You aren't overreacting. But I can tell you that your husband is perfectly normal. We've got the same problems in my household. If I let the laundry go or something, he'll be like "What have you been doing today?" And if he cleans something, I never hear the end of it. He thinks he's God after he cleans the house. As controlling as it sounds, I give my hubby a chore list. I don't ask for to much and most of it never gets done, but it at least helps a bit.

On the same line, my first husband was so domesticated that it was sickening. He was a total chick. I'd even have my clothing lying on the bed ironed when I got out of the shower. He cooked all the meals and they were always so beautiful that you didn't even want to eat it. That got old really fast too. I couldn't stand that either. The grass is always greener on the other side.

P.S. I don't know if it is an option for you, but I work full time (when I am not pregnant), so I started hiring everything out. I have a housekeeper that comes. If it takes him to long to get around to a chore, I'll hire someone to do it. He hates spending money like that, so it gets him cracking. I'll be like "If you don't hang these Christmas lights within the next two weeks, I saw an ad in the paper where someone can do it for $50." Even with a housekeeper, there is so much work to be done in the house. I still spend hours everyday doing laundry, caring for the animals, feeding them, etc... I don't have half the free time that hubby does.