What's the deal? (crossposted by request)

[Catsnclay]

Gosh, please don't take offense by some of the replies

When I first joined, I too felt like you do. Practically no one responded to my threads, but take a simple thread from someone else, and there was the 5 pages! I too was floored, shocked and saddened. But I kept my chin up and kept going.

I do a lot of reading here.....there is NO way I can even read every post let alone answer 50 % of them! I would be here all day long!! I read what sounds interesting to me, and I respond when needed (look at how many posts I have - not many!! I think I've been on PT for 2+ years, and Im not even close to some people that have thousands of posts. If I make it to 1000 by the end of this year, I will be surprised )

I usually eat lunch over PT and therefore do not have the time to spend here like I would.

Don't take offense, don't get mad, actually don't worry about it!! Don't let the little things get to you in life, there are a LOT more things to worry about than people responding to your threads!! lol
Just have some fun!

[sasvermont]

ZZZZZZZZZ

[Randi]

Well, we've had this discussion before - a few times I believe.

It does seem that some people here go out of their way to NOT reply to certain other people’s posts, but then, PT has grown quite big over the last few years. I simply find it difficult to keep up, and I admit that I first look for threads or posts started by the ones I know best, AND for the ones writing funny, informative, or simply well written posts - but I always take a look if a subject is interesting to me, and if I have time, I reply.

When I don’t have much time, I tend to reply to posts which are on the first few pages, then later, I may take another look and find the rest. I don’t bother replying to posts when I can see the person hasn’t made an effort to even spell it right, or is using run-on sentences.

However, there are some examples of members who always get lots of replies, and NOT only people who have been here a long time, or has many posts. Some of you knew John (Jonza), he used to get quite a few replies to his posts, even though he had less than 300.

Cinder and Smoke is another good example, but of course, they have some excellent helpers in Boots, Bowser and Phred. I suppose we all enjoy posts with some substance!

[mruffruff]

I personally will only respond to a post that interests me or where I can offer some help. I rarely look at who started the thread or who had the post ahead of mine.

On some threads, there are already a dozen or more replies that say what I would. And I usually skip threads that have 25 pictures of an animal in 25 similar poses. With dial-up, it just takes tooooooooooo long!

And I skip those argumentative threads. They serve no purpose.

[slick]

Come on people, there are more important things in life than views or posts. Good grief, Charlie Brown.....

double ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ, and please ignore my snoring......

[aki]

Come on people, there are more important things in life than views or posts. Good grief, Charlie Brown.....

double ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ, and please ignore my snoring......

I do think it's a little discouraging to new people who are really trying to reach out and be a part of this. I am guilty of the same things, mainly because I can't come here a lot so I post and run sometimes. Then check back later.

[Sevaede]

Gosh, please don't take offense by some of the replies

When I first joined, I too felt like you do. Practically no one responded to my threads, but take a simple thread from someone else, and there was the 5 pages! I too was floored, shocked and saddened. But I kept my chin up and kept going.

I do a lot of reading here.....there is NO way I can even read every post let alone answer 50 % of them! I would be here all day long!! I read what sounds interesting to me, and I respond when needed (look at how many posts I have - not many!! I think I've been on PT for 2+ years, and Im not even close to some people that have thousands of posts. If I make it to 1000 by the end of this year, I will be surprised )

I usually eat lunch over PT and therefore do not have the time to spend here like I would.

Don't take offense, don't get mad, actually don't worry about it!! Don't let the little things get to you in life, there are a LOT more things to worry about than people responding to your threads!! lol
Just have some fun!

Well, then maybe some shouldn't purposefully try to offend.

I'm *just* venting. So, what types of venting is allowed?

It's NOT about the posts themselves or the views, though. It is about trying to be a part of something, trying to make friends, and then making posts that *need* some sort of reply and then get nothing (and then someone else can post the exact same type of post and get the answers *they* need).

It is about feeling that the community that you are trying hard to be apart of doesn't give two hoots about you, your pets, or your situation.

[Sevaede]

Come on people, there are more important things in life than views or posts. Good grief, Charlie Brown.....

double ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ, and please ignore my snoring......

I do think it's a little discouraging to new people who are really trying to reach out and be a part of this. I am guilty of the same things, mainly because I can't come here a lot so I post and run sometimes. Then check back later.

That's EXACTLY what I am talking about. I have noticed several people try to reach out, join, and be a part of this community. Then, their feelings are hurt because (they *feel*) nobody really seems to give a hoot about them, their pets, or their situations. You can't help but feel ignored when you put effort into helping and trying to get help and it just goes unnoticed.

Thank you Randi, aki, and mrruffruff. Your help and perspectives are wonderfully appreciated.


Again, thank you to those of you who ARE and WERE helpful.

