starting to get fed up...

[cali]

argh! she was just on the phone talking to my grandma. first she said she would gladly send shadow off to live somewhere else! tAND she could not remember shadows age! jeeze just because she gets new dogs NO reason to forget about the first one. argh looks like I have a new hairy dog to take full care of(minus exersize which my dad still does).

[Dogz]

You are getting rid of Shadow?!? I am a little confused but

[wolf_Q]

Originally posted by cali
argh! she was just on the phone talking to my grandma. first she said she would gladly send shadow off to live somewhere else! tAND she could not remember shadows age! jeeze just because she gets new dogs NO reason to forget about the first one. argh looks like I have a new hairy dog to take full care of(minus exersize which my dad still does).

If your mom is that uncaring towards your dogs she certainly should not be bringing new dogs into the household.

[binka_nugget]

It can be hard but either way, things must be done. If you can't get her to teach you how to properly trim her hair, maybe you can ask a groomer for some advice? Or maybe someone from flyball who has had more experience in clipping hair.

[Twisterdog]

I'm just guessing here ... but could part of the problem with your mom's attitude towards Shadow have to do with the fact that Shadow is your dad's dog, your mom and dad have separated, and your dad's dog is still living with you? Perhaps your mom feels some resentment towards your dad, and therefore towards his dog? Even if she doesn't say it, or doesn't even realize it, maybe it is subconsciously there anyway.

I kept my ex's dogs for a month or so, because he just couldn't get his ducks in a row. I did it for the dogs, and for his grandfather, who was stuck with them and was just too old to handle them. Yet, I did resent it, even though I volunteered to do it. Adult relationships are hard and confusing and ugly at times. We do honestly try our best not to involve our pets or kids in our problems, but sometimes it happens anyway.

I guess you are probably stuck with the pet care. You could try talking to your mom, making a schedule. That might work. But, if not, you'll just have to do it. It's the best thing for the dog. Maybe your mom just needs a little time to get her ducks in a row, too.

[Moose]

Whatever the deal with your mom may be, this isn't fair to Shadow. Don't worry about the trim looking gorgeous, just as long as you do it. Shadow certainly wouldn't care provided she physically felt better.

I'm confused now, though.....what is Shadow's status? Are you getting rid of her???

[cali]

no we are not getting ride of shadow lol.
twister you may be right my mom is always saying "well shadow is your DADS dog" and my dad takes care of shadow as much as he can considering he does not live here. but I talked to my mom and she said she just finds shadow to be really boring now. well what does she expect shadow is a senior, and a lethargic, arthritic one at that! I mean her arthritis has improved a lot with diet, but she is still not overly active, and lays down a lot. I just wish she would give shadow a chance, she can be really fun if givin a chance, I take shadow to agility, and walks, and Rally-O, she is a little lazy and tires quickly but she LOVES it! I mean not giving shadow chance could very well be related to my dad. she gives all the other dogs chances and even with her doubt she still tries. I did not think that it may have something to do with shadow belonging to my dad, but that could be.