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    Mediation/Arbitration????

    Has anyone used mediation/aribitration in divorce?

    We are approaching the "dark side" to see if he would participate in it to get this thing over with.

    We sent a letter and settlement to the "dark side" over a month ago and no response. My lawyer suggested we try this avenue before court. This things been ongoing for getting close to 2 years now. It needs to end. There's a couple of doggies at the local rescue that I know would love to live with Cali, Diego and I. Need to be done, need to get a house and out of the condo and make some doggies really, really happy.
    Gayle - self proclaimed Queen of Poop
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    Quote Originally Posted by Queen of Poop View Post
    Has anyone used mediation/aribitration in divorce?

    We are approaching the "dark side" to see if he would participate in it to get this thing over with.

    We sent a letter and settlement to the "dark side" over a month ago and no response. My lawyer suggested we try this avenue before court. This things been ongoing for getting close to 2 years now. It needs to end. There's a couple of doggies at the local rescue that I know would love to live with Cali, Diego and I. Need to be done, need to get a house and out of the condo and make some doggies really, really happy.
    This is all dragging on too much mate. It must be taking it's toll on you emotionally.
    I'd give the mediation a go, and maybe some orders can be issued that must be complied with....or else !!!!


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    I'd say to give it a try. At this point it couldn't hurt. This guy is a piece of work. Sounds like he's only doing this to keep you guessing.

    Would be wonderful for you to be able to start your new life in your own home with Cali, Diego and maybe a new friend.

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    Sorry, I don't have any experience with mediation or arbitration.

    It sounds to me like he's dragging it out to torture you -- and because he thinks you'll want to get it over with and resolved so badly that you'll agree to his unfair demands.
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    I can't imagine going thru all the crap that you're going thru. When I got my divorce (uncontested), I paid $100 to file the papers with family court, and I had my divorce decree in the mail in less than 2 months. My ex even reimbursed me half of the filing fee. You can tell he was heartbroken over the whole thing - right???
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    I don't like the sound of this either. Not one bit. Trust your instincts and follow through with the most rational plan ya got. Then get a restraining order or move as far away as possible so you never have to deal with his sorry ass again.

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    Gayle, I have no experience either. I wish there was something to charge him with, or a court-mandated psych evaluation.

    If anything - arbitration. When the arbitrator sees the facts - financial and otherwise - in front of them, it will be a no-brainer.
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    Thanks for the comments and support all. Yes Wom, it's taking a huge emotional toll. I found an outlet in running and I'm now up to 10 kms at a stretch, any less and it's not enough to make me feel better. But even that isn't enough to stave off the depression and frustration. I'm not giving up, I know that's what he wants and its NOT GOING TO HAPPEN! I gave up enough during the marriage, I'm done with that. So we will try this and see, maybe he'll settle rather than take his chances on mediation/arbitration. If not and he won't play ball it's off to court we go. We'll see how sympathetic a Judge is to his plight then! I'm already in for over $15,000.
    Gayle - self proclaimed Queen of Poop
    Mommy to: Cali (14 year old kitten)
    (RB furbabies: Rascal RB 10/11/03 (ferret), Sami RB 24/02/04 (dog), Trouble RB 10/08/05 (ferret), Miko RB 20/01/06 (ferret) and Sebastian RB 12/12/06(ferret), Sasha RB 17/10/09 (border collie cross), Diego RB 04/12/21

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