[sasvermont]

Some folks here are devoted to other activities and have real life obligations and responsibilites that need to be tended to each day. They select when and what they look at and respond to while on the net and of course, how they spend their time.

There are choices we all make when spending our leisure time, based on different criteria – possibly time constraints alone, or level of fascination /interests, you name it, and each person will probably have a different standard.

In my opinion, some of the topics being posted are FLAT OUT BORING. THEY DON’T INTEREST ME. They may interest some other folks though. Some of us elect to NOT use our precious time reading and writing on topics that don’t interest us. It’s really simple. It’s a choice.

Example: I am a member of the Hettie 3T washing machine forum. I doubt if many folks here could give a hoot about my washing machine and its troubles. So I spare everyone the stories about my washing machine. If someone wants to PM me about the 3T, fine.

[slick]

In my opinion, some of the topics being posted are FLAT OUT BORING. THEY DON’T INTEREST ME.

Yes, me too...that's why I pick and choose. I would love to respond to all the threads I'm interested in but there's just no time.

Example: I am a member of the Hettie 3T washing machine forum. I doubt if many folks here could give a hoot about my washing machine and its troubles. So I spare everyone the stories about my washing machine. If someone wants to PM me about the 3T, fine.

Oh SAS, you absolutely crack me up. Thank you for my morning laugh.......oops, I mean.....ZZZZZZZZZZZZ again.

[Cataholic]

Example: I am a member of the Hettie 3T washing machine forum. I doubt if many folks here could give a hoot about my washing machine and its troubles. So I spare everyone the stories about my washing machine. If someone wants to PM me about the 3T, fine.

Is that code for something? LOLOL....I would find this somewhat interesting, and, of course, seeing as it was posted by you, I would respond immediately.

Why? Cause I like you. I like your style, the way you don't whine all over the place about who does or does not respond to your post, cause you are 'mature', like me (and, I am not meaning others are immature), and best of all, why would I respond to you, and maybe not others? Cause it is my God given right. Sheesh...kind of like trying to make another kid play with you in the sandbox, you just can't force it.

Seriously, and maybe a bit more gently said: many of us have taken yearS to get to know one another, have built up a relationship over losses, gains, grieving, and joy. We 'know' one another. For someone to suggest, insist or imply that we all have to be "insta-friends", by responding to what might be portrayed as runonposters is a bit insulting.

Who likes whom, who has more posts than someone else, or who replies more/less/too much to others is really pretty much like high school (and maybe junior high) behaviour, something I am quite proud to admit is WAY in my distant past.

Who. Really. Cares.

And, look at it this way. You have now had plenty of people respond to one of your threads, posted in at least two places that I am aware of. Now EVERYONE knows you. Infamy at its best, eh?

[Sevaede]

Is that code for something? LOLOL....I would find this somewhat interesting, and, of course, seeing as it was posted by you, I would respond immediately.

Why? Cause I like you. I like your style, the way you don't whine all over the place about who does or does not respond to your post, cause you are 'mature', like me (and, I am not meaning others are immature), and best of all, why would I respond to you, and maybe not others? Cause it is my God given right. Sheesh...kind of like trying to make another kid play with you in the sandbox, you just can't force it.

Seriously, and maybe a bit more gently said: many of us have taken yearS to get to know one another, have built up a relationship over losses, gains, grieving, and joy. We 'know' one another. For someone to suggest, insist or imply that we all have to be "insta-friends", by responding to what might be portrayed as runonposters is a bit insulting.

Who likes whom, who has more posts than someone else, or who replies more/less/too much to others is really pretty much like high school (and maybe junior high) behaviour, something I am quite proud to admit is WAY in my distant past.

Who. Really. Cares.

And, look at it this way. You have now had plenty of people respond to one of your threads, posted in at least two places that I am aware of. Now EVERYONE knows you. Infamy at its best, eh?

It sure is wonderful to have things taken completely out of context and the opposite of the way you intended.

I am not assuming or insinuating anything. I understand that friendships take time to build. ALL I AM SAYING is that I am putting out the effort to build a friendship and (before this post and the *kind* replies that some folks showed they *do* care) nobody seemed to want to build with me.

I. Am. Not. Complaining. About. Posts. Amounts. Or. Views. I. Was. Using. That. As. An. Example. For. Something. Wah.

It's a matter of trying and having nothing to show for your efforts. But, thanks to the positive PTers, I am feeling more optimistic and realizing that I do have some things to show for my effort.

[sasvermont]

Here is a link to an article on the HE3T washing machine.

swoosh

and here is the forum web site.....lots to offer.... enjoy....

forums



And then there is the oh so facinating laundry forum, itself.....

