sad thread

[Queen of Poop]

You're in a pickle. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. You need to figure out what will make you happy and will be of most benefit to your children. It's a really tough spot. I've recently read a book that has given me a whole new perspective on living and life. It is called The Hidden Messages in Water by Dr. Masaru Emoto. If read with an open mind and open heart I guarantee it will give you a whole new outlook on life. I can't believe how my way of thinking has changed since reading this book. It's a rather short book with lots of photos. Give it a try before you make any decisions.

[Karen]

Wouldn't you be better off finding hubby a place to rent and kicking him out for a while? If he doesn't care for the animals, he'd have an easier time renting a place. Rather than a "trial separation," have you two had an sort of counseling?

[regpster]

And, lest you accuse anyone of kicking you while you are down, you did ask for opinions, and really, from an outsiders perspective, this seems like a very rash, flighty decision.

This is why I said it

I couldn't possibly offer advice to someone who has such a big problem
that they sign up as another person to ask for it. I think I
know who this is as you have alluded to the problem in other posts. Get
a spine and ask for help if you need it.

It would be better if he left. But he's the one that makes all the money. So I coulnd't afford myself to pay for the house and all that it takes to keep it.

He has agreed to counseling. There is more to the story. But I do hope that it will help.

[Cataholic]

I think you should consult with an attorney, or, a woman's shelter/advocacy group.

Just because he makes all the money doesn't mean you would be left destitute if you stayed in the house. A temporary order would go on, ordering him to pay such expenses until things are sorted out.

However, knowing the financial situation you would find yourself, once you left, I would start making some plans now.

[carole]

I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation, it is not an easy one, with children and pets involved, I really cannot offer you advice, but just want to say I have empathy for what you are going through right now, and i hope you find the courage and strength to do what is right for you, your children and your pets, HUGS.