Do people judge you?

[iceyshiver21]

I instead of watching them do it....go up and start convo with them. I dont dress the nicest either. I change their opinion. Its rather funny to see my clothes, my ripped jeans, faded tees, hot pink hats, pins up and down the pant legs. jammies to school and wally world. My friends dress the same as you describe...we call it Marshall goth. I've met so many new people this way. Talk to them. They learn not to judge.

[Edwina's Secretary]

Of course people judge me. And I judge people. It is a survival mechanism that is instinctive in humans -- well in all creatures. Past experiences drives future behavior. If in the past I had a bad experience with a person who looked a certain way, or acted a certain way, etc., my instinct is going to be to expect the same experience.

If I see a person coming toward me with a gun I am going to judge him or her and not wait to find out what kind of person they are on the inside.

I can however, change people's impression of those who look/ act like me....as others have suggested as well!

[Twisterdog]

People judge other people on their looks ... because it's all they know about them. If you have never met someone, how can you judge them on their personality? You can't. People have to have some sort of screening system, it's human nature. I'm not saying it's right or wrong, it's just the way the human brain works.

I really don't have a problem with it too much, as long as it is based on things one can control. For example, I have two tattoos, and I recently put blonde stripes in my dark brown hair. Now, I'm not really one of the ooolllldddd people you speak of, I am 35, so I do probably get some funny looks from more conservative people my age. But, I don't care. If I would have cared, I wouldn't have made the choice to get tattoos and stripe my hair. If we choose to look a certain way, then we also consciously choose the impact and effect it has on others. If we don't want people staring at us and commenting about us, then we should not do things to bring on attention. If we don't care, then we probably shouldn't complain when it happens.

I do have a problem with judging people based on things they can't control, however ... such as race, handicap, etc. I HATE people who judge other people by the color of their skin or their religion, etc. That's just wrong, and there's no way to justify it.

Also, try to keep this in mind .... someday YOU will be one of the ooooolllllllddddd people, and you cannot even begin to imagine right now what young people will be doing, wearing and saying in sixty years. Yep, I know what you're thinking, "Yeah, but I'M not going to be some old fuddy-duddy, I'm always going to be cool." Well, that's probably what those ooolllldddd people in Petsmart thought 60 years ago, too! I once saw a bumper sticker on a big old car driven about 30 miles per hour by a tiny little old lady. I was getting frustrated creeping along behind her, when I saw her bumper sticker. It said, "Someday, you too will be old." Wow, that really hit home for me. Always try to walk a mile in someone else's shoes before you criticise them ... isn't that exactly why you posted this thread? You were frustrated by people judging you without knowing you? Isn't that kind of what you are doing? Judging ooolllldddd people without knowing what it's like to be old, sick, scared and maybe alone in a world that is moving too fast for you to possibly keep up with? Just some food for thought .....

[cali]

I dont know what its like to be judged negitivly but I remeber some old people were like freaking out and getting all upset and scared when they saw my brother, because he wheres baggy cloths, a mohalk with blue tips, an earing in one ear. he was scaring the old folks, but my brother is really really nice, and very religous believe it or not, he lives on his own, with very few possesions no car(takes the bus, or walks) and travels a lot. he even got kicked out of a store once when he did not do anything wrong, but hey he's 17 therefore he must be up to no good people like me lol, I dress sort of like a girl, but I could not care less about being dirty, I have dogs, got a problem?? I dont care who likes my style, why would I want to be friends or go out with someone who does not like my style?? besides the only people who have a problem with me walking around covered in mud is snobby stuck up girly girls. for heaven sakes I walk into a restraunt after running around outside in the mud and water for 9 hours, and I dont mean a fast food joint. lol

[iceyshiver21]

I find it sad that some of the seniors start singing "Jeuses Loves me" as me and my friends walk by. They did that every day until I told them the right words to the song.

[iceyshiver21]

oh and on the old people thing I LOVE OLD PEOPLE AND THEY LOVE ME!!!!!!!

Arn't we sweet?!?! Im on the Left, Jenny the one who was really really sick at the time is in the center, and Kels is at the Right!
Our clothing consists of most black and red. We're goth. Just Marshall Goth, which is what we are called around here if you own and Black clothing and wear it.
AND MY PRETTY PINK HAT that I talked about earlier

[Ally Cat's Mommy]

Cool pics - I think as long as you are comfortable with yourself then you're doing fine

[cloverfdx]

~chuckles~ oh yes the judgement flys when im out (not too often) and usualy goes along the lines of F(censored) Hippie lmao, that sort of stuff does not bother me and i just laugh it off

[RubyMutt]

Yes, I'm sure I have been judged many a time (it happens to the best of us ). It used to bother me, but that's just the way things are. It sucks when people can be so closed-minded, but I try not to let just a few shallow people get to me.
One of my favorite quotes by the honorable Dr. Seuss:
"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."

[primabella]

In my school, everyone judges everybody. I hate it. I used to be best friends with these two girls but one day they just ditched me and my other friend because we weren't "cool" enough. It's so stupid. I'm a lot happier now but still, they can't just stick a label on me like that. Anyways, I used to hate all the "popular" people in my school because I figured they were all like thos etwo girls. I was wrong. This year, a lot of them spoke to me and they were really nice. That's when I myself learned not to judge so quickly. I don't really get dirty looks but if I do, I just ignore them. It's their loss if they want to be stuck up and that shallow.

Once I was on the bus with my friend and the morons around us were pushing eachother around and they ended up hitting me, so I ended up falling on these old ladies. They started swearing at me in French and saying how stupid and impolite young people were. As if they were any better? They practically shoved me onto the floor