First EVER pictures with Buddy and Hubby!!

[pitc9]

Originally posted by K9soul
. I wish he would just stop trying, because I think that is part of the problem, he's just trying too hard and pushing the issue too much.

OMG!! I feel the same way about Rick and Buddy!!
Rick will put the gate up in the kitchen to trap Buddy in the living room with him!! AH... WRONG!!
Rick is the only man Buddy acts like this towards! We had a salesman in our house, and I had them in crates in the basement, they were making noises and the guy told me he loved dogs and to let them out. So I did, the guy stuck his hand out and Buddy licked his name and let the STRANGER pet him!!!
(of course Rick was in the kitchen seeing all of this it really hurts him!)

K9Karen.... Yeah... that counts too!

[Pam]

Gosh Angie that is amazing that Buddy allowed a stranger to pet him and not your hubby. That would have been sooo sad for hubby to see for sure. Does your hubby ever feed Buddy or give him treats? I am sure that you have thought of this, but if you haven't it might work. If I was a dog it would be hard to dislike someone who was filling my tummy. Of course I am not a dog and have no idea what really goes on in their little furry heads.

[pitc9]

Yeah, we've tried everything everyone has told us to do... I could spend half an hour here listing all the things we've done, things we've given him (like rescue remedy... etc) to get him to calm down, people we've spoken to. (the money we have spent )The next thing I am going to do is to go see an animal communicator!! I just found out about her, and she's only 30 minutes away!!! (hey... something is bound to work!!) The funny thing... Rick is all for it!! I can't believe he doesn't think I'm nuts for wanting to do this!

[K9soul]

Angie, it almost sounds like Buddy and Tasha's issue might be similar. Donnie is so bent on winning her over that he is almost pushy about it. Last time he was here, he even asked me if I could leash her so he could pet her without her being able to run away. I told him I didn't think that would be a good idea. I've tried to explain to him that he can't force it, that I think that is a big part of her problem with him, but I think he just feels like if only he could pet her she'd learn he wasn't a bad guy. The thing is she doesn't WANT him to pet her and I think she feels threatened because she senses his determination.

When she was 6-7 months old and first started showing signs of skittishness around him, he reached and took hold of her collar when she was sniffing his hand cautiously.... Wrong wrong wrong thing to do... she panicked and felt trapped. She didn't growl or bite but she was obviously frightened and he let go, and that was it, she never trusted him again. I wonder if Rick has that same sort of determination and Buddy senses it and that is what makes him feel threatened. He might even be perceiving it as Rick being determined to dominate him. If that's the case Rick trapping him in the room with him isn't a very good idea.. but I know how hard it is to explain these things. Donnie just doesn't understand either.

Maybe if the animal communicator can tell him he needs to just totally ignore Buddy and let the trust develop on its own.. I really think that could be the issue if it is anything like Tasha and Donnie's issue.

[pitc9]

I know, I guess some people just don't understand the way dogs see things!!

I have tried many times to explaine to Rick how Buddy is feeling when he traps him in a room. But Rick just does not understand!

But... I will keep on trying to get Rick to understand, and I'm sure you will keep trying with Donnie!!

[cloverfdx]

What great photos but such a sad situation. I wish you the best of luck with the animal communicator. {{Hugs}}

[Christiansmommy]

I know how stressful it can get when the dog and the hubby don't see eye to eye all of the time. Though, in my case, Dale and Rob get along fine, but it can get frustrating around here, when hubby loses patience with Dale. Dale is still in puppy mode and we still have to train him, and a 100 lb dog in puppy mode can get frustrating...and hubby just doesnt have the patience with him that i have...and i deal with my 3 year old toddler and Dale all day (which is like having 2 toddlers in the house), and hubby doesnt spend nearly as much time with both of them ( since he works during the day)...anyway, it can get hard when you love the dog, but then conflict arises...so (HUGS)) to you and hope it continues to work out for you BOTH...your hubby sounds great for being so patient with Buddy, i am sure, most husbands would have given up by now...

[captain]

WOW - you sure have perservered .......... and I am so happy to read that.

I hope that the Dog Communicator can shed some light ...

{{{hugs}}}

[Kater]

Somehow I missed this until now....
What wonderful progress! I hope things continue to improve! This is obviously very hard on everyone (except Sierra ) and it's amazing that you have perservered so well.
Thank you so much for sharing these great pictures! I hope you'll have more to show us soon!

[ramanth]

What wonderful news!

[anna_66]

Angie I bet you are happy! I remember when you came to the park and was telling me about how they don't get along and you hated to even leave them both at home with each other.
This is such a huge step for Buddy and your hubby! I'm so glad Buddy is getting where he can trust him

[pitc9]

Yes Anna, I am very happy!

I think I'll be okay with leaving Buddy home with Rick when Sierra and I come to the Park the end of this month.

I'll feel like a bad mom for not taking him with us, but he just does not travel well (the barfing machine that he is )
I really think the reason he was so freaked out last year was because there were sooooo many dogs! Also he is very protective of me when other dogs are around!

I think them having a day together... just the two of them, could be a good thing!

I pray it is!!

[DJFyrewolf36]

This reminds me so much of my parents dobie Max. For a while he growled and carried on if anyone other than dad aproached him. I let him check me out on his own and I didn't act afraid of him (although with his big teeth it was kind of hard!) Now we are good pals, and he always bugs me to pet him whenever I visit! It takes time and patence, and I applaud your husband for trying to work things out instead of just giving poor Buddy away.