Feeling pretty rotten right now

[micki76]

Originally posted by Shelteez2
As for the grooming I would get her professionally groomed and then to keep up with it I would get a zoom groom. A zoom groom will be your best friend. It really makes the hair fly and you can use it on your dobe as well.

So true! We have two zoom grooms. Best thing ever invented, IMO. We use one on them dry and one in the bath tub when we're bathing them.

Originally posted by LorraineO
I think this grooming and good cleaning just might turn me over .... This is also my first really what I would call a long haired dog,,, its all new to me,, I get a bit frazzled with new.....

Lorraine, I get freaked out by change too. I hate the stress that comes from change, and the time that it takes me to adapt to all of it. To me, it should happen faster, but life doesn't happen in "Micki time" as my husband calls it.

Give it a bit of time for the "dust to settle" and see how you feel. If you still feel it's not right, then it probably isn't. Just don't jump the gun out of your fears. You might miss out on a once in a lifetime.

[Harmanie]

perhaps you should give her a chance ya know. Maybe you will get that connection. I mean if you thought it was there, maybe it is. Maybe you gatta find it ya know??
{{{hugs}}}

[anna_66]

Well I was just wondering how things went last night ans so far this morning with Rose. She is a gorgeous girl!
I totally understand about the hair and all and as everyone has said a good grooming and daily brushing will really take care of most of that. But that being said, don't just keep her because you feel guily. It wouldn't be fair to her or to you.
Whatever your decision, we'll stand behind you

[LorraineO]

Taking HUGE breath here.....

We have decided that we wont keep her... I just cant pretend to feel what I dont feel... With every dog I have owned,, I have had an instant connection,,, with rose,, I dont. My son feels the same way.... My hubby likes her just as we all do,, but *ITS* just not happening...

she does indeed deserve a home that can give her the total love she so richly deserves.. I cant provide that fully. My heart isnt there. shes a lovely dog,, perfect for someone,, just not us.

Now if youll all excuse me.. I think I will go wallow in th guilt I cant seem to shake.....

Thank you,,, You just have no idea of just how much all of your thoughts and inputs have meant to me.... thank you a million times.

[Albea]

If the long coat is a problem, try this:
Dual Action Undercoat Rake
I just bought one at Foster and Smith and is terrific ( I doubt very much any dog can shed as much as a Golden) It's easy to clean and comfortable to handle. It 's sold for $ 7.99 through the catalog, but if you have a pet supply store near by they might carry it.
Also, dogs can adapt quickly to new environments, but depending on her past, Rose may take a bit longer. Give both of you some time.
Good luck.
Doctors Foster and Smith

[LorraineO]

Originally posted by Albea
If the long coat is a problem, try this:
Dual Action Undercoat Rake
I just bought one at Foster and Smith and is terrific ( I doubt very much any dog can shed as much as a Golden) It's easy to clean and comfortable to handle. It 's sold for $ 7.99 through the catalog, but if you have a pet supply store near by they might carry it.
Also, dogs can adapt quickly to new environments, but depending on her past, Rose may take a bit longer. Give both of you some time.
Good luck.
Doctors Foster and Smith

the hair is a problem for me,, but not the deciding problem. I just dont feel what I should feel.... thats the bottom line.

[lute]

LorraineO, i'm terribly sorry it didn't work out. i bet you'll find the right dog soon.

[caseysmom]

Now that you have made your decision I can say that I have also felt an instant bond with my dogs, maybe it has something to do with the fact that you already have one I don't know. You did what you felt was best don't feel bad, she is with a rescue they will find her a loving home.

[Kfamr]

It's really too bad you guys aren't keeping her.
Do you plan on looking for another dog? Maybe this time you could just visit shelters and all and wait til one just grabs all of your hearts and fits in with what you want.


I don't mean to sound rude if at all, but I truely hope that Rose find a family that will give her more time.

[LorraineO]

Originally posted by Kfamr
It's really too bad you guys aren't keeping her.
Do you plan on looking for another dog? Maybe this time you could just visit shelters and all and wait til one just grabs all of your hearts and fits in with what you want.


I don't mean to sound rude if at all, but I truely hope that Rose find a family that will give her more time.

no,, it doesnt sound rude,, we had enuff tine to know for sure that it wasnt gonna happen,, thats why we had an overnight visit arranged before signing any papers and all.. We thought that was the most responsible thing to do.

for now,, I dont feel very good emotionally so I wont be looking at any dogs,,,, for a while anyways. despite what you might think,,, it was very hard on me personally to have to say no to thisadoption,, I honestly thought it felt right... but in the end,, it want. I didnt enter this lightly is what I mean.

[DogLover9501]

I think you made a good decision, especially since you made it based on(mostly) what is best for Rose.

I know exactly what you mean though.

I didn't have a chance to connect with Jasper right away, as he was in another province(your province ), I watched him get bottle fed on webcam, and watched him playing with a bullmastiff, and chasing other dogs, all on webcam, and I was in love with him just with those little daily videos of him growing! But it was SO hard not to be able to reach in and grab him

I agree with Kay, you should just go shearch the shelters/rescues..etc, I have decided to do the same with my next dog, instead of another breeder like I was going to do.

Im sure you'll find a dog perfect for you

[Tonya]

Originally posted by Kfamr
I don't mean to sound rude if at all, but I truely hope that Rose find a family that will give her more time.

It is kind of a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. Look how much time and effort Foam gave Ozzy, and it was heartbreaking for her to give him up. (PLEASE don't start a debate on that.)

It may be more painful and confusing for Rose if she's at Lorraine's for a while and then suddenly rehomed at a foster home again. I think if someone isn't going to keep a dog, the sooner the better for the decision making.

Lorraine, I respect your decision. I am confident that Rose will find a wonderful home. She is to sweet and beautiful not to. Getting a new dog is a huge commitment and you are stuck with it for many years. You have to find an animal that works right for you.

[LorraineO]

thank you Tonya for your words andsupport,, I am very happy to know you saw our point of view on this very painful experience....

Trust me,, I shed a tear or two,,, but how else does one learn .....

Rose will indeed fine her perfect forever home.

[lovemyshiba]

That's too bad.
I'm glad you did decide to take her for a "test drive" first.
That's what we did with Abbey. We only had Kito, and wanted to get him a friend (yeah, right). We took her on a Friday, and were to report in with the rescue on Sunday. It was hard at first, and I'm glad we had the weekend to decide, because based on initial reactions, I'm not sure if she would be here now

I'm sure you did what was best for her and your family.

[anna_66]

Well of course I'm sorry to hear that you won't be keeping her because I know how much you wanted her to "fit" into your family. Sometimes it's just not right. Don't wallow in th guilt, this girl obviously just wasn't meant to be with you if no one else felt the connection either. I'm sure she'll find a great forever home!