awww Robyn, I sympathize with that rejected sort of feeling. Dylan, while accepting of the babies, has been *different* since they came here. He does not sleep in our bed at night anymore for one thing He will come still in here if everyone is busy, but does not seem as comfortable in our bedroom.
So, I do most of my Dylan-snuggling in the family room He seems to accept it better that way. I have also brought him to my room and shut the door with no other cats and when he realized they wer not in here he relaxed. Don't laugh, but our BEST snuggle time is....in the bathroom

Then again - Dylan is more a loner and always has been.