Hand me over a bottle.......

[sparks19]

HM, just tell him that if he waits until he is over 40 (I don't know how old he is just guessing lol) then he will be SIXTY by the time the child is even old enough to move out... and that is assuming the child moves out right when it turns 18 LOL I know I wouldn't want that.

[wombat2u2004]

HM, just tell him that if he waits until he is over 40 (I don't know how old he is just guessing lol) then he will be SIXTY by the time the child is even old enough to move out... and that is assuming the child moves out right when it turns 18 LOL I know I wouldn't want that.

Ahhhhh......I dunno....I think it's ok. I'm 58, and my daughter is 14, and we have the best time ever. But then again, this is my second time around, my other two daughters are grown up and long gone on with their own lives.
It's a matter of choice really. Some of my mates at the time thought I was nuts for wanting to start all over again.....but I'd never even think of trading their lifestyles for mine...I reckon I'm miles ahead....I have the best relationship going with my little poppett.
But, it's all up to the individual as to what makes them happy in life.
Wom

[Sevaede]

Congrats Isabel! I hope all goes exceedingly well!

[sparks19]

Ahhhhh......I dunno....I think it's ok. I'm 58, and my daughter is 14, and we have the best time ever. But then again, this is my second time around, my other two daughters are grown up and long gone on with their own lives.
It's a matter of choice really. Some of my mates at the time thought I was nuts for wanting to start all over again.....but I'd never even think of trading their lifestyles for mine...I reckon I'm miles ahead....I have the best relationship going with my little poppett.
But, it's all up to the individual as to what makes them happy in life.
Wom

My father is 60 and also has a 17 year old son.... he doesn't live with my dad though but he always loves to see him when he can (he actually goes to a private school about 5 hours away from home.... his mothers choice. He is about to head off to college though anyway) and OF COURSE my dad would never opt to be without him... that would be silly

BUT I imagine.... at this age... 60 seems a long way away for them lol and that seems awfully "old" to have young children at home (not that it is actually old lol age isn't just a number that is for sure lol) But I can definately see how some would think "wow. Kids still at home when I am 60? That is MY time " LOL.

of course... for most women this is much different.. I could NOT imagine having to go through pregnancy and give birth after 40.... It practically kills me now lol and I am only 25 hahaha. I want to be done by the time I am 30 lol.

[Cataholic]

BUT I imagine.... at this age... 60 seems a long way away for them lol and that seems awfully "old" to have young children at home (not that it is actually old lol age isn't just a number that is for sure lol) But I can definately see how some would think "wow. Kids still at home when I am 60? That is MY time " LOL.
.

It is all a matter of perspective. I did all my "MY" time when I was younger. I completed ALL my education, I travelled, I went out with friends, I bought a home, clothes, went without sleep, established a career, had health benefits, etc. I had Jonah at 38. I was done 'trying to find myself', and crying about "me" time things. I was as selfish as I wanted to be. Now? I have nothing that I love doing more than being a mother. Being second, putting his needs ahead of mine. And, I feel none of this, "oh, what about me and MY needs" that I hear other young mother's complain of. Maybe it is a sad commentary on my life but, I have pretty much 'done' all that I ever wanted to do. Doesn't mean I don't have interests, hobbies, or things I can still do now, but, really, the major events were over for me.

I think having a child 'older' was the only way for me to go. And, for the record, even at 37 I was in much better physical shape than ANY of my younger friends. While I can't say the same now, I am still more active than most younger people I know. And, look at it this way- you need less sleep as you age.

HM- Congrats, and I cannot wait to hear all the wonderful things that come.

Johanna

[sparks19]

It is all a matter of perspective. I did all my "MY" time when I was younger. I completed ALL my education, I travelled, I went out with friends, I bought a home, clothes, went without sleep, established a career, had health benefits, etc. I had Jonah at 38. I was done 'trying to find myself', and crying about "me" time things. I was as selfish as I wanted to be. Now? I have nothing that I love doing more than being a mother. Being second, putting his needs ahead of mine. And, I feel none of this, "oh, what about me and MY needs" that I hear other young mother's complain of. Maybe it is a sad commentary on my life but, I have pretty much 'done' all that I ever wanted to do. Doesn't mean I don't have interests, hobbies, or things I can still do now, but, really, the major events were over for me.

