Went to a funeral today

[Corinna]

So sorry for your loss. I just finished an reading an article about a photographer in Mexico that got his start taking childrens photos that had died from the flu in the 1890's . They were very tastfully done, being held by the parents. It was the only photo ever taken of these kids. In some cultures it is the only time an image is done. I'm not saying I agree but it is just the way some are.
My mom has told us she wants a jazz funeral, lots of music and celebration and stories of her and freinds. Some in my family will be shocked,but it is her wishes.She has even picked out her faviorte pieces of music so there can be no agurements on what she wants.

[Logan]

Amy, I am so very sorry about the loss of your grandfather. You know, each person grieves in his/her own way. I prefer to remember my loved ones the way they were, not the way they are after they die. I have refused funeral home visits many, many times when my relatives have passed away and my family just understands that it is better for me that way.

I'm happy that you had some redeeming eulogies done for your grandfather. It is an awkward time and some people just aren't good at public speaking. Sounds like your uncle is one of those.

You take care, and know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. I'm glad you told us so that we can support you during this difficult time.

Logan

[lovemyshiba]

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your grandfather. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family right now. My grandfather passed away in 1994, right before Thanksgiving, and not a year passes by when I don't wish he was there at the table with us.
I have never ever heard of pictures being taken at a funeral. My uncle owns a funeral home, and I have never heard of or seen this. But to each his or her own, I suppose.
That picture is so cute, of you with your grandpa, cherish it, and the times you had together always.

[slleipnir]

I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandpa :[ I only really knew one of my grandparents, and I know how hard that was for me when she passed on :'[

[Aspen and Misty]

I so sorry to hear about this Amy ::hugs:: My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Ash

[primabella]

((hugs))

i am sorry for your loss. feel better and take care

[zippy-kat]

{{I'm so sorry, Amy.}}
I can understand a bit of what you are going through. When I was little (in first grade), my mom's mom passed away. We went to her funeral--first I'd ever been too--and up until 2 years ago, it was the last I had attended. It was awful--I'd much rather remember her living--her laughter, movements, voice....

My mom lost her brother the next year and I was a bit relieved when mom said I didn't have to go. That's not to say I didn't grieve in my own way--I missed him, still do.

It's hard. VERY hard.
{{I'm here for ya if you need anything at all!}}

[lizbud]

Wolf_Q,

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your grandpa

Hugs from Liz & Moki

[Cookiebaker]

Dear Amy, I'm so sorry about the loss of your Grandpa. I will be keeping you & your family in my thoughts... Take Care....Anna

[ChrisH]

Amy, I am so sorry to read about the loss of your Grandpa. I can understand how you feel, because I have to face up to having a lot of my family, the ones I knew, on my Mothers side, die over the years. Aunts, Uncles, Grandad, My Mum, and also the death of my husband, Fred. I still miss them all, especially my Fred, who never got to see his grandchildren.
Even though faith helped me through the grief I have to say not one of the funeral services did and I vowed after Fred died never to go to one again. I had to break that vow some years later when my nephew died, by his own hand, I went because I was needed, not to go would have hurt my brother and his wife so much. But I hope that I never again have to break that vow.
Amy, your Grandpa sounds like such a lovely man, I really do feel that he, like all of our lost ones, live on, in our hearts and memories. Keep him close in your heart, and one day you will be telling your children and grandchilden about the camping trips and jerky and all the other things, big and little, that will make a real person out of the man in the pictures.
I still cry sometimes but I just as often smile too, thinking of some event, words or funny thing that was shared. I hope that soon for you too, smiles will replace many of the tears. God bless and take care.

Love and big hugs
Chris

[ramanth]

((((AMY))))

Amy, I understand. I was at a funeral yesterday for my Great Aunt Francis. The family was sad to see her go, but she was 90, and while her mind was intact, her body had given up and she wanted to die. I'm happy she's no longer in pain.

The service was nice.

I lost my grandpa who I was really close too last April and I still grieve. I miss him so much. It's just not fair.

I'd be SOO pissed if someone brought a camera to a wake and funeral.

Actually, when my second cousin's wife passed away suddenly a few years ago(she was in her 40's), someone brought a camera to the luncheon after the funeral and wanted to get group family pictures because, "It's the only time this year the whole family will be together." ohhh I wanted so bad to say something but mom and I both refrained.

And then they have the nerve to get upset because "No one is smiling!" arrgghhh!!!!!

Amy, I am so sorry for your loss. Time does heal the pain, but it still sucks.

[wolf_Q]

Thanks everyone...I really appreciate all of your kind words so much.

I never knew my Grandma on my mom's side, and my Grandpa died a few years ago...that was hard too, but I did not know him as well as this Grandpa. I feel so bad for my Grandma now, all alone...she was very dependent on him...

My Grandpa had Parkinson's for several years, and the past few weeks he was very sick in the hospital. He died very peacefully at home.

p.s. My uncle is one of those really religious/preachy/RUDE people who think they are perfect and judge everyone around them....I'd like to tell him that people like him are the reason I don't go to church.