Originally posted by tikeyas_mom
um i used to sneak out and it wasnt to do drugs, have sex or drink, it was usually to run up and down streets, swing on swings at the school with my friends, goto the mountain hill and lighting "camp" fires, we would run through ppls night sprinklers in our clothing and have fun.... it was all in good fun..

the worst thing you can do to a teen is accus them of doing bad things.
If they could do that in our area, then we'd be fine. The problem is they can't people are quick to call the cops when they see kids in their yards or on their block (too much gang acitivity) The dealers hang out near the parks and schools - even at that time of night. We have at times called the cops on kids out after 11:00. The cops are quick to respond because they take kerfew very serously here, and ANY kids under 18 out past 11:00 pay big fines.

The sad thing on all this is that she and her friend had permission to stay here and hang out here all night as a sleep over. They both swear all they were doing was hanging out. Why couldn't they do it here? From past experience with her, we are not quite believing her - she has hung out with some doozies of kids. If her brother or sister swore they were just hanging out, we'd believe them in the same situation, but not her. Its like when I was a kid. I had a 1:00 kerfew, but my brother had to be in by 11:00... he fought that HARD, but my parents always said they trusted me. If I said I was going to a late movie or midnight bowling, that is where I was. He could have been anywhere else.

A good parent knows which kid to trust and which ones to not trust. A good parent knows when to believe their kid and when not. Like we believed her about the Halloween incident where she ended up punching a guy. We don't believe her this time, and may not for a long time to come. She will have to earn our trust back. She knows that and thats why she worked so hard today. She knows to not even begin to ask about the driver's permit for at least a year. It won't happen.