This is my quandry.

[Pinot's Mom]

Richard, I am no lawyer, but it all smells fishy to me.

My thoughts and prayers are with you; I wish there was something I could do.

[Freedom]

NO will,

Oh Richard, I am so sorry! This is what started the whole mess.

I really encourage everyone to ensure their folks make a Will, to avoid any problems. And once you are married, have children, own property -- any of those! -- you should have a Will in place as well.

[RICHARD]

I have been through 2 probates. One I was executioner. I had to account for every last penny. Your brother will be in big trouble if the 20,000 goes unaccounted for. You do have recourse. I would call the attorney handling the probate.

I killed myself to pay the property taxes on both properties while he was living it up on the cash, I would have been able to have paid off her bills, the PTs and had money left over to give to the court.

I knew that he would have to account for the cash, as a matter of fact? I prayed for the day when it would come back to haunt him. He also closed out a bank account and took all the jewelry off my my mom before the body was cold.
When, I asked him to let me see it so I could take an inventory I got three stories.

The jewelry was taken with her body and cremated-idiot forgot I worked in a hospital and know this is not true, My sister took it, and it was put in with her ashes.

LB,
IT's six kids in the share and the property we want to sell is less than the property we want to keep.

I was hoping to present the proposal to the court and even offer them a percentage of the house for the money we would not have for the buyout.

They are only interested in the cash and my side is looking at the long term and keeping the house as an investment.

[Bonny]

We applied for a federal ID number besides & like Caseysmom said I had to account for every penny with a special estate checking account that was set up at a local bank.

[caseysmom]

I just corrected my post I said I was the executioner..lol I meant executor...

[caseysmom]

I went through the same thing when my mom died Richard I wanted to keep the house and everybody else wanted the money.

[RICHARD]

I just corrected my post I said I was the executioner..lol I meant executor...

I saw that and kinda glossed over it.

Actually?

I was keeping it in mind.

[wombat2u2004]

Sorry to hear about the trouble you are having mate.
Hang in there, and keep a paper trail. Keep all emails and write down dates etc etc....it's good ammo in court.
Wishing you the best of luck with this one, hope it comes out your way.

[RICHARD]

Sorry to hear about the trouble you are having mate.
Hang in there, and keep a paper trail. Keep all emails and write down dates etc etc....it's good ammo in court.
Wishing you the best of luck with this one, hope it comes out your way.

You better wish me luck.

Australia is in the summer season in December and I know you probably have a garage I can live in.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Richard, I am no lawyer, but it all smells fishy to me.

My thoughts and prayers are with you; I wish there was something I could do.

I agree. I sure hope that things will go your way.

[Husky_mom]

I know it´s not the same.. but a lil story..

my grandparents (mother side) also left no will... there are 5 siblings... 4 live in the same state.. one lives in another one.. 3 3 brothers 2 sis..

anyway.. my mom, her sis and one brother were taking care of the house n stuff.. paying any electric, water that was still being charged.. cleaning up a bit because they intended to rent it out..

we (hubs and I even were one of the probables).. anyhow... the other 2 brothers only wanted the cash.. the one from out of state dropped by.. and said the house was his as his father had told him...

my mom backed out.. if they wanted to fight about it.. fine.. sell it.. fine.. whatever...

thing is the house was "supposed" to be remodeled to rent out as offices.. well.. until now the house is rotting.. people have broken in.. and LIVED there for a while until kicked out by police.. needless to say.. no one got nothing out of it.. I mean thankfully noone needed the cash that much.. but in the end they lost it all... if they now want anything.. I think a demolition is in need..

I´m sorry this is happening to you... really am..

[caseysmom]

The night my mom died my sister got in her purse and threw out her lipstick I was devastated...she said well she isn't going to use it anymore. I still think my sister is a cold biatch.

[RICHARD]

The night my mom died my sister got in her purse and threw out her lipstick I was devastated...she said well she isn't going to use it anymore. I still think my sister is a cold biatch.

I still have a bottle of shampoo that my mom had while she was in the Extended Care Hospital.
IT's got her name on it and I refuse to toss it out.

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I have a sister that is an LVN.

Let me preface this by saying that I probably could not have changed my mom's dressings, but I did change them for my dad before he lost his toes to diabetes, So I do understand her not wanting to deal with my mom's condition-it's very painful to see someone you love suffer.


While my dad was dying and ma came home to pass? She never once came to see them or to say goodbye.

I resent the EFF out that.

To this day she will swear that my mother told her never to show up at the house again.

I know that is the biggest lie on the planet.

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Here is one last tidbit in this story.

My mom didn't want to be cremated, she wanted to be buried next to dad.

My sis' boss gave my sister a check to cover the expenses for the funeral.

My brother went into a tizzy and went off on my sister-he took care of all the 'arrangements' - to the point where I could not attend the funeral becasue i was involved in a work dispute/grievance that I could not miss out on.

I asked him to resched the arrangements and he said, "no".

The last time I went to see her plot, she still has no placard on the grave.

I went to see about paying for one and could not because his name is on the
papers when she was buried.

I let it go until now and that will be one of my complaints in addition to the money he took....That was the least she deserved and almost two years later, she has no placard on the grave marker.

whew......

[Catty1]

RICHARD - prayers here that you get answers and a plan of action tomorrow. This is just horrid. I hope your lawyer talks to the probate guy and everything gets sorted out.

Again - notifying you only by email does sound very fishy.

{{{{hugs}}}}

[RICHARD]

RICHARD - prayers here that you get answers and a plan of action tomorrow. This is just horrid. I hope your lawyer talks to the probate guy and everything gets sorted out.

Again - notifying you only by email does sound very fishy.

{{{{hugs}}}}

I have to say one thing about all you all.

I was sitting here freaking out the better part of a week and finally have some room to breathe thanks to you all.

I am literally feeling a whole poop load better.

There are options and I plan on taking my best shot at getting this sorted out.

Thanks again, I cannot tell you all how much I appreciate it and how much better I feel.

To be continued?