No-Name and stray cat *pictures* *UPDATE post 12**

[momcat]

This is just unbelieveable! Sweet No-Name gets dumped for no apparent reason? My Dad was very hard to get along with so I understand what you must be dealing with.

Please don't feel that you have to apologize to us for something you didn't do and knew nothing about. We all know how much you love No-Name and you would never do anything to cause him any harm. What your father did was out of your control. Please do not take responsibility for what someone else did!

Being in New Jersey I don't know what I can do to help reunite you with No-Name. Please know that you and No-Name are very much in my prayers. I only want you to know that none of this is YOUR fault.

Please keep us updated.....

[Catty1]

Okay. I emailed the Grand Forks Humane Society (Circle of Friends) this afternoon.

I copied and pasted the trailer park info, the two that are west of the college.

I asked if they might have a person who lives near there or who could go check in person.

I attached two pictures of No Name for them.

TMB - were you able to find out NN's real name? Can you ask your aunt if you haven't?

This is not to get No Name back to you, as your dad would not like it...the HS said they would find a good home for him if he was brought in...but if he knows his real name, then he would respond to it better.

Thanks.

[Don Juan's mom]

Is your dad aware that you might be choosing a nursing home for him one of these days?

Prayers from sunny San Jose that No Name is found safe and sound.

Liz

[BC_MoM]

I'll probably be going to Grand Forks in two weeks to pick up some Border Collies for rescue. Not sure if I could look into this cat thing or not... I'm going down with dog people.

Poor kitty....
I know how you feel, my Dad can sometimes get like that too.. but I don't believe he would do anything like this. He wouldn't waste the gas on it.

[Toby's my baby]

The cats real name is Friskies, but, when I tried to call him that he never responded, so I dont think it will work. He always came better if you just said, "here kitty!" so I dont know.

My dad is not getting help, but IMO he should. There is no way he ever would though, he won't even let me get help. I was having some problems a year ago, and I went to the doctor, and he said I needed to start going to a psyciatrist. My dad refused to let me go, even though I asked him to bring me. I'm having hard times now dealing with moving to Arizona, and just being a teenager, and I feel like I can't go anywhere to get help. Everytime I try to talk to my dad or mom about it, my dad buts in and it all ruptures into a huge fight.

Thank you so much Candace for everything you have done. You are a savior. You have done so much to try and rescue this poor guy, and you have a huge heart. I am very greatful and I'm sure No-name is too. I don't think there is much else anyone can do other than hope that he has been found and is in a good home with someone who loves him and will keep him forever.

[Catty1]

So...are you thinking of moving to Arizona?

I think your mom would have to get some legal proceedings going.

I mean - what judge would have awarded custody to your dad? How did you and your sister wind up staying there? (PM me this if it's too personal.)

You CAN go for help. I don't know if you are of legal age; if you are not, I suggest you tell your doctor what happened. He or she is then bound to report that you are not getting good care with your dad. Your dad has to be reported. I'm sorry - but that is the way it seems. He is being a poor parent. Or Children's Aid (they help teens too)

I know you have your horses and everything there. Please remember - as much as you love them, you can get another horse one day.

You can't buy another you, or another sister.

[momcat]

Hi TMB, Are you thinking about moving to Arizona? As far as any legal implications, are you with your Dad by court order? If so or if not, your Mom might have to petition the court for legal custody. If this is a possibility, I strongly suggest that your Mom contact a lawyer to see where you both stand legally and what other legal options might be available. If she can't afford a lawyer, let me know because I can find a contact for her regardless of what state she lives in through my job. Family laws vary from state to state.
How sad that your folks refuse to allow counseling for you. Is there another adult you could talk to? A trusted adult, a teacher, your minister, parent of a friend? Prayers were offered for you and No-Name during church this morning.

[jennielynn1970]

Oh gosh... sounds like not a good situation for anyone right now at home! I'm so sorry!!

Can you go and live with mom?? I mean, she'd want to have what's best for your welfare, and if dad is refusing to do that, someone needs to know. Are you still in school?? Even if you're over 18 and in college, you should be able to talk to someone, but if you're in high school and he's your legal guardian, he is OBLIGATED to do what is best for your health and welfare (and your mental health is included in that).

If you need, I can talk to our counselors at school to see what could be done in your state, and what your rights as a minor, and his responsibilities as a guardian are. Just so you know what you are entitled to. You need to do what is best for you and your sister.

I really hope that there will be something you can do. I know you're a minor, but dad has to provide for you not just with food, clothes and a roof over your head. It goes way beyond that. If you need help, please let us know and we'll do what we can on our ends, even if it's just moral support and getting you info you need so you can let dad know he's not doing what he should be.

BIG HUGS to you sweetie...

