RB Butterscotch (male)
Skinny (male)
Thumper and Eleanor (females)
All bonded with both us and any one who came to visit us at our house. Spoiled rotten
I believe going by personality more than if kitty is male or female when adopting. You just know standing there holding the adoptees who's going to be "the one" to come home with you.
All ours picked us not us picking them