Bon gets read by Nancy (Update #25)

[anna_66]

I'm sure most of you here know who Nancy is, well I had a reading done with her yesterday.

I had emailed her about Bon. Here's my email if you care to read it...
Hi Nancy,
My name is Anna. I was referred to you by Staci M. She tells me that you are very busy at the moment so I understand it will be a while before you can get back to me.
I don't really know what and all you need, Staci says a picture and any questions I have. I'm not sure what kind of pictures you need so I'll send a few.
I guess my main question is why is Bon afraid of everything? It's been this way since he was a puppy. He's afraid to be outside, he mostly stays in the house. He's afraid if the neighbor is outside (and he's even met the neighbor and didn't seem to care about him one way or the other-the neighbor is even afraid of Bon), he's afraid to get out of the van. It seems like everything scares him. He's very insecure and I'm not sure why. I tried to make sure he was socialized, took him to school and everything, he was even afraid there. We quit going because he'd start to go after some of the dogs. We used to go to the dog park but the same thing happened there that happened at school.

What's prompted me to contact you was the recent incident. He bit me, bit me hard-I've been out of work for almost 2 weeks now.
He didn't attack me, I was feeding the dogs. He had his and I was handing the food to my other dog (Huney) and he came up and tried to take it away from her. It's really fuzzy, all I really remember was that I thought he was going to kill her and I had to get him off so I grabbed his collar. He bit me, just once but of course with a mouth as big as his that's all it takes. When I finally got them apart I took him out to the kennel and brought Huney in the house. When my husband came home to take me to the ER the two dogs got along just fine. They've always been best friends so I really don't understand what happened.
If you can help me with my big baby boy I'd be eternally grateful. He is precious and I do love him very much. I just want him to be happy.
Thank you

Well on the 6th I got this message back from her...
hi anna,
you were not next in line but when i was going through my list of readings, your dog just popped out and seemed to be the most urgent so i am going to start on him. i just tried to give you a call. can you please send me a picture of the other dog huney, i do not think she has anything to do with anything but i just want to rule that out. my number is 248-661-5597. you can call me tonight up until 10. i am in michigan. i have not really started him but he is so sad that i thought we should just start the reading.
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So any way she called yesterday and we talked for almost an hour, or should I say she talked. I really didn't have to tell her anything at all, she already knew it all.
Here's what she had to say....
state of turmoil-frenzy
lots of anxiety, worry, fear, stress
like 2 different animals
sensitive-emotional-feelings hurt-extremely upset-not confident
worries-feels at fault for many things-wrong-extremely upset
feels he always does wrong things
feels he doesn't live up to expectations-feels down
lots of anxiety & stress
scared & traumatized-not by anything that's happened, just feels this way
going through a bad faze
less confident than before
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house is safe & happy-safe haven
not a mean bone in his body-not aggressive-very nice dog
not aggressive-can't fill up his body-little dog in big body
could fear bite
panic attacks-doesn't see or hear anything when like that
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feels I'm not 100% comfortable with him-95% but not 100%-needs 100%
5% distrust feels like I hate him
I'm faking some-knows I love him but not unconditional love now
needs to feel safe w/me-that's why he needs to be with me ALL the time
needs to be fully accepted by us


Then all of a sudden she says wait...there's another dog...a "rottweiler"... he's taking up the whole page (guess all she could see at that moment was him)
OMG! Gave me chills all over. Thought rottweiler was still alive, his presence is so strong. He's here for Bon. That's why he feels so safe in the house.

She even told me some about him (Angus)...
One of a kind
not a lot of animals like him, will never find another like him
would risk his life to save someone
shows emotions
very maternal-thought he was a female
giving-nurturing-loving-kind-good energy
strong attachment to this family still


Wow, wow and just wow

Then she goes on to say how Bon feels about Mark...
skittish around him
Mark's not patient-not mistreating, just yells because he's frustrated with him
doesn't understand him
just can't brush it off and "get over it"
black mask dog and Mark stand together, they both feel the same way. Mark thinks black mask dog is better

Huney, Bon and I stand together

Likes Huney-good energy-makes him feel better about himself-no issues (that's good to hear!)-best friends
Only 2 safe zones right now...Huney and Home
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She says we should never make him do what he's scared of, it could become a dangerous situation. She doesn't think meds really work because she's done readings on dogs taking meds and say they feel like their downing, which only makes them feel worse.
She did give me the name of a place (Green Hope Farm) that has all natural stuff that may be able to help him.

In all honesty there's not much we can do to help him besides making him feel 100% comfortable with us. She feels it's a chemical imbalance that he's always had.
Try to take him to quiet places around only a few people. Never take to a dog park or any place that is loud. It would only scare him and make him worse. If I can't or don't want to do this she said she would just keep him secluded at the house because he could do some damage if he went into another episode like he did when he bit me.

My poor boy I feel so guilty, but hopefully now we understand and will be able to make him feel more relaxed...at least around us.
She told me to take a couple days and think of any other questions I had and email her back.