Is it possible to friends with an ex?

**Edwina's Secretary** · 03-20-2007, 05:37 PM

I think if you were friends as well as lovers it is very possible. I have been friends with long ago boyfriends. Met their wives....my college boyfriend named his first child after me.

Time and distance have taken their toll on the relationships as well as different lifestyles, etc.

But, of course, it really depends on so many factors....just the other day I asked my husband why he never communicates with his ex-wife. Now the children are grown he finds nothing to talk to her about.

**Vio&Juni** · 03-20-2007, 05:40 PM

Definitely! I agree with Barbara here - when you start dating or when you marry someone it is for something special.

One of my ex-boyfriends is still a very good friend - we went out a few times with him and his wife. We call each other from time to time. If it didn't work out for us as a couple, that doesn't make him less my friend.

**mike001** · 03-20-2007, 05:44 PM

Very possible and very important to remain friends if there are children involved. I voted yes because of a few friends who are split but are great friends. As long as they don't live together they're both great.

**catnapper** · 03-21-2007, 07:45 AM

Most definately. My inlaws were a prime example. They were great friends but shouldn't have ever been married. They always had little affairs here and there during their marriage. When they finally divorced, they both immediately met (aqnd married) other people. When my mother-in-law died, she and my father-in-law were best friends, and their spoiuses were best friends. They always joked that they loved each other but just couldn't live with each other.

**Twisterdog** · 03-20-2007, 09:44 PM

I think it's possible ... but not easy or common.

My ex and I are civil to each other. We decided long ago that was the only way to be, since we have a child together. I suppose you could even say we are "friendly" with each other ... we chit chat for a few minutes about non-crucial things if we call each other about our son. We give each other a hug goodbye when we meet to pick up or drop off our son. But are we friends, in the true sense of the word? I'm not sure. We caused each other a lot of heartache and pain. We obviously could not live together. However, we shared everything for over a decade, including the most priceless thing of all, our child. I think, if I were truly in serious trouble, I could call Greg and he would help me ... and not just because I'm his son's mother. I know I would do the same for him. So, I suppose that makes us friends ... but not even close to the friendship I have with my "real" friends now. I think it's just more of a long, shared past and a child together.

**slick** · 03-20-2007, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by cyber-sibes

In my case, NO.

Me too! I tried being friends with my ex but it didn't work out. Then two years later and for some stupid reason, he asked me out and for another stupid reason, I accepted. Dinner was good but the conversation lagged and when he kissed me good night, that told the whole story. I had absolutely no feelings for him at all...friendship or otherwise. That was in 1990 and I have not seen him since.