All of you Married folks out there!

[Twisterdog]

Wait! hold the phone....did you marry my Hubby????? Cause they seem to have the exact same habits!

LOL ... so how come the two of us combined can't straighten him out!?

Must be a guy thing. lol

Sometimes he will tell me it is not practical that we embark on this project (usually too much work involved). When I suggest hiring a professional he says he doesn't want to because he is quite capable of doing the work himself and it would kill him to watch someone do it and probably not do it as well as he would.

Oh yes, I know that scenario well. My BIL is the same way. My sister and I have a running joke ... whenever one of us mentions some project or idea we look at each other and say, "Nope. Can't be done." because that is her husband's knee-jerk reaction to ANYthing she proposes.

And have you ever noticed that the ONLY thing that lights a fire under them IS proposing to hire a professional to do it instead? I sometimes just get a free quote, and "accidently" leave it laying on the kitchen counter. The project gets done the next weekend. Of course, I have to hear about how he did it himself and saved us umpteen gazillion dollars that I would have spent hiring it done. Ok, honey, yeah sure fine, you're right.

[CathyBogart]

I'm not married to him but I've been living with him for a few years, and I have to say...he does do things that irritate me....like poking and prodding and tickling and startling me until I snap, or saying "WATCH OUT!" any time another car enters the road while I'm driving, but I know I drive him crazy too...by leaving dishes unwashed in the sink, by putting off doing the laundry, or by holding in stress until I can't take it anymore and having a breakdown all over him, usually in the middle of the night.

[Glacier]

OK OK I admit.... I am very messy LOL.

That would absolutely be Stuart's biggest peeve with me! I am messy and I don't give a hoot about changing it! It is far more important to me that my dogs' yards are clean than if the top of my stove is wiped off!

Mine with him is his complete inability to throw anything out because he might need it someday; he might be able to build something with it; he can come up with 100 excuses for keeping junk!! He goes to the dump and comes home with almost as much stuff as he left with! Now that his shop is finished, he can keep all his treasures out there! He's going to be gone all summer/fall. That will give me a chance to take any remaining junk in the house to the SalyAnn!

[catland]

the least he could have done was set the table, or at least got the kids dinner for them!

Did you ask him to set the table?

In all fairness, people aren't mind readers - and don't say "he should know better" - like I said, he's not a mind reader.

Also, how old are the kids? Can they set the table? If they are fairly young, get some indestructable plastic or corell plates. I set many a table when I was young. If this task is done before dinner is ready, then the problem should go away.

Next time he grabs one plate - give him the rest of the plates, give him a big hug, tell him how wonderful he is, and ask him and/or the kids to set the table.

[Twisterdog]

Mine with him is his complete inability to throw anything out because he might need it someday; he might be able to build something with it; he can come up with 100 excuses for keeping junk!! He goes to the dump and comes home with almost as much stuff as he left with! Now that his shop is finished, he can keep all his treasures out there! He's going to be gone all summer/fall. That will give me a chance to take any remaining junk in the house to the SalyAnn!

LOL! My dad and my husband are both like that. My dad has literally gone through my garbage cans when he comes to visit to see if I "might have thrown anything good out." OMG!

They will both keep bent nails, broken hinges, scraps of wood too small to make a domino out of, etc. etc. ... "Might come in handy someday." As if they ever remember where, or what, it is when they might need it eight years from now.

Did you ask him to set the table?

In all fairness, people aren't mind readers - and don't say "he should know better" - like I said, he's not a mind reader.

Well, I don't know about CritterCrazy and her hubby in this situation, but if it were me and my DH (which it's not, he's actually very helpful about things like that), I would have to say .... as an adult, one doesn't have to be a mind reader to know that tables have to be set, that children have to eat, that dinner doesn't magically cook itself. Common sense ... I think the fact that the rest of the family has to eat, too, is a total no-brainer that anyone should know. Just MHO ...

[Husky_mom]

oh boy oh boy..........gotta make time to write it up.........

I´m not perfect either......I´m messy, lazy and whatnot.......but one thing that really gets on my nerves.......is my hubby´s temper, besides the not listening thing (why do they have such a short attention span, I believe puppies have more than they do :P) and a much much more that almost everytime gets me (I tend to also stock thing up until I can no longer contain it) is what he claims as his "privacy".......I understand we all need our own private stuff but what bothers me is that some of that includes women.....(work stuff and that) but still I know nothing about them and him claiming private just gets me and BAD!!......how could I not, I mean I trust him but that I consider should not be "private" unless you want me to think otherwise that just "work" you know.........and to top it all, that he gets mad at me for snooping on his stuff......(I also understand the madness about that but not on the subject of othe women)......

I have my own private stuff but that does not inlcude men, and every men I met he knows and that inlcludes their intentions and that I mark my line.....I´M MARRIED YOU KNOW!! and he for not being rude might let them think he´s fair game!!......I HATE THAT!!! the most!!!

I can go on a bit more but boss is here........b back later.......arrrgggg MEN!!

[Pembroke_Corgi]

Let me start off by saying that of course Eric's good traits outweigh his bad- or I wouldn't have married him!

That being said, there are things that really annoy me about him. First of all, he is TERRIBLE with money. Awful, and it drives me crazy. He always desires something expensive that I couldn't care less about. He always claims he will "save" for it (he can't save a dime to save his life) but then finds some "deal" that he can't pass up so he'll spend the rest of his paycheck on it. His latest is a projector that he bought this weekend. But, I know I spend money on other things, I like to travel a lot and go home to see my family, and I have the vacation time to it, when sadly he doesn't. So it evens out...I don't care too much as long as we always have enough to pay the essentials.