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone. My parents are not divorced or seperated, our whole family is in the process of moving. My mom had to move down there sooner because her job started a couple of weeks ago. I still have horse shows and other things to do here in Minnesota this summer, so my dad, sister, and I decided to stay here until school starts again in the fall. I am very angry and having a hard time with both of my parents at the moment. I do NOT want to move to Arizona at all, I do not think any teenager should be forced to leave there school, friends and family when they are almost out of high school. I am not really getting along with either of my parents, but my mom and I are pretty close and I still talk to her every night, so I think our relationship is fine even though I am angry with her. My dad and I used to be very close, but in the last couple years he hasn't wanted to let go and let me grow up, and I've grown up faster than he probably wanted me too. I'm going through the "rebelious" stage, and always feel like I just want to get out and go to a party or sneak out of the house. I have always been the "perfect child." I've never been to a party before, never even taken a sip of a beer, smoked or any of that (which is probably good) but it's getting to me, and I'm in the stage where I just want to try it (not smoking or any of that, but just GOING to a party). My dad is very strict, he won't let me do hardly anything. The other day he let me going tubbing with a couple friends and I just about fell over. I really wish I could switch my gaurdianship over to my aunt and uncle or SOMEONE else, but I don't even know if you can do that if my parents are actually harming me or doing anything wrong really... ?

[Catty1]

ooohkay, I remember this now...you have posted about it in General - I didn't make the connection! Sorry!

I recall you saying then that you might be able to do your last year of school there and stay at your aunt's?

I would think your family should be ok with you having some time to yourself. Is your aunt in pretty good shape health-wise?

On the other hand - you might feel a lot better after the move. Either way - I hope you can go to see a counsellor at the school; I am sure you don't need a parent's permission for that (I never did ).

My prayers that everything works out the way it is supposed to - it will.

*hugs*

[Toby's my baby]

Thank you

The lady my dad took the cat from is not MY aunt its my dad's. So she's my great aunt, and she is not in good shape, she needs to be in a nursing home.

I would be staying with my aunt and uncle, my dad's brother. I've talked to my parents about this and they refuse to let me stay here. They said I have to try living in Arizona for a year and then we will see after that. I'm saving all my money from work this summer, and selling my horse so I can come back often to see my family, friends, and boyfriend. I don't know if the dogs are comming with yet. My grandpa's dog was hit by a car 3 weeks ago, and now he wants to keep Maggie and Autumn. I really don't want to leave them behind, but my grandpa loves them dearly (he lives with us, but is not moving) and he wants to keep them here. A part of me wants to let them stay here, because when we move they would have to be locked up a lot when we aren't home, right now, the are NEVER locked up because someone is always here. But I love them so much and I don't want to leave them here either. I'm so confused on what to do with them.

ugg.. this is so stressfull. . i'm definently going to the school counsilor once school starts..

[Toby's my baby]

Also... I went to Grand Forks today, but unfortunatly it was with my dad. I asked to go look for no-name but he refused. He did dump him in the trailer court by the interstate, I know that.

I asked him why he dumped him and he said, "well, I was gonna shoot him but I decided to just dump him and give him a chance to find a different home."

[Pawla]

YOUR DAD NEEDS HELP!!! How can someone be such an @##? I wish you could stay with your grandfather.

[jennielynn1970]

I asked him why he dumped him and he said, "well, I was gonna shoot him but I decided to just dump him and give him a chance to find a different home."

Unfortunately, this is the attitude that a lot of farmer/country people have. To many, it's an animal, not a pet.

I grew up on a 100acre farm in the Pocono Mtns. here in PA, and thank god my father was not like that. He wanted to be a vet growing up, but quit school in order to keep the farm running and had to get a FT job to help support the family. So, even though he was a farmer, he still cared a lot about the pets and wasn't the typical Dutchman. My great grandmother, on the other hand, was a harsh harsh woman. My dad said he remembers when HIS hound dog didn't do what she wanted it to do, and wasn't hunting the way it was supposed to, she just shot it right there in front of him.

My father has always been a softy and if thinks there's a stray cat or dog outside of our house on the farm, he puts out bowls of food for it every day. My mother said she thinks at one point he was feeding groundhogs, raccoons and opossums, lol. He doesn't even go hunting anymore, and we only ever used the deer etc... for food, he never did it for sport. He hates when I tell rescue animal stories, he will just break down and cry over abused and neglected animals. If he and I were the ones who were living on the farm, and my mom wasn't around, I think we'd have tons of animals, lol.

Farming and people growing up from back then can have some real different attitudes from the way we do now, or like I said, even eachother. Some younger farmers still view animals as animals and do not get attached. Sad but that's the way it is.

I do hope your dad gets help for whatever it is that is bothering him... although I doubt he sounds like the kind who will go in and sit down and talk about his feelings to anyone, lol. Too emotional of a thing to do.. shows vulnerability.

I do hope things improve. What is the age of consent to be considered an adult in your state?? Maybe you could actually, on your own, petition to stay back for your (last??) year of highschool? If 16 or 17 is considered an adult, you can get court documents that will allow you to do that. That would bypass dad and all you would need would be a place to stay(like the aunt and uncle's place). Check it out. It might make your dad upset, and I have no idea how old you are (I saw your pics in one of the other threads and thought you were a college kid... so many kids look so much older than they are these days!!), but it's a thought.

[catmandu]

I Hate To See People Not Realize That Animals Are Our Fellow Inhabitants Of This Planet Not Our Slaves.
I Hope That Your Dad Gets Dumped Into A Nursing Home When He Gets Older And Has To Live In Squalor.
Thats Not A Good Thought But Anyone Who Who Dump A Cat Deserves That.
We Are Praying That You Are Independant Soon And Can Help As Many Strays As Possible.