Nathan 2

[sumbirdy]

I think Charles should go to the officer who brought the restraining order and say "THANK YOU!"

And he might want to get one against HER as well.

Glad Nathan had a good bunch of candy! Good for you for not letting him have it all!

Charles is getting back Saturday and he called the guy and told him to deliver the papers here so we're getting them Friday. According to this guy nothing was mentioned of Nathan in the divorce papers and isn't it that if the child isn't mentioned they automatically go to the person who has custody of them at the moment? Or am I wrong?

Anyway, I'll try to post pics of Nathan in his costume sometime in the next couple of days.

[sumbirdy]

Stephanie tried to get Nathan today.
Luckily, there was a big NO slammed in her face.

She went to the police station and demanded they go get her son but they said they couldn't do that legally she would have to get a lawyer. So this officer called the house and told mom that Stephanie (actually he kept calling her Samantha) was b****ing about getting her kid back and mom could here her in the background saying that she was going to get Nathan and that she wanted her d*** baby (okay, seriously, who refers to their kid like that?) and so then dad got on the phone and told the officer that she was nuts (which he replied that he had already figured that out) and that she was abusive. The officer asked if Charles still lived with us and dad said yes and so the officer said that was all he needed to know and that there was nothing he could do.
The only thing I can figure out is that Stephanie found out Charles was gone so she thought she could do the same thing again and go get him and when the divorce was finalized she would have Nathan.

[Catty1]

It's good that the police officer knows she's a nut case!

That will be on a report, and if a custody battle ever comes up...I hope S's lawyer will just tell her to FORGET IT.

Like some biological parents - she might get visitation later on if she gets a certain amount of court-ordered psychiatric help...but I seriously wonder if she is beyond that. She might be, and that is sad.

She was probably a happy little 3-year-old once...what the heck happened between then and now?

I'm not on her side or anything...ya gotta wonder sometimes how people get SO unhappy....

Sure am glad Nathan is with you!

[sumbirdy]

It's good that the police officer knows she's a nut case!

That will be on a report, and if a custody battle ever comes up...I hope S's lawyer will just tell her to FORGET IT.

Like some biological parents - she might get visitation later on if she gets a certain amount of court-ordered psychiatric help...but I seriously wonder if she is beyond that. She might be, and that is sad.

She was probably a happy little 3-year-old once...what the heck happened between then and now?

I'm not on her side or anything...ya gotta wonder sometimes how people get SO unhappy....

Sure am glad Nathan is with you!

All I know is that she has been in and out of foster care since she was 4 years old. Her mother was a druggie and couldn't keep a job. As I have mentioned in the other thread we have talked to her dad before (her adopted dad) and he told us that they fostered her several times and she kept going back to her mom. He said she was always mean and lied about everything but he just thought it was because of the instability in her life. He finally decided to adopt her when she was 8 because he thought if he gave her a loving, stable environment she would change. Obviously that didn't happen and he said that adopting her was the worst mistake he has ever made in his life.

About the psychiatric help-she told mom once that she was never going to change-not for Charles and not for Nathan.

Oh, and there's something else I forgot to mention...about a week ago mom saw her in the grocery store with another guy and his baby (we know the baby was his because he looked about Nathan's age and they were black) The guy had his arm around her and she was saying "What kind of juice does mamma's baby want?" I feel really sorry for that kid. Because of Stephanie Nathan has severe emotional issues (he won't go to sleep unless we are holding him, I guess so he can make sure that we'll still be there when he wakes) I wonder what she's going to do to that baby and I hope that guy she was with wakes up and realizes how she is before it's too late.

I just can't wait until this is all over and Charles has full custody and Stephanie is out of our lives. (Hopefully someday she'll be out of our lives, she's like a flea, preventable if your careful but once she's there, hard to make her go away.)



On another note we got Nathan a blow-up Spiderman chair. (Just hope it lasts, especially with the cats around here.)

[sumbirdy]

Stephanie is fighting for custody. We got the papers today and she lied on them saying that we wouldn't let her see Nathan and that we threatened her. She hasn't even tried to see or contact him. She also lied and said that Charles would be able to pay for any expenses Nathan will have in the future. Umm...he's between jobs right now so how is he supposed to do that?
So we're looking for a lawyer now and we have 11 days to find one. I'm basically looking for the lawyer because Charles isn't very bright (to put it nicely) and he has a habit of putting things off or just not doing them and saying he forgot. And this is really important.
Please pray that this all works out for Nathan. He's very happy now and she'll kill his spirit (not to mention she'll probably get really angry at him one day and end up killing him)

I've got to trust God and believe that he knows what he's doing. Maybe this is just His way of getting Charles' attention and saying "Hey, wake up! You have a son! Appreciate him. Fight for him."


"And whoever causes one of these little ones who believes in me to stumble, it would be better for him if a millstone were hung around his neck, and he were thown into the sea." Mark 9: 42

[Catty1]

Hugs and prayers! I hope Charles wakes up and realizes that his new romance won't solve anything - especially when his marriage isn't officially over and custody settled!

[sumbirdy]

Okay, haven't been here in a while (on this thread anyway). So here's some new pics we just took. About everything else I'm not real sure what's happening at the moment but I will update when it's all over.

[sumbirdy]

Well...Good news. They had a court date yesterday to see who would get Nathan during the divorce and Stephanie didn't even show. Charles got full temporary custody ( ) until April when it will come up again. Stephanie gets supervised visitation for 3 hours every Saturday.

Attached is some pics I took of Nathan at the park last Saturday.

[sumbirdy]

Here's some more...

[Catty1]

Good news! THAT will look really good when the final custody decision is made...she wants custody and doesn't even show for the HEARING. WOO HOO!
Glad the visitation is supervised, too.

How is Charles these days?

Those pics are SOOOO cute! Nathan is in the best place!

[sumbirdy]

Charles is actually doing a lot better than he was. Getting away from her abuse did wonders for both him and Nathan. (Nathan is back to being his happy self-aside from a few tantrums. He's back to just waking up once a night-and sometimes he'll sleep through the night. He is walking excellent now and just learned how to walk backwards today!)
But Charles is great and he was VERY happy yesterday when he got custody (as was everyone else)

[chocolatepuppy]

That's great news! Nathan is so sweet and he sure seems to be enjoying himself at the park.

[sumbirdy]

Well, she didn't show up for her visitation today...hmmm....I really didn't expect her to though

[jennielynn1970]

I'm glad things are going better for Nathan and Charles. Looks like Stephanie is just doing all the damage to herself at this point by not showing up to court dates or for visitation. Just make sure to document everything so that you can go back and say this is when she was supposed to be here, we called to confirm it (or whatever), and she never showed. Just so she can't say that you didn't make nathan available for her to see. Gotta love those manipulative types.

[sumbirdy]

I'm glad things are going better for Nathan and Charles. Looks like Stephanie is just doing all the damage to herself at this point by not showing up to court dates or for visitation. Just make sure to document everything so that you can go back and say this is when she was supposed to be here, we called to confirm it (or whatever), and she never showed. Just so she can't say that you didn't make nathan available for her to see. Gotta love those manipulative types.

Yep, we wrote down on the calendar "didn't show"

It was up to her to contact us since the visitation is at our house. She never called.