I need to tell everyone something...

[micki76]

Originally posted by Kfamr
I don't know whether to be mad, sad, happy.. or all three.

I'm just not understanding how you're capable of owning yet another animal.

I just got back from the Humane Society. I have not been the best emotional-wise this month. I saw more than one dog I would have LOVED to bring home with me.. all of them NEEDED homes. BUT, I have three dogs already... they're my top priority and #1 source of happiness.

I agree. I think you should find better ways to deal with your depression.

[Tina]

Well of course I knew people were not going be happy with my decision. I wish I had not said anything at all now. I just wish people would think better of me then worse.

Maybe I did not make the right decision but I know he will have a very good home with us.

I've had a very bad time the last few months. I have had very bad depression I was in denying and my house burned last month. Plus I have felt like such a bad mom because I could not take care of my girls when they were sick. No maybe a puppy was not the answer. I will be going for some therapy tomorrow to try and help me.

I'm just trying to take it one day at a time now. Alot has changed his December 18th and it has really made me think. I am so home sick it is not funny. Hopefully when we get started on our new house it will make me feel bit better.

This is suppose be a happy time for me right now and now I just feel rotten. Thanks to the few negative post I got. I knew I should have never said anything.

I hate being so lonely and feeling like alot people don't like me. I wish I could make some friends but seems like no one wants get to know me. Yes I do have few friends but we don't talk much.

~Thanks to everyone else that has said nothing but kind things. Thankyou so very much!!~

[Corinna]

we all heal ourselves in different ways. Hes adorable, hope the house building this spring goes well. Married to a specalized carpenter I know the stress that goes in . Plan a trip while its being done. (i knoew thats not possible but but your mind in a great vacation place to get through it.)

[Kfamr]

Look at your past with animals.

Your house burnt down. You got rid of some pets, which is sort of understandable, because you'd be tight on money. You're not even in your own home, and you get another dog.

The beginning of your post said you weren't sure if you should post this, obviously you know you've done something that isn't acceptable by the majority.

Honestly Tina, I tried to be as nice as possible. I've tried to "think the better and not the bad" .. but your history with pets isn't all that "better". I've tried to REALLY become friends with you.

In all honesty, I just think you need a better coping situation than you've chosen, and you need to think of the ANIMALS and yourself. Getting more animals that you may not be able to care for financially (according to recent posts about getting rid of pets because of expenses) will just cause you more trouble.



I'm honestly sorry if this post hurts you in any way. I'm just trying to possibly show you where we're coming from. Please do not feel you need to reply back to defend yourself or what not.. it's not to be offensive. I've tried to word myself as best as possible, which is quite hard to do when i'm upset over something.


Besides all of that, he IS a very cute dog and I hope everyone, including him, is very happy.

[Tina]

You know what I know my past with animals.. and tell you the truth it hurts me more then anything! But it seems like no one cares that it has. It is like it is my fault or something.

Yes your post has hurt me..I've tried to be friendly to you. I've told you I was sorry numerous times over stupid things I said. You know things have changed which has really made me have grow up.

Yeah I don't live in my own house and I can say it was stupid move of me. Sorry for caring and loving animals so much. I can't help it! No that is not a reason and I am in no way trying to defend myself.

I know I've done lots of bad things in the past which I plan to change. I've acted very childish in the past and I'm working on that.

Sorry Kay.. but I had to reply back.

[GoldenRetrLuver]

Sorry, Tina, but I have to agree with Kay and Micki.

I'll leave it at that.. but he is a very cute puppy.

[Tina]

Originally posted by GoldenRetrLuver
Sorry, Tina, but I have to agree with Kay and Micki.

I'll leave it at that.. but he is a very cute puppy.

OK

[Kfamr]

Originally posted by Tina
You know what I know my past with animals.. and tell you the truth it hurts me more then anything! But it seems like no one cares that it has. It is like it is my fault or something.

But you see Tina, we DO care or else we wouldn't reply to your threads.

