Leaving..

[Logan]

Life can be so hard.

Foam, I hope you will stay with us. Talk to us individually, or as a group. I don't think there is a more loving, concerned group of people in the world, than right here.

Sometimes when I hear people say "I'll pray for you, or you are in my prayers", I think, yeah right. You know what, I think Pet Talk prayers and support mean more than that. I haven't met or become friends with a single insincere person on this board, which is why I talk so much and have been here so long. Karen and Paul will have to boot me out to make me leave.

You stay here, where your friends are. Sometimes, cyber friends can be our best friends. I know that my very best friends were met right here and those 5 know just who they are.

Logan

[Kfamr]

It just sounds like a normal teenage thing to me.

You'll get over it, just live with what you have. Sometimes one or two close friends is what's best.

Dont leave us. Both you and Darlin will me missed.

[CathyBogart]

Hey, don't leave! If this is where you find solace stay!! Even if you do choose not to post as much, stay and know that we love ya!

[Foam]

Thank so much, you guys..I really deeply appreciate all of this. I really didn't think anyone would care about me so much...I didn't think you guys liked me this much!
I know I'm definetly not leaving now..mut I just need some time. I'll probably come and lurk around a bit every day, but most likley not post. I just need some time to think.
Thank guys..I really appreciate it..SO so much.

[ILoveMyAbbyGirl]

Yay!!! I'm glad you're not leaving... I would be so lonely!

[sammi]

Foam, I think we all care about each other here - it may not always show but when it gets rough we help each other out. Young or old! I care about you and I hope things get better. Life is tough sometimes esp. when your younger and can't do what you want.
Get a good nights sleep and keep in touch with us at least.

[Rachel]

Seems like a lot of Rachels don't want you to go Count me as another one. All the people who have posted here are very sincere and have given you some good advice. If you get to feeling down, take another look at what they have said. You and Darlin make a terrific addition to Pet Talk. Lurk all you want. And then when you feel like it, post your little heart out. You don't see me posting too much, but sometimes, like right now, I am compelled to make my feelings known.

And thanks for sharing the picture. You are beautiful and of course Darlin is just DARLING!

[binka_nugget]

I'm so glad you're not leaving! Don't worry, this is normal. I (and many others) have gone through some type of teenage depression. Mine lasted for a couple years and I'm still on the road to recovery. It gets better, trust me. Once you have time to think, everything seems not so bad. You've just got to see everything as a little thing and not a huge cluster. Just take your time...and go through all those tough things bothering you...you'll feel better eventually. And remember, hugging a nearby dog guarentees a smile.

[gini]

Foam, your original post has upset me and as you can tell, all of us here are concerned about you.

Do you need some attention? Come to Pet Talk, we will all give it to you. Do you need some cyber hugs, we won't let you down.

Do we care about you - you betcha. Take one look at your beautiful picture and Darlin and you have us all in the palm of your hand.

Life can be very hard and all of us in one way or another, have been there and we understand.

Now you can't leave, because we will fill your in=box with plenty of messages asking where you are and how you are.

Everything about you has been a delight here on Pet Talk, keep it up = go ahead and lurk - but post once in a while because all of us care.

This is family = and don't you forget it!

[Foam]

Thank you everyone..but I think I'm back t where I was earlier.
I was on the phone after 10. It's the weekend, and I have nothing to do tomorrow, and my parents weren't even asleep yet. So, I was on the phone with my friend Amy and he came up and yelled at me for it. **Please excuse the laguage. but this is how it went**
"Get OFF the phone!"
"Dad, it's the weekend..Why can't I be on the phone?"
"Because you're 12, and it's after 10 o' clock GET OFF!"
"But-"
"OFF!"
"Dad, liste-"
"Get off the phone, daughter!"
So then I started yelling, because I couldn't take it any longer..
"Dad! LISTEN to me!"
So he sits himself down on the bed firmly, hardly and crosses his arms and sits straight up.
"Okay! I'm lsitening! Talk to me...verbalize!"
"Dad, why can't I-"
"This is our problem! You don't LISTEN!"
"No, dad, our problem is that YOU don't ****ing listen to ME!"
He makes an angry loud noise, gets up and smacks me over the head twice. He grabs the phone, ripping out the batteries, and turns it off.
"Don't TALK like that!"
So he stomps otu the door, as he does..I'm sorry I couldn't help but tel him how I felt..not like he cared, though.
"Dad, **** you. I ****ing HATE you!"
He stomps over, and SLAPS the side of my head hard as he can and leaves..

Sorry, but I couldn't help but tell him how much I hate him.
I just don't want to have to put up with this anymore, guys...

[CathyBogart]

I've learned that your chosen family is much better than your given family most of the time.

[Kfamr]

I think he had the right to tell you to get off the phone. But, that's just me.

I am glad you're sticking around.

[wolfsoul]

He slapped you? This upsets me...You know it's very illegal for someone, even a father, to slap a child anywhere other than the hand (atleast here it is).

I know I'm not you, but if one of my parents slapped me I'd call the police and then get my way into a pet-friendly foster home. No matter what you do, it's not right to have to put up with this. Even if he was right about the phone (being a teenager myself, I would have done the same thing talking back, and so maybe that's why my point of veiw is somewhat clouded), it's still no reason to be physcially or emotionally abused. Think about it this way --- you would never want anyone to slap Darlin --- Well it's the same way here --- we don't want you to get slapped around. I know that most would be reluctant to do this, but I'd suggest getting some help. Whether this is the first time, or not, I don't know or care, it just doesn't seem right in my opinion.

[gini]

Oh, you beautiful young girl. Let me wrap my arms around you and tell you how special you are and how very sorry that I am that you parents won't stop to listen to you.

Sometimes parents have their own stress, pressures, and they don't realize it, but they take it all out on you. And you don't deserve it.

Would it help you if you started a journal? Do you have a notebook handy that you could grab a pen or pencil and just start writing down everything that you feel right now? I have done this when I am very angry, and it has helped.

No child should ever be slapped......and I am not happy with your Dad for doing that to his beloved daughter. I am sure he doesn't mean to hurt you either.

Please, keep posting and telling us what is going on.

Foam, you cannot give up - you don't realize how very special you are........and I know how hurt and misunderstood you must feel right now.

Please post again and soon.

Stop and hug your beautiful dog, let him help you heal right now.

[gini]

An additional thought........do you have anyone close to you that you could talk to........a relative......someone you can trust?
Are you a member of a church of any kind, where there is someone that you could feel safe with to talk?

Your father is out of line in slapping you. It is called simply -abuse! And in most states, it is against the law.

Now asking you to get off of the telephone is one thing........but slapping you around is a whole different matter. Is this the way your dad usually treats you?