If you are married, how old were you on your big day?

**4 Dog Mother** · 06-15-2006, 08:44 AM

I was 20 and Carl 21 when we got married 34 years ago. Christy (Dakota's mommy and my youngest) got married when she was 19 and Brian was 20. I didn't think I was too young but I did think Christy was - I think that is a mom talking!!!! Amy (Cincy's Mom) had graduated college and was "out on her own" for a year before she and Ralph married. I think that was a good idea as I went straight from my parents to Carl and think both Christy and I could have benefitted from being on our own for awhile. I think you grow in maturity and self-esteem if you live on your own for a time.

**Rachel** · 06-15-2006, 09:01 AM

I was *on my own* for quite a while before I got married at 30. Even though those were some lonely years for me, it did enhance my independence and confidence in myself. My husband was 40 at the time of our marriage, had been married before and was the father of a teenage daughter.

I would certainly advocate that a woman be self-supporting and live on her own for a while before marriage. I believe it makes it possible for her to be more of her own person in the marriage.

**lizbud** · 06-15-2006, 09:11 AM

I was 24 and my X was 35.I thought he was just about the smartest
guy I'd ever met.

**trayi52** · 06-15-2006, 09:30 AM

I got married June 27, 1970, I was 17, and my husband was 19. Wow! Our wedding anniversery is coming up this month very soon!

Willie

**Edwina's Secretary** · 06-15-2006, 09:49 AM

I was 44! And like Lgoan and Craftlady....I was a cradle robber. Interesting that three marriage with mature brides...the husband was younger.....

**KitCat** · 06-15-2006, 12:53 PM

I was 29 and we had lived together for 7 years. it is our 20th wedding anniversery next year.

**Glacier** · 06-15-2006, 01:05 PM

Originally Posted by Pam

WOW! My husband's sister has been dating a guy who is 38 and she is also 52. I thought she was the only one in the world who was in that type of relationship. What did your/his family think?

My closest neighbors are another couple like this. The husband is actually very close to the same age as his wife's son from her first marriage. She is in her late 60's. He's 40. They've been married for almost 10 years. They are without a doubt, the happiest, most devoted, loving couple I've ever seen. They truly adore each other. Their families were a little freaked out at first, but everyone gets along well now. Love knows no boundaries. If it works, who cares about the age numbers!??

**Crazy-Cat-Lover** · 06-15-2006, 01:18 PM

I am getting married on June 24th and I will be 21!

**CalliesMom** · 06-15-2006, 02:00 PM

I was 23 and Jason was 22. We were together for 5 1/2 years before we got married and have been married 3 years.

**Lizzie** · 06-15-2006, 02:12 PM

I was almost 28 and he had just turned 24. The four years between our ages was not a problem, it was the wide gulf in our world experience that had a dramatic impact. I had lived away from home for 10 years, travelled and worked in several other countries, and had a lot of experience in handling things alone. He'd been in school for 19 years, was about to enter 4 more, and was utterly miserable living in England for a few years. I was looking for a life-partner, I believe now that he was looking for a substitute mom.

**cocker_luva** · 06-15-2006, 03:05 PM

im getting married in late september or october. I will be just turning 19 and he will be 19 in afew months.

**lute** · 06-15-2006, 03:21 PM

i'm not married yet, but i will be soon! i'll be 18 and my hubby will be 38. i know! big age differance...it doesn't matter.

**LoudLou** · 06-15-2006, 03:45 PM

I was 26. Hubby was 36. We are exactly 10 years, 5 days apart. He was my neighbor and I thought he was loud, obnoxious, and I couldn't stand him

Funny thing 'bout love... changes everything...

**My Peanuts** · 06-15-2006, 06:04 PM

Originally Posted by ramanth

Going to be married in 16 days!

I'll be 29 and Andy is 34.

My mom was 21 and my dad 20 when they married.

Seriously, it's crazy how excited I am for you!

**My Peanuts** · 06-15-2006, 06:13 PM

Originally Posted by Uabassoon

It seems so strange to me I'm 25 and I feel like I'm way too young to be married! Although it seems like I'm almost married. I live with my partner and in August I will be adding Alexa to my benefits at work (she is graduating college and won't be on her parents insurance anymore). When people younger then me talk of getting married I always think it's too young! I don't know why I think that way, maybe I'm just immature

I'm 25 too and I feel the same way as you. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 10 years and when we were younger we would talk about marriage. Then when we got older we never talked about it anymore. It's probably a good thing since we ended up breaking up.