Another thing that really bugs me is how much he worries about his health. I'm not advocating that he ignore things, but he makes thing worse by obsessing over them too much. Then, if I dismiss his concerns, I'm insensitive, so I just listen but try to focus on the positive.

I know there's a lot of other things that bother me, but those are the most annoying to me. I'm sure I have tons of annoying habits, too.

[Sophist]

Eep!


Well, as a newlywed and a super-difficult person to live with, I am not going to join in here.

In addition, I have made a resolution not to bad-mouth my husband publicly. It is always a little scary to me how when groups of women get together, it so very often deteriorates into a b****-session about their men. If it bothers me, I write about it or tell him, but I will not trash him to my mom, sisters, friends, coworkers, etc. Been doing this for several years now (back when we were just best friends and dating) and so far it works very well. It may be hopelessly naive to think I can sustain it forever, but so far it works.

In fact, I always try to throw in something nice and random about him when the sessions start up. Finding a way to compliment him to others and having them all tell me what a wonderful thing it is has really helped me several times when I was beginning to take him for granted, or was just being pouty.

So, with this resolution in mind--- it is crazy what a fabulous baker my husband is. Cheesecake, coffeecake, shortbread and lemon squares are what I have him make the most often (yes, he takes requests). He even made our wedding cake, and everyone said it was fabulous. I was too sick with the viral flu to have any, so when I was finally well enough to go back to work, he worked like a mad man the whole nine hours (and had done prep work before while I was too sick and tired to notice) and re-created it for me, so I could enjoy some of my wedding cake (well, as close to it as I could get, lol).

And trust me, if you had ever tasted this man's cheesecake, you would have been willing to marry him, too!

[catland]

Cheesecake? you are lucky.

I'm lucky too. My husband is very handy - he can do electrical work, plumbing, sheetrock, you name it. We've spend very little $$'s on home repairs over the years because he can do it himself.

[critter crazy]

Did you ask him to set the table?

In all fairness, people aren't mind readers - and don't say "he should know better" - like I said, he's not a mind reader.

Also, how old are the kids? Can they set the table? If they are fairly young, get some indestructable plastic or corell plates. I set many a table when I was young. If this task is done before dinner is ready, then the problem should go away.

Next time he grabs one plate - give him the rest of the plates, give him a big hug, tell him how wonderful he is, and ask him and/or the kids to set the table.

It is something he has done since we have been married, and we have discussed it numerous times! It is not something he just did this one time! Hence his Nickname "One Way" .My kids have set the table numerous times. The setting of the table wasnt the real issue, the issue was that he thinks of himself first, and foremost, and that is not okay with me, and he knows it. The kids come first.

[CathyBogart]

My man is a massage therapist. Can you say bliss?? Sophist, I'll trade you a massage for a cheesecake sometime!

[king2005]

I'm not married, but the 3 of us act like a married trio (the guys are married, I'm the single third wheel lol).

Andrew grew up with a silver spoon in his mouth, so he has NO cooking, cleaning, or common sence skills at all... He thought mopping the floor was putting water on the floor & moving it around with the mop.. no cleaner, just a huge lake on the floor

He said he wanted to help me cook KD one night... I knew his skills & asked him to boil water.. he got the biggest pot & FILLED it... heres the kicker... he didn't turn the stove on

My only issue with Chad is when I have to wake up him.. today it took me 20 mins! I was jumping on his bed, play punching him, sitting on him, tickling him, poking him, back rub, pulled his ear, flicked his nose, waved the blanket to make him cold... What got him up was when I was jumping on his bed.. he was laughing, then grabbed my calves & I fell on him.. that got him up lol ok its a lot of fun waking him up, cause I love jumping on his bed, but 20 mins is a little long When I have to wake Andrew up, I walk into the room (praying they are wearing undies at least!!), then slap his leg... He gets up really fast cause he knows when I wake him up, he slept in (hes not late for work, just later then what he wanted) lol

Men
ok ok ok I know they have a huge list on me, but its all good fun

[KitCat]

Whatever attracted you to your mate is the same quality that annoys you the most. Like 2 sides of a coin, there is the positive attribute that attracted you but there is a negative side to that attribute as well!
Example: My husband is very intense, and basically that's how he got me. However when he is intensely focused on other things, I find that very annoying and I prefer his focus on me.

[CathyBogart]

You know KitCat, I think you're right. I fell for Mike because he's very caring and compassionate with everyone....and one thing that bothers me is when I'm having trouble doing something he'll come over to "help" and end up taking over. Maybe I shouldn't mind so much, it sure takes a lot of the workload off of me.

[jackmilliesmom]

I love my husband dearly and would not change him for the world BUT he does have some really strange habits like waits until breakfast, lunch or dinner is ready or its a weekend and I might like to do something together like go for a meal order a chinese or go see a film but no John "jackmilliesdad" just has to find something to do like write up what he has done for the day or hang a piece of cornice or make a cabinet or do anything to the house for which I am completely grateful but he always does it at meal times whenever I am about to serve up food, or on a weekend when it is my only time off too and I would love to even settle down with a chinese and a good movie and a nice bottle of wine we always work until 10 or 11 at night getting things done and then up at 5 the next morning to get more things done just once maybe even this weekend I might just tie him up and gag him and make him come with me somewhere or just sit down and relax.

Hell people even in his sleep he is working and that is not a joke he is making something or worrying about a leaking pipe on a job he worked on that day (that was not his fault but it plays on his mind anyway) and is having full conversations so whats a girl to do.....??????

Hey I even woke up on the day after St. Stephen's day and the stairs was gone and I was left with a ladder to climb down and within 2 days we had a stairs and he was varnishing it by New Year's Eve honestly I need to tie him down.....