Parents And Unruly Kids

[luckies4me]

Originally posted by Sirrahsim
good grief! that reminds me of a horror story that one of my friends who works at the "Child Development Center" here on base told me. They are an accredited institution and because of that they have a million stupid rules to follow. The stupidest rule of all: They are not allowed to tell a child "No". This place is supposedly all about positivity. An employee can get fired on the spot if they tell a child "No". One of my friend's coworkers was working with the 3 year olds one day when one of the little curtain climbers ( ) decided to climb up onto a bookcase and jump off into a pile of pillows. The employee's only choice was to try to redirect the children's attention to something else. But then you know three years olds, if one jumps off a bookcase, they all want to. It's so dumb. The employee was not allowed to tell the kids to stop climbing on the bookcases, but then she still got in trouble when a parent saw what was going on in the moniters. (there are cameras in every room hooked up to screens in the main lobby). How in the heck are kids supposed to learn right from wrong if you can't tell them "No" or express any negative emotion at them.... Holy cow, a swat to the butt isn't going to emotionally scar a child and neither is being told "no" if they are misbehaving... *sigh* what kind of world are my kids going to grow up in

That is just ridiculous!!! OMG I cannot believe that. How much stupider can it get? Dylan has very stern discipline. He is NOT allowed to do whatever he wants, knows the values of please and thank you and communication. There is no whining in my house. Either you tell me what you want or you don't get it at all. We are very strict, but in a loving way. When my child acts well, he gets rewarded with plenty of time coloring, painting, a trip to the park etc.

[wolfie]

Originally posted by luckies4me
When my child acts well, he gets rewarded with plenty of time coloring, painting, a trip to the park etc.

That's how positive reinforcement is SUPPOSED to work! It's not just never using the word 'no.'

[RICHARD]

http://www.worldmagblog.com/archives/006186.html

Some interesting thoughts on the recent ban of spanking in England....

[DJFyrewolf36]

I wonder how the youth will turn out if this becomes a worldwide mandate

I really don't know!

[carole]

Richard they want to ban spanking here in NZ too, it is sure on the cards, I see nothing wrong with a spank now and then, I guess that day comes i will have to hang up my rights as a parent to discipline my child as I see fit.

I certainly donot believe in corporal punishment, but sometimes a spank , just a quick one is all that is needed.

[anna_66]

Because they're stupid, just plain stupid

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by carole
I see nothing wrong with a spank now and then, I guess that day comes i will have to hang up my rights as a parent to discipline my child as I see fit.

If you give up your 'rights' remember you still have a LEFT hook, jab and uppercut.

[carole]

Gee thanks Richard I will keep that in mind lol.

[RICHARD]

ugh.

I went to a kiddy party yesterday and one little kid really irritated me.

I told him to go grab something to eat, a burger or a dog.

He looked at me and said, "I DON'T LIKE THAT KIND OF FOOD."

I then asked him if he liked MacDonald's, this six year old answered, "Chicken Nuggets is the only thing I tolerate, I won't eat anything else from the menu."

After he got into a fight with another child, He went to throw rocks at the concrete pillar that held the drinking fountain while staring at the boy he fought with. .

"Please don't throw rocks at the fountain."

Clack, clack, clack.

"Please don't throw rocks at the fountain."

He turned about and gave me a look - If he could have he would
have pitched one at me. I could see the hate seething from this kids eyes!


Talking to one of the parents I found out that he had spent the night at their home. At four thirty in the morning the 'Bad Seed'
walked into the bedroom where he and his wife were asleep, woke them up and demanded to be taken home.

Everytime I glanced around to check on the kids this one was
hitting, breaking or throwing something.

Normally I like kids, but this one truly scared me.

I found myself worrying about where he was at all times and towards the end of the party I never let him walk behind me.

I laughed on the way home.

It had been a while since I felt threatened by a 6 year old....

[DJFyrewolf36]

Kids like that make me scared to have children lol!

[Tonya]

I've had my fair share of unruly kids since my house went on the market. I think it is so rude to bring small misbehaving children into my house and let them run loose while you decide rather or not you feel like buying my house.

Last week, one of the kids let my snake loose.

Today, this family came with their realtor. They didn't call first. They walked in without knocking. They had a 5, 2, and 8 year old. The eight year old immediatly started digging into my son's toys. The five year old screamed bloody murder hysterically because I owned dogs. My dogs were secured away. But that wasn't enough. I couldn't hear myself think with her screeches. So, while I'm running back and forth babysitting the 5 and 8 year old, the 2 year old let herself in my backyard and let Sarah loose.

[Laura's Babies]

My grandson was always getting into trouble at school.. They would scold him and he would cry...He must have been 7 or 8 at the time.. He had the perfect answer for them when they asked him WHY he can't behave at school... He told them "I can't help it if YOU never taught me to behave!" He was soooo right! I left the room so no one would see me laughing..

[RICHARD]

Originally posted by Laura's Babies
He told them "I can't help it if YOU never taught me to behave!" He was soooo right! I left the room so no one would see me laughing..

rotflmao,

From the mouth's of babes....

[chrissycat21]

We'll listen if there is a punishment or you did something to grab our attention (a little slap, no computer for a week, etc.)

We draw unwanted attention to ourselves for almost no reason ("I want the CD pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaase!")

Our obstacle in life is to do something bad and not get in trouble.

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Not all kids are like that (not me, not me!) but some are. Some of my little sister's friends for instance.....

-Chrissy

[leslie flenner]

What in the heck were the parents doing? Did they make just gestures to control the kids? you know in the 60s it was safe to make the kids stay in the car- my mom sent me to the car plenty of times! Should be an alternative for the "Go to the car and WAIT!" punishment! Didn't you have a strong urge to discipline them yourself but didn't want to lose the opportunity to sell the house!?