and lies. I also I love it when I read posts about neighbors abusing their animals, and how horrible and mean they are. Why, isn't that what is happening in your house? Why, yes! It is. Cat's getting swung around by their back legs, getting hot noodles dropped on their backs. Forcing a cat into a rabbit cage, and I don't even want to go on, because I don't feel like throwing up tonight, my dinner was quite tasty and I would like to keep it down. Before you go around pointing fingers at other people, make sure you're not yelling at them for the same things you do. Oh yea, didn't you know that you have to be 13 or older to be on here in the first place? Oh by the way, if my parents beat me i.e. punched, kicked, threw,EXTREMELY hard slap, or anything that would leave horrible marks or scars- I would call the police. But, I have never been beaten before, so I have never had to worry about that. And to tell you the honest truth, I really don't think my parents COULD beat me (you don't know me that good ), and I think my mom can second that. Ok....I need to stop now, I am wasting too much time on a useless cause.

[luckies4me]

Ok I know everyone is entitled to their opinions and I do believe that Brit is over reacting BUT..... please no name calling or flaming. It is not apropriate for us to be doing this on a nice forum. Please keep it friendly and let others express themselves freely without being targeted.

Thank you.

[Cookiebaker]

Originally posted by FloppsyLadySally89
I didn't say I was joking. I get scared if my mom comes at me. I would never actually do it, but I needed to get my mom off my back. If I did one little thing wrong, she'd hit me. Dad, same. So did I ever KID around about that? I'm not saying she abuses me, I just get really scared when she goes to hit me because I think she really will beat me. Maybe I am abusing that law or stretching it out a bit, but oh well that is how I feel. I also never said they did beat me, infact they have never laid a hand on me as I recall. I hear all these stories, including these threads, and it scares me. I will never trust anyone ever in this world not even my own mother and father. It's just the way I am. I'm like my bunny-if one thing happens, I will never trust them again. Now please do not think I am weird or have a twisted life, even if it is true. OK?

PS(Lalaina)- I would do that, but my mom knows I am the only one who suspects this and then they would kill me.

Britt, if you want people to view you as grown up or mature, you really have to act it. It doesn't work any other way. I know you are going to think that these posts are hurting your feelings, but the truth hurts only if it should. So start by respecting your parents...you never know, they just might start respecting you in return. And stick to talking about your pets, OK? Stop with the attention getting soap operas. Thanks.

[luckies4me]

That is exactly what I was saying. If you have a problem with a person or their actions/posts etc. please take it to PM or say it nicely.

[All Creatures Great And Small]

please no name calling or flaming.

I re-read my post, and I don't see any name that I called. This thread got no more out of hand than some others I've seen (like the one about signing the card for the persons in the military - that one got downright ugly!).

let others express themselves freely

Exactly, and I am expressing myself freely. Any "flaming" comes from being flaming mad at Britt. She wants to know what everyone thinks about her home situation, which she herself admits is "twisted". I told her. I get angry when I am manipulated, which is what she does when she visits a PET LOVERS website and starts talking about less than loving things that have happened to her animals in her house.

Please keep it friendly

I'm sorry, I can't be cordial when animals are being mistreated. I just can't.

[Soledad]

I actually think Britt seems to have a rather messy home life. How can we expect a 12 year old in a seemingly strange household to act like a 25 year old? Maybe she has genuine reasons to fear her mother. I've seen other posts where she has expressed this.

I guess I don't mind a 12 year old acting like a 12 year old nearly as much as I mind 15 year olds saying things like "kids these days" (as though they know any other days) or trying extra hard to appear mature.

She's a kid, let's back off.