I'm at my wit's end with the kids. One in particular. I can't even recount their activities in the past few months --- believe me, its enough to write a few winning story lines for daytime dramas. They HAVE turned violent and hit both me and hubby. They knocked one of their siblings out and gave them a concussion. Hubby kicked them out, and like usual, they came back home right away and everyone pretends nothing happened. This kid needs help! WE need help!

Do you think hubby pushed them to see a doctor and get US a mediator or therapist? noooooo..... that would require actually admitting there is a problem. He seems to take the "pretend its not happening" way of dealing with it.

I'm tired of walking on eggshells. I'm tired of hiding out in my room, and going to work early/staying late - going in on my day off just to avoid this "child". This is MY HOME TOO! I'm tired of fighting with hubby about something he knows I'm right on, something he agrees with me on. Then when it comes time to enforcing it, he chickens out. He doesn't even want to talk about it because he KNOWS I'm right, but KNOWS he's completely incapable of making his kid do what they need to do (God forbid he makes them do something that will make them mad at him! ) When we "discuss" this whole situation, he is constantly telling me to stop telling him things he already knows. He KNOWS. I know he knows. I just can't figure out why he can't implement action for something he knows.

I need a good website for advice and perhaps a place to vent freely with complete anonimity. SO MUCH has happened that I can't even start to admit whats happening here, I'm not comfortable admitting it here where everyone "knows" me.

I can tell you that whatever happens, it can NOT come from me. It HAS to come from hubby. This child will NOT accept anything from me. They pretend I don't exist, which is fine with me because I prefer that to having them unleash their anger on me. I need a website that will help me help hubby see what he needs to do. I need a new tactic. Apparently the hundred tactics I've tried haven't been effective.