I don't understand why...

[Queen of Poop]

My best friend's husband committed suicide today, at work. I talked to her this afternoon, she's devastated. I feel so sad for her.

[Emeraldgreen]

I'm so sorry! That is awful.
I'm sure your friend is going to need alot of support right now. I hope she and her family will find a way to cope. It's not always evident when someone needs help. Maybe in time, you'll know more about why he made this sad decision. Thoughts go out to you and to his family.

[moosmom]

Queen of Poop,

I'm so sorry for your friend. Did he leave ANY kind of note??? Suicide is a very selfish act, especially when there's family involved. After my little meltdown, I realized how close I came to "checking out". My first thought was "who will care for my cats???" My situation LOOKED hopeless at the time. But in the end, nothing is worth something so final.

Your friend is going to need all the support she can get from her friends and family.

Please give her my sincere condolences.

Donna

[Medusa]

A good friend of mine committed suicide two years ago. It took us a while before we found out the whole story as to why and it may be that way w/your best friend's husband, too. Sometimes we don't ever fully understand, though. I'm sure you'll be there for your friend and, for the time being, that's all you can do. Prayers are going up for you and all concerned, Gayle.

[Queen of Poop]

Thanks everyone for your comments. I just can't stop thinking about this and WHY. I just feel so bad and helpless.

[Catty1]

{{{{hugs}}}} I am SO sorry for your friend!

I hope she gets an answer to the 'why'...this topic came up in a different way on a recent thread...and though it is selfish in a sense, if someone has a mental illness like depression, you can get so dark and obsessed in your own head that the blinders are totally on. You can't think of anyone or anything else...just you and the black hole.

Sadly, many men don't ask for help, they want to "tough" it out.

{{{{hugs}}}}