John,

I can't really think of a small dog with the characteristics of a Golden. I have both. I have a small chihuahua and a flat-coated retriever. There is a huge difference the two breeds, but I love them both.

Has your son/wife seen a Flat-Coated Retriever? They're just as beautiful as the Golden, and just as intelligent. I have some pictures of mine in one of the threads - her name is Lady.

Let us know what you decide to get afterall and good luck.