Free to good home - one mother in law

[moosmom]

I had a mother-in-law once. A real bad alcoholic who used to call my hubby and me (now ex-hubby) at all hours of the night drunk out of her mind. Didn't like her then either. She's dead now. Got rid of the ex too. Happy as a clam now!!!

[kimlovescats]

((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))) Lori!!!! That was a completely rude, hateful, and insensitive thing for her to say!!!!! Good thing I wasn't there, or I would have had to say something .... especially THIS week! My ex mil told my ex before we married that he would not have her "blessings" if he married me. I guess it was a blessing that she passed away before she had to see us divorce!

Jerry's mother really drug me through the wringer early in our marriage. One time upset me so bad that I left her home after blessing her out and started walking home without Jerry or the kids. They caught up to me and picked me up .... AFTER he had a few words with his mother himself. For some reason she believed that I was a snob and thought her "people" were not good enough for me.

[jazzcat]

The other group of people who feel free to comment is my coworkers. I've worked at 3 places since getting heavy and all 3 places felt it was in their rights to comment on my weight. The other day at work, a coworker wanted to show me something upstairs. I we were standing near the elevator so I started towards it. He said "no, you need the exercise. Take the stairs." WHAT?!?! I usually take the stairs 4/5 times. Then we were upstairs and he commented AGAIN about how I needed to exercise more. I challenged him to a 1 mile speed walk and letss see who crossed the finish line first and who was more out of breath. He declined my challenge Just because we might be heavier than thou doesn't mean we're sedentary sloths.

Oh Kim, I could not take that!!! Why do people think it's socially okay to make comments about people's weight? It's the one thing left that isn't covered by the "political correctness" blanket. I think the PC stuff is way out of control but hey if your going to use it, use it for everything, make it socially unacceptable to make fun of weight.

What your coworker did is just another form of harrassment. Jerk!!!!

[slick]

Here are some examples of how my weight has given me "issues".....

Example 1
At work I used to hang around a group of people and we used to go for Dim Sum every month or so. Well I'm no longer invited and through the grape vine I found out why. It's because of weight and the fact that I eat more than the others. You see the others are all skinny minis.

It did hurt me at first then I got smart. These people aren't worth it and now when I see them all headed for the door I smile and say "have a good time". Hey, I work with these people, I don't have to be best friends with them too!

Example 2
When I was growing up my brother had a friend Terry. He was English and him and my brother and some other kids used to hang around together and when we got to be in our twenties we pubbed together. Long story short, Terry moved away. About 5 years ago he blew into town and was over at my Mom's. I was looking forward to seeing him again so I flew over there after work. The first thing he said to me when I walked in the door is "My God, you're FAT!!!" If he ever comes to town again you can be sure I won't be stopping to see him....arrogant bast****

Example 3
This goes back about 10 years and it involves a coworker who is still here. It was her first week on the job and when I was introduced to her he asked me when my baby was due. I quickly thought it out and said "November and I can hardly wait. The only thing is that I don't know who the father is but my baby's colour will determine that!!" That shut her up.

There are people (some PTers included) who love me in spite of my weight and that's enough for me.

Jazzcat, I'm sorry you had to be on the receiving end of that comment. It was truly uncalled for. Same hold true for you Catnapper.

...and to all the rest......we are women and we are beautiful!!!

[shais_mom]

Here are some examples of how my weight has given
...and to all the rest......we are women and we are beautiful!!!

that's exactly right - we are all goddesses!
I mean Slick - RICHARD posted our pic from 2005 on the eyecandy thread!
A few weeks ago - my co-workers and I were talking about how I had looked like I lost a lot of weight b/c I was working out about 3 times a week. (must get back into that habit) and I was thanking them - then the ER brought a Patient down the hallway - wheeled him the room. It was a teeeeny little 90 year old man. I said "we are going to take some pics of your belly today" he said "looks like you need some of your's when are you due?" I said I'm not. He said Oh I'm sorry.
My grandpa used to be rather vocal about my weight especially when I was a child. He got better for the most part as I got older.
I had a lady I was xraying once ask me when I was due b/c I had on a scrub top that had baby angels on it - she thought it looked like a maternity themed top.....
I had a guy IM me on yahoo out of the blue one nite - he was asking me all kinds of questions. He asked me what I looked like - I said brown hair - short - green eyes - plus sized - After 10 minutes from not hearing his answer - I don't know if he blocked me or not - but I responded - That's what I ********** thought - and Blocked HIM!
Not everyone can have as much tact or be as smart as we are. But they can't help it!
This was on the Dr. Phil show the other day. (re-runs)
http://www.clubbounce.net/
altho one of the guests - I don't think I would even qualify for him b/c he didn't even LOOK @ women UNDER 250 pounds!!!

[Husky_mom]

and thats why my fridge reads: I love my HUSKIES........... and not my MIL .....LMAO

Mil´s sure can get very very annoying........... and say the hurtest things..... and have no compassion to tell that at your face!! what a nerve........ been there done that........

so if anyone willing to trade MIL for a dog/cat/bird/etc...... I´ll pay big time!!