Prayers for my brother - Very Important

[trayi52]

I have no advice for you, Kelly, but I can offer prayers and good thoughts for you, your family, and Krista. May God bless you and all.

Willie

[King Spartacus]

We have a question...do we visit him?

Why not? So, he messed up... and he messed up bad... we all do! Hopefully he will realise his mistakes before it's too late. We shall pray that he will wake up, and realise how lucky he is! Otherwise he might loose all that's important to him... you, your mom and his girlfriend... let us know how it goes!

We shall keep you and your brother in our thoughts! Best wishes and a great big hug to you!

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I know it is hard, but I would not visit him; maybe he will realise he cannot go on hurting his grlfriend any longer. Be sure to welcome him though when he gets out.

PS. I have no idea what DUI is

[BitsyNaceyDog]

I'm so sorry, Kelly.

I've never been in this kind of situation, but I would say yes, visit him, but only once and only for a couple minutes. Tell him how you feel. Tell him that you are mad and disappointed. Tell him that you love him and hate to see him messing up his life. Tell him how much he is hurting his family and the people who love him. If you tell him while he is in jail as it will give him a few days to sit and think about what his is doing to himself and all of you.

((hugs))

Originally posted by Maya & Inka's mommy
PS. I have no idea what DUI is

Driving Under the Influence (of alcohol) or in other words drunk driving

[Jadapit]

I'm really sorry your brother is having problems. I think it's the best thing for him that you all didnt bail him out of jail. When you enable someone with a problem they expect that over and over, it teaches them nothing. Did that make sence?

Trev pretty much said it in his post, he has to be the one to want to change. First for himself, then for everyone else. Sadly, no one can do that for him he has to be the one to take that first step.
Maybe the courts will make him get into a program like AA or something, I know that does help a lot of people.

Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. I truly hope your brother gets it together not only for himself but his loved ones also.

[Karen]

Your whole family will be in our prayers.

[kittycats_delight]

Kelly,

I think you guys should pick just one person out of the family to go visit him. He needs to know he is not alone but he also needs to know you all CANNOT continue to bail his butt out when he gets in trouble. I think no one going to visit at all is not good. It will make him feel completely abandoned and that could make him want to do these stupid things even more. All going would give him an indication that it was ok and no matter what he does you will all support his butt and help him out. IMO...he needs to know he is not alone but he does need a reality check and knowing that you all aren't going to be behind him and bail him out maybe the way. Good Luck and lots of hugs for you and all your family.

Michelle

[luvofallhorses]

Kelly,

My heart goes out to you, your mom, and Krista. Prayers for your whole family are being sent. {{{many hugs}}}

[lv4dogs]

Oh Im so sorry to hear that. i can relate as my brother is the same way. He's 35 & has been in out of trouble due to drugs for the past 15-20 years. He has the BIGGEST heart but like you said a stupid brain. He's like Dr. jekyl & Mr. Hyde when he';s on drugs. Its such a shame.
As a matter of fact he just went back into rehab a couple months ago.
I'm sending wishful thoughts to you & your family!

[shais_mom]

I would definatley visit him. I would agree that maybe one person should do it. I would fear that if you DON'T visit him he will think he has been abandoned and drive a wedge in your relationship.
We all make mistakes but sometimes it just takes others longer to get their head screwed on straight.

love and hugs your way.

[NoahsMommy]

Thanks guys.

Just told my mom that it sounds like just having one person from the family go is best. She agreed, but told Kevin that when he was in juvinal hall made him a promise that she'd NEVER visit him if he ended up in jail.

So, guess it'll be me that goes. Nice...

My mom keeps asking if there's any way he got the Vicodin from me. She really needs to stop that...it makes me feel responsible...I don't take Vicodin, I take Norco...but still. Its making me mad.

[kittycats_delight]

Kelly, Don't be upset with your mom. I am sure she is just grasping at straws to try and figure out when, where, how and why he got his hands on them and hoping for the easiest explanation. Just be patient with her and tell her exactly what you just told us there is no way he got them from me as I don't have them. I don't take Vicodin I take Norco. Sorry mom but your answer for where he got them does not lie with me. I just don't know and it's impossible he got them from me as I don't have those. Maybe though when you visit him you can find out what happened and where he got them. I don't know if he will open up to you about what is going on with him but try to get him to and if not ask him if there is anyone he will tell. He needs to get help with his problems and if he can't open up to family about it 9 chances out of 10 they will get a psychologist involved. I don't want and I am sure none of your family wants to see him in jail for these things. I think whatever is going on with him he needs to learn to talk about otherwise he is going to continue to do stupid stuff and end up right back where he is now.

Good Luck Kelly
{{{{HUGS}}}}
Michelle

[NoahsMommy]

That's exactly what I told her...Thank you Michelle. You are 100% correct.

Hugs,
Kelly

[NoahsMommy]

Uppydate:

As I was writing my brother a letter, I found out he was released this morning at 4:45. He's home sleeping now.

I spoke with Krista and the hearing is on Monday.

I hope to impress upon him that he NEEDS to look professional, cover those tattoos and plead for his license. There's no way he'll be able to work without a license.

I left him a message on his voicemail to call me when he wakes up. I told him that I loved him and wanted to talk to him soon. I'll call him till he calls me, I need to talk some sense into him.

But, I know that he has to want to change.