I knew this would happen..

[Taz_Zoee]

Along the lines of what Laura said. If they can't understand what you are saying about keeping your son and letting him visit on weekends, then maybe you have to tell them "it's weekends or nothing". I know you don't want to do that. I know you want your son (and daughter) to see their grandparents. But they are the grandparents, NOT the parents.
What angers me is that your MIL makes it sound like you can't raise him good enough and you will cause him to be confused. I think, having just lost his father, losing his mother would be the most confusing thing EVER.
You have the right idea, stand your ground now or it will just be more difficult down the road. Maybe once things settle a bit they will understand and you can all come to an arrangement of when they can have the kids visit.

We are here for you Isabel. You know you can count on your Facebook family. Hang in there! Hugs to you.

[lvpets2002]

I am so sorry that you are having to deal with the inlaws like that.. I will have to aggree with others.. Hang in there & Lots of Huggss..

[Pembroke_Corgi]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I don't understand what your in-laws are thinking, since what your son really needs is his mom and like you said, to get into his new routine. It sounds like they aren't thinking straight right now...you need support, not more drama. I hope things start improving for you soon and you can get them to see reason.

[smokey the elder]

I'm with the "weekends or nothing" crowd. They don't need to keep making more drama for you. They're grieving, sure, but they don't need to dump on you too.

[wolf_Q]

Wow Isabel, I'm so sorry they are treating you this way. You've dealt with enough. He's YOUR child, of course you want him to live with you, you're his mom. I hope they come to understand this, sorry that you have to go through all this. {{HUGS}}

[cyber-sibes]

Oh Isabel, having dealt with wacky in-laws thru a divorce, I can relate to how crazy-making this can be. Bottom line; You may need to be blunt and remind your MIL over and over that as his Mother YOU decide where and when he goes somewhere. "Weekends or nothing" option sounds fair enough, as long as they play by YOUR rules, not the other way around.
I wouldn't even give the car thing a second thought - its your car to do with as you see fit, certainly not something you need to be stressing out over right now. Sending you good thoughts-

[kitten645]

Isabel, I can't imagine your pain or your sons. But as you've said before you are gaining your strength for him. Be strong and don't let others manipulate your life despite what they believe to be best intentions. You know what's right for you and your children. Karen said it best. Know that we are all behind you. You deserve all the best.
Claudia

[Daisy and Delilah]

{{{{{ISABEL}}}}}

I wish you all the best. You have been through enough already. Your MIL needs to have some respect for you and let up on soothing her feelings. Stand your ground!!

[krazyaboutkatz]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I don't understand what your in-laws are thinking, since what your son really needs is his mom and like you said, to get into his new routine. It sounds like they aren't thinking straight right now...you need support, not more drama. I hope things start improving for you soon and you can get them to see reason.

I agree. Please take care. (((HUGS)))

[Catherinedana]

Their behavior is disgraceful and they should be ashamed of themselves. What exactly do they want, to take the rest of your life away? If it were me, I would not allow them to see their grandchild at all, and with all the harrassment, I would get an order of protection for him and myself. . .that is for me. Have them buy you out as far as the car is concerned and be done with them. This will never end. People like that never change. Sorry for the harsh words but I have seen this time and time again and it enrages me. Sometimes you cut your loses and walk away. . .this might be one of those times.

I hold you in my heart, dear lady. I hope that you can heal and be happy once again.

Cathy

[Sonia59]

Oh, why do people have to be like this? I can't understand their reasoning. I don't know what to tell you, but you are fully right, of course. Don't let them take too much "power" on you, because then it will be even more difficult. You did right taking your son back, there is no reason that he spends more time than the week-ends at their home. And for the car, it's amazing! If they are in such pain, the first thing they think about should certainly no be about trying to get some money from it!

[Freedom]

Gosh, Isabel, MY head is reeling, just reading and imagining all you are going through. I am sorry this "blew up" as it did.

One thing you learned: don't volunteer info to them. Thy asked when you are taking the car, say as soon as your things arrive, whatever. But volunteering that you plan to sell it, that jut started another issue. They don't need to know. This is not easy to do, it is in our nature to chat with folks about our plans. Not with these people, at least not for a while. Protect yourself, limit the things they can "jump" on.

I think of you multiple times daily, and pray for you as often. Hang in there, Isabel.