Am I too hard on him?

[tikeyas_mom]

so he has a job now then? Whats the problem? is it not a fulltime job?.... I could understand that being very frusterating if he is working, but not bringing in the decent amount of money that he COULD be earning>..You say hes a druggie/partier... Do he does life threatening drugs, and goes out to party all night on weekends? yikes, thats not good at all... Is Ashley your daughter?... Is this fella her boyfriend/husband?

[AbbyMom]

Kim

I can't seem to remember...how old is he? There's a lot of difference between a 17-year-old and a 20-year-old.

I would like to believe he's continuing to grow up.

At least he's got a full-time job. The bum my niece lives with has never held a job for longer than 5 days. Keeps getting fired for being lazy He's 24 or 25 now. Now that's a BUM!

[NoahsMommy]

You asked: Can a bum really change?

I wish you'd see it a little differently. Instead: Can a boy become a man?

The answer is yes. And a pat on the back and a few comments of appreciation and recognition by you guys will go a long way towards making that happen.

What have you got to lose? It won't cost you anything. And if it will help him have a better relationship with his child, it's the right thing to do.

This is what I was trying to say...you said it WAY better and well, just WAY better.

[catnapper]

Thanks guys.

I really would like to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'd love to see him become the man he is destined to become, if only for his son's sake.

He's 20 years old, Ashley is 18. I swear sometimes that she is worse than he is! She spends so much time playing on the internet. I am ready to put parental controls on all the computers to block AIM and myspace. She plops him on the couch and expects him to be happy to sit there while she plays online. Then she gets frustrated when he cries for attention. She already relies heavily on TV to babysit him for her. This kid is going to be one of those holy terrors in stores because she'll give in to him just to keep him quiet, instead of doing the hard thing (which coincidentally is the right thing)

I guess its easier to hate him rather than fight with Ashley since she's the one who lives here while the father only comes to visit a few times a week. I am trying to view the situation and learn from my past mistakes and move forward in a manner that is best for Cameron. I never said I'm perfect

[Catty1]

I liked Kuhio's idea of rewarding good behaviour. Words of encouragement, etc.

The idea of a boy becoming a man.

Ashley doesn't seem to have a clue...sheesh....

I don't know what it will take. Selling the TV and blocking those net sites?

HUGS