Originally posted by moosmom
Have I got a story for you!

When I was married, my then husband and I used to hang out with my very best friend in the whole world from elementary school and her husband. We'd do lots of things together. Then when my husband and I got divorced, I stopped hearing from my friend Susie. I was devastated! I didn't know what I had done wrong, if I insulted her. I had heard through the grapevine that she had two children. I mean, all through our childhood, we were inseparable!!! Then I never heard from her again.

About 12 years after my divorce, I got a job at a law firm and decided to look Susie up. I called and left a message on their answering machine. I got a phone call at home later that night. Susie and HER husband had divorced and his current wife called to give me her phone number. I was overjoyed and a little apprehensive because I really was clueless as to what went wrong. We set up a meeting at her house. I brought my daughter and finally met her two kids. It was a wonderful reuinion, one that I will cherish as long as I live.

Come to find out, my cry baby of an ex-husband went over to their house (they were still married while I was going through my divorce) and cried the blues, airing our dirty laundry to them!!! Susie's husband forbid her to continue her friendship with me because he said I was a bad influence on her!!! I was furious!! How dare my ex ruin my friendship with someone who was MY friend for more years than I had known him!

We lost 12 years of a friendship over our stupid husbands but have gained so much in the end. She was there for me when my daughter was diagnosed with cancer, when my Dad died and I was there for her when her Mom was sick, and eventually passed away 4 months after my father. We even tried fixing my father up with her mother. THAT is a whole other story in itself!!!

Susie and I have since become sole sisters. We talk to each other a couple times a week. She looks after my daughter and they go out have a girls night out every once in a while. Susie was also the one who took my Dad's cat in when my father died, because Tigger didn't get along with my cats.

Now THAT is a lifelong friendship that I hold near and dear to my heart and always will. I love her dearly and would do ANYTHING for her.

My eyes are watering, I get so emotional.
Awww, you have me tearing up first thing in the morning. That is a touching story. I am glad that you and Susie were able to meet up again. You would have never known otherwise.

You know, I kind of expected this out of these friends. They've always been this way. And I guess I'm easy to flake on because I don't ever show my anger. I let them walk all over me. I woke up this morning with a few messges from them. They were all like 8-11pm. They were all basically saying "Sorry I couldn't make it, I was just so beat from all the Christmas shopping."

Oh well. I've got enough reliable friends. I should let the past go and just focus on the dear friends that I do have. My problem is that once I love someone, I don't let them go no matter how far we grow apart. I need to accept that people change (including myself) and that life takes different directions.