Your hubby sounds like a great mediator! I am glad everything worked out ofr the better and everyone will get someting they wanted on Christmas morning. It does seem a bit odd that she won't have gifts Christmas morning, but thats neither here nor there - everyone has their own Christmas traditions.

I was in a similar situation a few years ago when I married a man with three kids and his mom was the primary mother to the kids too. She had her foot in every conversatins, every decision. UGH! I couldn't get anything done without her ok. When the oldest girl started acting up, she cooed to her "its ok, I know you are just trying to express yourself" By stealing $20 bills out of my purse? I don't think so! Thats turning into a Klepto! But I digress again! Its not easy being a step mom, and I warn you that the first year is the doozie. Laura is right that this is the year that you'll set all patterns by how you do things. Putting your foot down now and asserting yourself will save your sanity lter on.

Remember that hubby is definately pulled between you and his mom. He's goping to want to placate both of you, which will be VERY frustrating when you're angry as all get-go and he is supporting his mom. It'll happen, so pick your battles