Friends playing "grown-ups"

[Cataholic]

All of you that are so bothered by everyone asking you when you are getting married or having kids must really hang around a bunch of ninnys. Why don't you ditch these people instead of complaining that all they do is ask you inappropriate questions all the time?

I can't think of anyone that ever asked me if/when I was getting married or having children, excluding the genuine "what is going on in your life" type conversations that you would have with a friend or close family member. It isn't like asking these things is illegal, immoral, or indecent.

As for having kids early OR late...it is such a personal decision, and there are certainly pros and cons to it. Missy represents the early marriage/child and I represent the single, never married/LATE child (WAY late, he he he).

It works for me. I can think of things I do now that younger mothers can't/don't. I can think of things that I cannot do now, as nearly a senior citizen, that would probably make Missy laugh!

The thing about other people respecting YOUR decisions...you gotta respect OTHER people's decisions, too!

[JenBKR]

Originally posted by Cataholic
All of you that are so bothered by everyone asking you when you are getting married or having kids must really hang around a bunch of ninnys. Why don't you ditch these people instead of complaining that all they do is ask you inappropriate questions all the time?

kinda hard to get away from the inlaws!!

I just don't like being told all the time what I should do with my life...I think the pregnancy/child question is kind of rude, what if we were trying and could not get pregnant?? That is no one's business

[Cataholic]

Originally posted by JenBKR
kinda hard to get away from the inlaws!!

I just don't like being told all the time what I should do with my life...I think the pregnancy/child question is kind of rude, what if we were trying and could not get pregnant?? That is no one's business

You simply look at the perpetrator and say, "You know, I really can't stand being asked that question. It bothers me. Please don't bring it up again."

If you are suggesting that despite such a direct comment from you that they would STILL ask- you have real ninnys for inlaws. I would stay away from them. Why should you subject yourself to someone that cares so little for your feelings?

[Anita Cholaine]

Perhaps I'm too "young" to give my opinion on this thread (I'm 14), but I think that I wouldn't get married and have children so young...

I want to study, go to university and that things before, there will be time to have children later.
Of course that it's different for every person. There are lots of young girls that get married when they are 18, and perhaps that's the right choise for them...