It's OVER

[king2005]

I'm so proud of you! *HUGS*

Thanks everyone for your kind words and support. I was mostly doing ok today, but now I'm feeling...really I don't know. Just sad. Very, very sad.

I know its hard, I wish I could say you'll feel happy really soon, but thats usually not that case. I'll take a while to really get over it. But once you can everything behind you, you'll really start to enjoy everything again!

Its almost a year for myself & I can tell you it wasn't easy. However I wasn't strong enough to leave. Luckly he had found someone else & kicked me out. I have some perm. damage from being hurt, so your very lucky you did something when you did.

HUGS

[pitc9]

So many women stay in an abusive relationship because they don't have a good sense of their own self worth. Congratulations to you for finally taking a stand to take care of yourself.

Couldn't have said it better!

{{hugs}} to you!
And {{hugs}} to Sasha for helping you through this!

[emily_the_spoiled]

Congratulations Gayle,

It is always a difficult decision and never an easy one, but it is the right one. You and Sasha will be much happier without having to be in fear all the time.

You did good kiddo!!!

P.S. You can order that book online (and then you don't have to go out in the snow )

[Queen of Poop]

P.S. You can order that book online (and then you don't have to go out in the snow )

Yes, I could. But the book is only $9 and the shipping/handling is half of that again.

[kuhio98]

Gayle ~ I beg to differ. It's not over.

The good life for you and Sasha is just BEGINNING!

[Catty1]

A loss is a loss, no matter what. This site is gentle and wise, and is worth having an amble through...there is a section called "The Tasks of Grief", which I like.

http://home.att.net/~velvet-hammer/grief.html

Also, there is a book available at Chapters called How to Survive the Loss of a Love by Harold Bloomfield, M.D., Melba Colgrove, Peter McWilliams (sometimes listed just under Colgrove's name)

"How to Survive the Loss of a Love is the most directly helpful book on the subject of loss ever written. Clear, simple, comforting, inspiring -- it gives the reader what he or she needs at each step in the process of recovering from a loss.

The first edition, published in 1976, sold nearly 2,000,000 copies. This new hardcover edition -- completely revised and expanded -- encompasses not only the medical and psychological advances in the treatment of loss, but also the author's own experiences.
Since the first edition they have had, among them, the death of a parent, a major stroke, two serious car accidents, a bankruptcy, a lawsuit and the valley of the shadow of divorce.

How to Survive the Loss of a Love makes a loving, caring gift -- for another or for yourself. As The Writer's Newsletter suggested, "It's the kind of book you should hand everyone who's lost a friend, a lover, a mate or a dream."


{{{hugs}}}

[dukedogsmom]

I've been there, minus the police and abuse to me. The abuse was to Duke. The only thing different is I moved out and back to Florida. I know how hard it is. But you get to a point where you've had enough and finally find the strength. It's hard to work through because you do have mixed emotions about the decision. In the long run, though, I never regretted it. I hope you feel the same way one day.

[borzoimom]

"Musical: My Fair Lady
Song: Without You

Eliza (singing):
What a fool I was, what dominated fool,
to think that you were the earth and the sky,
What a fool I was, What an elevated fool,
What a mutton-headed dote was I!
No, my reverberated friend,
you are not the beginning and the end.

Professor Higgins (speaking):
You impetant hussy there's not an idea in your head or a word in your mouth that I haven't put there.

Eliza (singing):
There'll be spring every year without you. England still will be here without you.
There'll be fruit on the tree.
And a shore by the sea.
There'll be crumpets and tea without you.

Art and music will thrive without you. Somehow Keats will survive without you.
And there still will be rain on that plain down in Spain,
even that will remain without you.
I can do without you.

You, dear friend, who taught so well,
You can go to Hartford, Hereford and Hampshire.

They can still rule with land without you.
Windsor Castle will stand without you.
And without much ado we can all muddle through without you.

Professor Higgins:
You brazen hussy,

Eliza (singing):
Wihtout pulling it the tide comes in,
without your twirling it the Earth can spin,
Without your pulling it, the tide comes in
Without your twirling it, the earth can spin
Without your pushing them, the clouds roll by,
If they can do without you, ducky, so can I
I shall not feel alone without you
I can stand on my own without you
So go back in your shell
I can do bloody well
Without. you..