Poor kitty won't stop peeing on my bed, I'm at my wits end here, please help

[Running Wolf]

I had my Ember squat and pee on the dirty clothes in the bathroom (right in front of me while I was on the can). She had peed on the clothes maybe once or twice before.

I grabbed her by the scruff of the neck and stuck her nose in where she peed and screamed at her. I got my arm all clawed up. I wasn't out to hurt her just hold her in place to know what she did was wrong. I'd rather hurt myself than hurt my fuzzy friend.

Ember loved to sit in the bathroom window and watch the people in the park lot. I locked her out of the bathroom for a week, I also totally ignored her for a week..... As she is an attention fiend that really bummed her out the most.
She hasn't peed any place but her litter box since then.

[heidipacher]

In reply to the peeing outside the box, I've been going through this with one cat for 2.5 years now.

I live in my grandmother's place. She moved out 3 years ago and took her cat. The place smelled, but it was difficult to tell the cause, as grandma had fallen and soiled herself more than once. She moved out and lived in a retirement home for 6 months with her cat who had no problems there.

Grandma passed away and then the cat come live with me back in his old place. Before I moved in, we had the carpet replaced and floors sealed. However, most of my grandmothers things were gone and I had a new cat, a male. The other cat had peed, marking carpet, especially if I was gone overnight. Soon the two had marked every corner of every room. The other cat died last October and grandma's cat settled down, but continued to poop and pee on carpet. He has occasionally sprayed grandma's furniture too. Gross.

I use a carpet cleaner regularly, enzyme spray, carpet deoderizer powder, etc. I've used feliway, but it is expensive and hard to keep up.

I've spent a lot of time consulting with my vet. Cat took buspar for months, for anxiety when he came home. I put him on it again recently when I adopted another cat. He has sinced calmed down.

Both cats go out, I let this one out in the morning and evening and all day when I am home and no problems occur when he goes out. Both cats have their own litterboxes and food dishes. Got new uncovered litterboxes, and I buy news ones at least 1x year.

He seems pretty happy, but does have other odd behavior (long story, I taped it and the vet viewed it and sent it off to consultants). He follows me whenever I go out and walks with me like hes a dog.

But anyway, I think I have found something that works-plug ins that contain feline facial pheromone. I saw a cheesy ad in a magazine and searched all over Seattle to find them. One full component costs $40.00 with refills of $20.00. Farnam pets has a website with coupons and locations. I bought mine at Petco

I have had one plugged in as an experiment and no problems as of yet in the room where it is plugged. It is supposed to help cats relax.

I agree that rubbing noses does not work. It serves to teach the cat to fear you and reminds them where they peed.

I contained my cat in a bathroom to retrain him to use the litterbox. gave him toys, food, water, light, litter, and he tore up the toilet paper. Oh well. He now uses the litterbox and may still pee on the carpet.

I figure the cost of the plug ins, if they work, is well worth it. I would rather not fuss every night in the dark with a black light. To the fiance who wants the litterbox in the basement I have this message: get over it. Cats pee in their teritory. Are you going to move your bathroom to the backyard?

It really sucks to be stepping in litter when I get out of the shower, but it has helped to put a box in each bathroom for the cats to use.

I would also never get rid of the cat. I don't regret anything. I've taken care of my grandmothers cat and will continue to til his time comes. I've adopted 4 cats in the past 10 years from people who gave them up (aside from gram). I work as a social worker and will just not give up on them!

we need people who are committed to caring for pets properly and are not giving up on them because they've got a problem. Imagine what they think of us!!

[Running Wolf]

Just a side note to what you said about getting rid of a cat because of an S.O. reminded me of what a friend of mine said about his (now passed away) dog. He had said something to the effect of “In the past 7 years I’ve had one dog and about 5 women in my life. The dog was better company and friendship than all of the women put together.”

When I was looking for an apartment someone was stupid enough to ask me if the place had to take cats! My reply was that I would rather be celibate than give up my cat.

Amazing what people who don’t have pets think…. Same type of morons who say something along the lines of “you can always get another cat/dog/ect” when your fuzzy buddy passes on. Pets are like family (sometimes better than family as they truly offer unconditional love) and I dare say the people who say what I said above would never tell a person that “oh you can always remarry.” “You can always have another child.” Or other such harsh remark in the face of a personal loss.

[heidipacher]

Running wolf you are right. I took in three cats that people gave up and the one after my grandmother died. Tow of the cats were given up by people who cited allergies. The most recent one was a man who had his daughter's cat and his new girlfriend was moving in and allergic.

Whatever. Thats what they make zyrtec for!

It only matters how much we value the animals. We see them as family members, others see them as property or work or something else.

[Running Wolf]

Know what you mean. I am slightly allergic to cats and refuse to take one of those once a day allergy pills (I don’t suffer from them everyday so I am not going to take a pill everyday). The only way cats get my allergies kicked into gear is if I stick my face right next to them when I am petting them (no clue if it is the dander or hair)….

… But I’d rather sneeze for an hour and have itchy eyes than not have my little alien pod creature (at this point I know she is not a cat ). Ember and me have been putting up with each other longer than my ex wife and me were married. I don’t miss the ex wife but if I go away for a weekend I miss Ember coming up and bugging me for some pettings when I am trying to get some sleep.