I think having a child 'older' was the only way for me to go. And, for the record, even at 37 I was in much better physical shape than ANY of my younger friends. While I can't say the same now, I am still more active than most younger people I know. And, look at it this way- you need less sleep as you age.

HM- Congrats, and I cannot wait to hear all the wonderful things that come.

Johanna

By "my" time I mean retirement lol. See for me.... we don't have the funds to do all the travelling although I am quite satisfied with my level of travel and the travel that I want to do in the near future is kind of "childish" anyway LOL. BUT when we retire we will have the means and the time to do so. For me.... my career is going to be a stay at home mom and making jewellry lol... so that wasn't much of a concern for me. I can't say that I am unhappy with what I have done.... and I can't say that I feel I haven't had the me time. But I want to have as much time with my children as I can. For me, starting now means I will have that many more years (hopefully) to enjoy my kids as they get older and older and to hopefully enjoy grandkids and great grandkids for many years. But of course that is only the way I feel

YOu are right... it really is a preference type thing... but from my experience... it seems to be MEN that take "getting old" the hardest hehehe. Perhaps it is because I am only 25 but I am kind of looking forward to getting older lol especially "retirement" whereas my husband is all out of sorts every year around his birthday lol.

[wombat2u2004]

My father is 60 and also has a 17 year old son.... he doesn't live with my dad though but he always loves to see him when he can (he actually goes to a private school about 5 hours away from home.... his mothers choice. He is about to head off to college though anyway) and OF COURSE my dad would never opt to be without him... that would be silly

BUT I imagine.... at this age... 60 seems a long way away for them lol and that seems awfully "old" to have young children at home (not that it is actually old lol age isn't just a number that is for sure lol) But I can definately see how some would think "wow. Kids still at home when I am 60? That is MY time " LOL.

of course... for most women this is much different.. I could NOT imagine having to go through pregnancy and give birth after 40.... It practically kills me now lol and I am only 25 hahaha. I want to be done by the time I am 30 lol.

What ??? 60 ??? Old ??? I'm shaking my walking stick in anger !!!! LOL
I must admit, that when I read this post this morning, my mouth was so wide open that my dentures fell into the toilet bowl !!!! So I had to fish them out with the toilet brush and stick em back into my mouth.
Well anyway....dentures apart....I think everybody is different in the way they interpret age and the raising of children.
I think that there's plus's and minus's for everyones methods. My mother gave birth to me when she was 16, and to my youngest sister when she was 31 (that making big brother 15yo at the time)....so my mother has had no life other than raising kids....Deb left home when she was 25, so for 40 years my mother did the mother thing. Thats a long time to raise kids. But my mother wouldn't have it any other way.....she is one of those country ladies who fed it if it moved or painted it if it didn't.
I guess one of the plus's for that is that she has this great extended family....she had six of us, and now she has all of these grandkids, and great grand kids....and she's only 74...still quite fit and able. But I guess the minus side of it, is that she has never been anywhere or done anything. But as I said, she wouldn't have had it any other way.
I believe people should just do what they think is right for them. As for me, well....I guess I have done it both ways....had a family when I was younger, AND when I was older. I have no gripes about that at all. It has suited me.
I have my house, my bicycle, my $2 in the bank...and three wonderful daughters who I will make myself a real burden on one day LOL.
But yeah....I reckon I've done it right....and I reckon so has my mum. And so will you Sparksy.
Wombat

[wombat2u2004]

By "my" time I mean retirement lol. See for me.... we don't have the funds to do all the travelling although I am quite satisfied with my level of travel and the travel that I want to do in the near future is kind of "childish" anyway LOL. BUT when we retire we will have the means and the time to do so. For me.... my career is going to be a stay at home mom and making jewellry lol... so that wasn't much of a concern for me. I can't say that I am unhappy with what I have done.... and I can't say that I feel I haven't had the me time. But I want to have as much time with my children as I can. For me, starting now means I will have that many more years (hopefully) to enjoy my kids as they get older and older and to hopefully enjoy grandkids and great grandkids for many years. But of course that is only the way I feel

YOu are right... it really is a preference type thing... but from my experience... it seems to be MEN that take "getting old" the hardest hehehe. Perhaps it is because I am only 25 but I am kind of looking forward to getting older lol especially "retirement" whereas my husband is all out of sorts every year around his birthday lol.