As I said, getting animals while having financial problems is only going to cause more emotional troubles inside yourself.


I'm not sure who's fault you think it is... like I said, the fire situation is understandable. But to get another animal so soon after getting rid of other's isn't.


I guess what's done is done, and there's nothing I or anyone else can do to change it, but I'm just very upset about it.

I do hope you find some sort of help whether it be from the new addition or a professional.

[Tina]

Yes I know I've made a mistake...I am sorry! I think I've should of used better judgement.

We are financially secure enough to take care of the animals we have now. I made a rush decision after the fire I could have rehomed a couple and kept the rest. But I thought we would not be able care for them.

That is a big problem I do have I make to many "sudden" decisions! I need to work on it big time.

I am sorry that what I've done has upset you. I don't like to upset anyone.

I'm nothing but a big emotional mess myself. I take everything to heart and alot things hurt me. I try to stay strong but it is hard!

[LabradorLover]

Congratulations on your new addition. He is adorable.

[bckrazy]

hey Tina I dont know anything about your situation, but I do think it's sad that you take things said here so much to heart. DONT! These boards and the people here and not here to judge you, they are here to give advice, opinions, and support. No matter what, we have all had PT people disagree with our decisions, you should not let it hurt you that much.

If you do feel so guilty about getting this puppy, maybe that is really your conscience talking? Can you afford to neuter/vaccinate/medicate, and possibly pay for the bills for this pup if he becomes sick (which SO many puppies from BYB's do!!)? I think the only reason anyone is angry/sad over this is for the animals, not because they dont like you! Personally, I would not be able to cope with 4 dogs on top of other animals and kids and having such a horrible thing happen to my home (), and financial problems, and depression! Its way too much to put on yourself, maybe the real solution to you feeling so bad is to make it easier for yourself... imho, if I were you I would foster this puppy! Neuter him, get him all healthy, socialize him, and find him an amazing home. If anything, THAT would make you feel very good!

On the other hand, I'm not telling you to adopt out your puppy. This is your decision, and you know better if you can handle this than anyone else. Just remember, puppies are a lot of work! They require huge amounts of exercise and time and exhaustion, they go through endless amounts of chew toys, and they should go through Obedience classes, which can be expensive. They are tons of work for anyone! Let alone a mom with 3 other demanding dogs, and a house to re-build! It sounds like a really tough situation ... whatever decision you make, I will not bash you for it. It's your life

[Amber]

Tina, don't worry what people say. If they are un happy on your decision then who cares about them. It's their problem. The only thing that matters is that your happy. You can't help but love animals like you do, and try your best to give them homes. I think thats great.

anyways, people need to stop looking on the downside of things. Thats not what life is about.

Congradulations on your new puppy! I know this little cutie will be very happy!

[Tina]

I'm not a single mom..I've been married for 5 1/2 years now. Yes we are going through a tough situation right now. The in-laws have been help us a bunch!! Which I am very grateful for!

Like I told Kay we are now financially secure enough take care of the pets we have now, including Jake. We will not be adding anymore for a very, very long time.

Thankyou for your concern.

[Tina]

Originally posted by Amber
Tina, don't worry what people say. If they are un happy on your decision then who cares about them. It's their problem. The only thing that matters is that your happy. You can't help but love animals like you do, and try your best to give them homes. I think thats great.

anyways, people need to stop looking on the downside of things. Thats not what life is about.

Congradulations on your new puppy! I know this little cutie will be very happy!

Thankyou Amber so much for your kind words!!!!

[dukedogsmom]

We love animals every bit as much as she does, that's why we're showing concern. I've got a great paying job but I know that I cannot care for more animals than I have now. That's called reality. If you don't care about keeping all your pets up to date with shots and all, then I guess it's alright. I, personally, prefer to give my animals the best life possible. Which is the way it should be. This isn't a Tina bashing post. I was thinking what Kay was thinking as I was driving home tonight. If she knew she shouldn't say anything, then that's a good clue that she made a hasty decision. Animals aren't disposable and shouldn't be treated as such.