Hettie / Kenmore Elite washers and dryers......ZZZZ

[Logan]

SAS, if Johanna hadn't asked, I would have! I had never heard of a Hettie washer before.

Wenisrubber, no one is making light of what you said. I think that some of us who have hung out here for a long time now (from since the beginning of Pet Talk) have seen similar posts from newer members, like you, many times over the years. 5 of my best friends in the world, I met on this board. It was not overnight, though. We just naturally gravitated to each other's style. I have limited Pet Talk time these days. I'm trying to do a better job of jumping in more often lately as I missed so much for a while. But yes, you are right, if I have limited time, I'm going to open the post from one of my good friends or someone I'm familiar with first. I know that probably doesn't seem fair in the way that you guys are looking at this, but that's how it is in reality. I am 43 years old. I have a 3000 sq ft home on an acre of land and am responsible for the upkeep of all of that. I am married to a wonderful man who works very hard and there are responsibilities that go along with that too. I have a 15 1/2 year old daughter who is quite demanding and I LOVE that she wants me around. I have two step children who, when they are here, need my attention as well. I have 3 dogs (including a young puppy), a cat, 2 cockatiels and a fish to care for. And I have a full time job, plus various outside volunteer activities that take up time. So when I get a precious few minutes to jump on Pet Talk, I'm going to have to focus in quickly on responding to the posts that I quickly recognize or the ones that include issues that are at the forefront of my mind, then if I have time, I love to read other posts. Most of the time I couldn't tell you who initiated them, though. If the topic lures me in or if it has a lot of responses, I go there (of course many times I also leave as quickly as I got there when it is a heated discussion that goes on and on). I don't know if I have ever responded to a post you have initiated. Sorry, if I haven't. It was certainly not intentional.

I know that there are a lot of us who, at one time or another, felt like we were the "death of a thread". I have laughed over this with several people over the years.

For me, these forums are for pleasure. When they start to get stressful, its time to move on to something else. I have plenty of things to stress me in my life and this is certainly not the place I would come if it was upsetting me. Nor would I go to my other groups if I got upset over them.

I hope that things will get better for you soon. We truly are glad you're here!

Logan

[Sevaede]

SAS, if Johanna hadn't asked, I would have! I had never heard of a Hettie washer before.

Wenisrubber, no one is making light of what you said. I think that some of us who have hung out here for a long time now (from since the beginning of Pet Talk) have seen similar posts from newer members, like you, many times over the years. 5 of my best friends in the world, I met on this board. It was not overnight, though. We just naturally gravitated to each other's style. I have limited Pet Talk time these days. I'm trying to do a better job of jumping in more often lately as I missed so much for a while. But yes, you are right, if I have limited time, I'm going to open the post from one of my good friends or someone I'm familiar with first. I know that probably doesn't seem fair in the way that you guys are looking at this, but that's how it is in reality. I am 43 years old. I have a 3000 sq ft home on an acre of land and am responsible for the upkeep of all of that. I am married to a wonderful man who works very hard and there are responsibilities that go along with that too. I have a 15 1/2 year old daughter who is quite demanding and I LOVE that she wants me around. I have two step children who, when they are here, need my attention as well. I have 3 dogs (including a young puppy), a cat, 2 cockatiels and a fish to care for. And I have a full time job, plus various outside volunteer activities that take up time. So when I get a precious few minutes to jump on Pet Talk, I'm going to have to focus in quickly on responding to the posts that I quickly recognize or the ones that include issues that are at the forefront of my mind, then if I have time, I love to read other posts. Most of the time I couldn't tell you who initiated them, though. If the topic lures me in or if it has a lot of responses, I go there (of course many times I also leave as quickly as I got there when it is a heated discussion that goes on and on). I don't know if I have ever responded to a post you have initiated. Sorry, if I haven't. It was certainly not intentional.

I know that there are a lot of us who, at one time or another, felt like we were the "death of a thread". I have laughed over this with several people over the years.

For me, these forums are for pleasure. When they start to get stressful, its time to move on to something else. I have plenty of things to stress me in my life and this is certainly not the place I would come if it was upsetting me. Nor would I go to my other groups if I got upset over them.

I hope that things will get better for you soon. We truly are glad you're here!

Logan

Ah, indeed. I understand where one opens posts (first) of those who you are familiar with. I think everyone does that, it's just something you do.

I am married and have householdly duties (as I am having trouble finding a job), as well. They do take up quite a bit as I am always doing things two, or three, or four times because if something is pretty dirty then it is too dirty for me to just let one sponge swipe or a once over with a vacuum to be satisfied.

Heh, I am sure I'll be having those convos eventually!

Thank you very much! I am glad everyone else is here. PT is truly a reprieve from, well, a lot of things.