Well...I don't know if men do take getting older more seriously.
I have posted a pic here of myself....do you think I look ok for my age ????
Wombat

[sparks19]

LOL YOU look stunning.....

As for my dad..... try telling him he is 60 LOL.... he's just happy he gets the senior discount but still acts like he is 12 hahaha. My brother is almost 38 and he is the same way haha and they have their 4th child on the way now.... I however am planning on stopping at two lol. There is 20 years difference between my oldest sibling and my youngest sibling lol. Of course.... these weren't all with the same woman. My dad has been married 3 times lol so he definately LOOKS his age hahaha

My mom had her first child at 19 during her first marriage and then she had me at 30 during her second marriage. She says that for her even having a child at 30 was hard on her physically. LOL I figure my body is falling apart as it is so I better get started before I am totally broken down lol.

No you are right... not all men take aging hard. My dad's opinion is that he has EARNED his senior discount lol but darned if he will ever act his age Thats kind of how I feel... but ask me that again in 15 years when I will be turning the big Four Oh lol.

But there is no harm in trying that tactic... it just might work lol. My hubby is 7 years older than me and he was ready a long time ago... he was just waiting on me haha.

[wombat2u2004]

LOL YOU look stunning.....

As for my dad..... try telling him he is 60 LOL.... he's just happy he gets the senior discount but still acts like he is 12 hahaha. My brother is almost 38 and he is the same way haha and they have their 4th child on the way now.... I however am planning on stopping at two lol. There is 20 years difference between my oldest sibling and my youngest sibling lol. Of course.... these weren't all with the same woman. My dad has been married 3 times lol so he definately LOOKS his age hahaha

My mom had her first child at 19 during her first marriage and then she had me at 30 during her second marriage. She says that for her even having a child at 30 was hard on her physically. LOL I figure my body is falling apart as it is so I better get started before I am totally broken down lol.

No you are right... not all men take aging hard. My dad's opinion is that he has EARNED his senior discount lol but darned if he will ever act his age Thats kind of how I feel... but ask me that again in 15 years when I will be turning the big Four Oh lol.

But there is no harm in trying that tactic... it just might work lol. My hubby is 7 years older than me and he was ready a long time ago... he was just waiting on me haha.

Thanx for that....I really do like to take care of myself....lol.
Would you believe me if I told you I look no older than 18 ??? No ??? Well then how about 40ish ??? Still no ??? Ok.... lets just round that off to a cool 57....and not a day more !!!!
My 24 year old daughter usually has a joke with me on my birthday. For instance, just recently when I turned 58, she said to me " Geez Dad...you've only got 42 years more to get to 100"...the cheeky little bugga....to which I replied " Well said Christie, and you've only 42 years more to get to 66".
That shut her right up !!!! LOLOL
Yeah....but I know what you mean about getting too old to have kids, my ex had my youngest (14) when she was 38, and that was her first child. Even tho she went thru a very difficult time, she admits that our youngest is her shining achievement, outstripping all of her years of academia.
Wombat
Wombat

[wombat2u2004]

""LOL YOU look stunning.....""

Yes....I do don't I ???
That is the look I give to young ladies behind the counter of bead shops.
They actually give me free beads and open the door for me on the way out.
Why.....I probably have more beads than you do...maybe we could set up shop together. We could call it ..........

"Wombat and Sparkies Bead Emporium"
"Be Stunned into Buying Beads"

[sparks19]

""LOL YOU look stunning.....""

Yes....I do don't I ???
That is the look I give to young ladies behind the counter of bead shops.
They actually give me free beads and open the door for me on the way out.
Why.....I probably have more beads than you do...maybe we could set up shop together. We could call it ..........

"Wombat and Sparkies Bead Emporium"
"Be Stunned into Buying Beads"

LOL sounds like a plan.... Although after working the night shift at a coffee shop... nothing scares me anymore LOL.

I'm sure they think you are charming

Do they ever ask you if geico is so easy a caveman can do it? LOL I doubt you know what I am talkinga bout lol but it's a stupid commercial here about car insurance lol... "so easy a caveman can do it" then the cavemen get all upset lol.

My dad tries that whole "I don't look a day over 20 thing" LOL he says the gray is actually blonde highlights LOL