Advice - I'm late :`(

[king2005]

I'm just shy of being 2 months late so I'm really starting to freak out (in my head).. I'll be going to the Dr. soon to get checked out so thats not what I need advice on.

IF (I really hope not) I am preg. ummm... how should I tell him, my family, my boss? My good friend is REALLY touchy as she & her hubby have been having no luck at having kids & shes becoming flustered & spiteful towards people who are getting preg & didn't want kids... so I'd have no idea on how to tell her. She wont hate me, but its just another slap in her face & I care a lot about her & her issue.

No worries about abortion I'm not into it esp since my chances are so low to have kids I was told not to have my heart set on any. Which was fine as I'm not really into having kids or being a mother. If it happen, ok, I'll be th ebest mom ever, but if I don't I'm fine with that too.

I'm NOT going to say anything to anyone yet cause I don't know & I don't want anyone to freak out & yell at me, I think me freaking out is 1 too many.. But I've never been late like this. Sure 1 week late is normal, but I haven't had one since the beginning of July

I know Trevor will be supportive as hes a HUGE family guy, but I don't think he wanted kids this soon (he's 25), esp this soon in our relationship (2.5 months). So its really bad timing.

On the positive I have a full time job with full benefits & legally have the right to 1yr off with pay. But still

This so sucks!

[Cataholic]

I would do nothing, tell no one, and go get a pregnancy test to relieve your own mind. If you ARE pregnant, I would make sure you are immediately doing all that you can- eating, vitamins, etc, to give your baby the very best start in life.

I would not begin imagining the next day, month, year, etc, until you know what is going on. Even then, I would take it slowly with distributing the news. There is plenty of time to tell people, you would have another strong 6 months, at least.

Go get a pregnancy test.

[Husky_mom]

it should all be fine.. even if it was not planned it all sounds like you have it all set up ...

lol..I was gonna say one week is quite on normal happened to me.. I wished i was but I wasn´t ... but two months is more likely you are missy.. hehe.. unless there´s some medical issue which i hope not...

touchy subject with your friend... but I knwo she´ll be alright.. a lil frustrated but alright....I´ve been frustrated for so long now I´ll just let it be

before you talk to anyone get confirmation by the doctor.. then talk to Trevor... and you´ll have time to introduce the news to everyone else..don´t worry...

[pomtzu]

First of all, I would get a home pregnancy test and see what that indicates, altho I'm not sure that they are 100% accurate. You say you're going to the doctor soon - why are you waiting? You might not be preg at all, and it could be some other underlying medical problem that might need taken care of.

I wouldn't spazz about it till you know for sure if it's a yes or a no.

If it's a yes, then it's a precious gift that you have been given, and you need to approach how you will deal with it. If you didn't want to get preg in the first place - why didn't you take preventative measures? It's too late to close the door after the horse gets out.....

[king2005]

Thanks for the support everyone. I really do need someone to slap me so I can think properly & calm down...

First of all, I would get a home pregnancy test and see what that indicates, altho I'm not sure that they are 100% accurate. You say you're going to the doctor soon - why are you waiting? You might not be preg at all, and it could be some other underlying medical problem that might need taken care of.

I wouldn't spazz about it till you know for sure if it's a yes or a no.

If it's a yes, then it's a precious gift that you have been given, and you need to approach how you will deal with it. If you didn't want to get preg in the first place - why didn't you take preventative measures? It's too late to close the door after the horse gets out.....

Those home tests can be junk, thats why I'm going to the Dr.

Please don't question my preventative methods, thats really not fair as there is only so much that can be done before it becomes permanent & rendered 100% infertile.. thats not my goal, esp since I accept the consequences... but that doesn't mean I have to be thrilled about it.

[AdoreMyDogs]

Not sure if Canada has Dollar Stores, but go there for a test if they do...they're only a buck and just as good as the expensive full priced ones in the other stores. They're something like 99% accurate so $1 is not a bad price to pay to find out what's going on. They may not be totally accurate, but 99% is close enough to being accurate.

[king2005]

Not sure if Canada has Dollar Stores, but go there for a test if they do...they're only a buck and just as good as the expensive full priced ones in the other stores. They're something like 99% accurate so $1 is not a bad price to pay to find out what's going on. They may not be totally accurate, but 99% is close enough to being accurate.

I saw those once (never again) in a dollar store with my friend. We laughed & took pictures. They looked to be in terrible shape & horrid quality.. to the point of not even being worth a dollar. I would be too scared to trust one of those. They looked like the ones from the rejected bin. Maybe the ones in the USA are better? but my goodness those ones should have been burned!

wait... maybe they are the 1% sticks?

Just posting this is making me feel more relaxed.

[sparks19]

they may not be 100% accurate... but what do you have to lose by taking one? It might give you some sort of idea before you can get into the doctors.

[pomtzu]

Those home tests can be junk, thats why I'm going to the Dr.

Please don't question my preventative methods, thats really not fair as there is only so much that can be done before it becomes permanent & rendered 100% infertile.. thats not my goal, esp since I accept the consequences... but that doesn't mean I have to be thrilled about it.

There are numerous effective and safe methods of birth control. I was just giving you my input and opinion, since you did ask. Sorry if I offended you.

[Karen]

There are lots and lots of reasons you might miss a period or three, but going to the doctor is the best thing to do at this point. Many of them do not involve cancer, or pregnancy, but all are good to get checked out, and to know for sure. Be persistent in finding yourself a doc whom you can understand and vice versa, though at this point, even an appointment with someone with an accent who might have an assistant handy to "translate" would be acceptable, just to get an appointment and a diagnosis.

And of course, eating more veggies is always good. I'm jealous, I am allergic to so many veggies now!

[king2005]

There are lots and lots of reasons you might miss a period or three, but going to the doctor is the best thing to do at this point. Many of them do not involve cancer, or pregnancy, but all are good to get checked out, and to know for sure. Be persistent in finding yourself a doc whom you can understand and vice versa, though at this point, even an appointment with someone with an accent who might have an assistant handy to "translate" would be acceptable, just to get an appointment and a diagnosis.

And of course, eating more veggies is always good. I'm jealous, I am allergic to so many veggies now!

If I can't find an English Dr. this week, I'll lower my standards for next week for someone with a bad accent, but friendly.

I don't think I could live without veggies! I love them sooo much! On the 24th I'm going to St. Jacobs with a group of 30~50 & we're hitting the Menanite (SP?) Market. I plan to buy tons of Zucchini, Butter Nut Squash, Sweet Potatoes, & Beets! I'll stock pile all the stuff Digi can eat & will freeze it. I can get 20 MASSIVE Zucchini for 5$ there! Thats a crazy savings! I just hope I get my freezer in time

[Asiel]

There are many nurse practitioners in your area. Why not try to see one untill you find a doctor. I wouldn't rely on a home pregnancy test if you're not feeling well on top of everything else. If there is an underlying issue it should be looked after as soon as possible.

[king2005]

There are many nurse practitioners in your area. Why not try to see one untill you find a doctor. I wouldn't rely on a home pregnancy test if you're not feeling well on top of everything else. If there is an underlying issue it should be looked after as soon as possible.

nurse practitioners? What that?

[Karen]

A nurse practitioner is a registered nurse who has extra training in the diagnosis and treatment of common medical problems. Often, a nurse practitioner has the all knowledge needed to help someone, and if they do not, they then refer you to a physician, or have one that's also part of that practice see you.