I understand! My son just got a divorce and I have 2 precious grandangels and it won't be his time to have them so we have to celebrate on a different day other than Thanksgiving (same with Christmas)
All my grandparents are now gone so aunts and uncles and cousins don't get together any more..it used to be such a happy time..now its come and go IF we can get any together at all...
I'm sorry you are having to go thru this...~hugs