I am puzzled about whether I'm over-reacting (or under reacting) to my pet sitter's comments or not. Would you please give me your take on something that is distressing me.
First off, I like the woman and I'm super impressed with her disaster plan in case their is a major storm, fire, or earthquake when she is responsible for my cats.
When she first began sitting for the kids, I was very pleased with a mini-diary she'd leave describing their activities, play-time, etc. However it's gotten to be something I dread nowadays. After Sassy died, and Livvy came to live with us, the messages seemed to change. It feels like she dislikes Livvy. Roughly 80% of her comments are that Livvy is unfriendly or aggressive to Cassy which is warping him.
Here's what she left for me most recently.
"Day 1: Liv is really being aggressive with Cassy. Cassy doesn't want to come out of hiding at all.
Day 2. Same as yesterday. I did see Cassy long enough to give him a treat."
When I'm home with the kids they ignore one another ~70% of the time, they play together about 25% of the time, and they yowl, swat, and/or chase each other the rest. About half the time Cassy's the aggressor, the rest Livvy is. Cassy is much less playful than he was as a kitten. I think the sitter is blaming Livvy for his change in temperment. I do believe this change is more due to his maturing and the sudden loss of his littermate brother rather than the introduction of Livvy, though.
Not all her diary entries are Livvy related. Sometimes she complains about my housecleaning. Once she complained about a mess Cassy left in the litter pan (? which is where he is supposed to leave messes??). I've become very reluctant to use her because I dread her complaints. Am I being too sensitive? Does it seem like she is too hard on Livvy? Can you spot something that I'm too involved in the situation to see? Could I be in denial about how the kids interact????
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